Looking for some guidance 🙏🏼

[Helpamumma]

We’ve been on our TTC journey for over 2 years now, last year we had 3 failed IUI’s and this year begun IVF. 2 embryos were frozen an don our 1st transfer got a BFP which unfortunately ended in my 1st ever miscarriage at 6 weeks.

We have 1 frosty left and understandably I’m terrified of this happening again.

How do you know when your ready to try again? I got my AF bang on 28 days after our loss and was told if I’m ready it can go back in next fortnight.

Grateful for any advice xxx

[Tugsgirl]

Do you mean physically or emotionally? Emotionally only you can know the answer to that. A lot of women tend to feel better with a plan in place as I did after my miscarriages or bfns, something else to focus on. Physically if your cycle is back to normal then there’s no reason not to go again if you feel ready to. Good luck xx

[Helpamumma in reply to Tugsgirl]

I mean emotionally, I know physically it’s ok, iv just lost all emotion to it now. Almost like I’m numb which makes me nervous as that’s not me

[Tugsgirl in reply to Helpamumma]

I got that way in the end too. Battle hardened I called it. I felt like I could just about cope with anything except maybe another miscarriage. I think it actually helped me xx

[Helpamumma in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks, with 1 frosty left I just want to put my best foot forward & be mentally and physically well. Guess I have a lot of thinking and weighing up to do

[Tugsgirl in reply to Helpamumma]

Wishing you well with it all xx

[Hidden]

Agree with Tugsgirl. Physically it’s fairly easy to know - sounds like your body has gone back to ‘normal’ quickly, some take months after MC. However mentally it’s really tricky. Both of my MC the thought of trying again has kept me going so I’ve been obsessed about it and started again as soon as I could but a few days into my last round I realised I hadn’t really taken into account how much this had all impacted me and ended up collapsing a bit. I guess all I am saying is don’t bury your feelings and make sure you grieve your first loss before you start again. Sorry for your loss and masses of luck xx

[Helpamumma in reply to Hidden]

Up until the MC iv kept to positive and had the mindset of keep trying but now I think I’m totally cut of from my emotions and feel almost cold and numb from them. So weird as I’m super sensitive and emotional person hence the post.

I’m so confused as I don’t want to drag this forever waiting game out longer but on flip me being quite literally frozen in fear has me at an impasse 🤦🏻‍♀️