Hello everyone : Hi, I hope you are all... - Fertility Network UK

Fertility Network UK

52,472 members57,736 posts

Hello everyone

Kitkat82 profile image
18 Replies

Hi, I hope you are all well .... it’s been a while and a lot has happened since my beautiful boy passed away... but I’m feeling in a much better place 😊

So I’d like to ask if anyone is single and decided to have donor sperm? What happens? How does it all work? I’ve got an appointment in June for a consultation but I’d like to know as much as I can before hand

Much love Cat

Written by
Kitkat82 profile image
Kitkat82
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
18 Replies

Firstly, you are actually incredible. I am amazed at your resilience and courage. You are a true inspiration 💛

I still have a partner, but IVF has had a big impact on our relationship and I / we are also also looking at donor sperm.

From what I understand, the process is very simple. There are a few major sperm banks that even voice recordings of your donor!

Because of Brexit, most clinics in the UK are not accepting sperm from outside the country at the moment. This restricts your choice.

Greece has one of the most relaxed polices and great clinics. Spain is more difficult because they don’t let you have complete donor profiles.

Very excited to hear about your next steps xxxxx

Kitkat82 profile image
Kitkat82 in reply to

Thank you so much for your kind words 😊 I've been amazed at how many wonderful people I have in my life. Do you know how I would go about choosing a donor when I don't have a partner to base it on? Or how they choose? I've not looked into going abroad..... Something to think about xx

in reply to Kitkat82

It’s because you are amazing 💛 I am literally in awe of your strength.

The best thing about choosing a donor without a partner is freedom!! You can choose the genetics yourself :)

Imagine your baby: what does he or she look like? What is her or his personality?

Visualise it and write down a list of qualities you want. A bit like dating, but without any disappointment :)

Then go through the database and find a match. I will send you the link via DM. It takes awhile, but sit back, relax, and slowly go through all the profiles.

Choose one, then order it to your clinic and just be mindful of shipping times. It’s as simple as that ❤️

Kitkat82 profile image
Kitkat82 in reply to

Wow..... Thank you xxxx

Cinderella5 profile image
Cinderella5

Hey Cat, so lovely to hear from you and really glad to hear that you are doing a little better! I cant help with advice but hopefully some of the other single ladies will get in touch! Wishing you all the best for your appointment, lots of love.xx

Kitkat82 profile image
Kitkat82 in reply to Cinderella5

Hello lovely, how are you? Thank you so much xxx

Cinderella5 profile image
Cinderella5 in reply to Kitkat82

Im good thanks! Feels like ages since our loss and itching to get started again. Just waiting on AF and we get set for our next transfer....wishing my life away here as usual! Ha ha haxx

Alicefff profile image
Alicefff

I have no advice to bring but just want to say you I followed your story and you are an incredibly strong lady. I have no doubt you will make it happen no matter which route your choose. All the best with you appointment I wish you all the luck in the world x

Kitkat82 profile image
Kitkat82 in reply to Alicefff

Thank you so much, that's lovely of you to say xx

Hollibob profile image
Hollibob

Great to see you back and still keeping strong!!

Can’t give any advice on DS unfortunately, but I’m sure I remember someone saying to me what the egg and sperm contribute to at the end....

Our DE had a similar personality and life outlook to me, but she’s slightly taller and bigger in build, but I figured hubby is bigger than me anyway and the donor had curly hair..I have straight hair, but hubby had curly hair as a youngster, so all ties in :-)

Wishing you lots of luck x

Rowly88 profile image
Rowly88

Hi KitKat82

I cant comment on your question but just wanted to say so good to see you back. Your an amazing person, so strong and brave.

Wishing you so much luck for your next step xxxxxx

As messaged Cat, welcome back. You are an amazing warrior and so strong. I can't help on the donor egg side but just wanted to wish you well. You really do deserve this to be your time. Big hugs and love to you xx

Kitcat12 profile image
Kitcat12

Hi lovely, I've just read back through your story and just wanted to say I think you're absolutely phenomenally brave. I'm so sorry for the loss of your gorgeous little boy, and wish you all the luck in the world with your donor sperm quest x

Kyell2 profile image
Kyell2

So nice to see you back Cat 😊

I’m not single but we are using donor sperm. There are limited sperm banks in the UK but some clinics even have their own. Or you can choose one from abroad.

Choosing someone who looked like my OH meant our choices were limited but you can just decide what you want and go for it. Wishing you the best of luck xx

precioce profile image
precioce

What a strong, amazing lady you are. So pleased to hear you are in a better place and I wish you every luck for your future treatments. Take care of yourself lovely.xx

Hey Cat, I've often thought about you since your heartbreaking post and have been wondering how you've getting on. Glad to hear you are in a better place. I cannot help with your question but just wanted to wish you lots of luck going forward xx

Elynn profile image
Elynn

Welcome back Kat, you are awesome. Wishing you all the best. 🌻🌺🌻

Jonesjp profile image
Jonesjp

Hi him, I can’t offer any advice, but just wanted to wish you well on the next stage of your journey, you are true inspiration and we on here will always remember your beautiful little boy. Sending you much love and all the luck in the world 😘

You may also like...

Hello everyone

Hi all, sorry I’ve been gone for a while needed time away for a bit... I’ve not stopped thinking of...

Hello everyone🤗

that he got low sperm count and his motility wasn't good either. We have our appointment with the...

Hello Everyone

Hello everyone! Also- tips for waiting?!

ttc for 5 years, married to a lovely man and it all kind of feels like the light at the end of the...

Hello everyone! :0)

partner 6 years ago and a third failed cycle in June 2018 with my new partner. We have been told...