I saw something written (about something other than fertility) and realised that it was just as relevant to us and our fertility journey; so I thought that I would share it. I can't take the credit for crafting it, but it resonated with me, and hopefully with you too.
The only one who can really understand how much infertility has changed you, is someone else with infertility.
The grief you feel is not validated, accepted nor understood by those around you, even in the medical community, because it's often just as invisible as the infertility you live with.
Unless you have experienced infertility, its almost impossible to understand or relate to because after all, generally you 'look ok'.
You can get so caught up in needing people to understand how it feels, especially those closest to you and when they can't, it can feel like such a blow to the spirit and even, like a betrayal.
So let go of the need for them to understand.
They can't, not truly.
Focus instead on what is most important; that they respect the new boundaries that you now need to put in place, to protect your health and your energy.
Be as factual as you can, without needing to justify your choices. Do not apologise for the infertility because it is not your fault.
Instead, clearly explain what you can and cannot do.
If you get caught up in needing them to understand, it will end up damaging your relationships because you feel hurt, unloved and judged. Which will make you put even more emotional distance between you and make you feel even more alone.
You know how you feel.
You do not need to convince anyone else.
People who love you will be willing to respect the boundaries you set and any limitations you have when you communicate with them clearly and consistently.
You are worth it and you absolutely deserve it.
Feeling like I don't belong 
Stealing this thought as I need it
How do you cope with the long IVF waiting times?
Need your thoughts 😞
