BFN 😢

[Bali88]

So the title says it all really. Our official test date was yesterday and it was a BFN. I just can't believe it. A part of me really thought this would work out and it is just such a setback.

Luckily we have two frosties but it seems we will be waiting at least a couple of months before we can start the frozen cycle and it just feels like this will never happen! 😢

I don't understand how so many people manage to get pregnant without even trying. It's hard to think I had a little blastocyst in me and it's no longer there. It's like I am grieving something that was never truly real in the first place x

[waitingg]

I’m really sorry to hear this 😞 it’s a really difficult time- and it is so unfair. I hope you can take some comfort today and lots of self care.

I find that starting to plan the next stages helped me focus my head a bit, and it’s great you have two frozen.

Take lots of care xx

[Bali88 in reply to waitingg]

Thanks xx

[Hidden]

I haven’t got any advice to give, but wanted to say how very sorry I am for your BFN. It is definitely a grief & you have every right to grieve this loss. FET I have heard are less stressful on your body & I hope that one of your Frosties is your miracle baby 🙂 xxx

[Bali88 in reply to Hidden]

Hope so!! Xx

[Debrakay1704]

it is so hard to say the right thing but sending lots of love. xx

[Bali88 in reply to Debrakay1704]

❤️

[CC2018]

So sorry this has happened. Wishing you all the best for your FET xx

[Bali88 in reply to CC2018]

Thank you x

[Cinderella5]

Im so sorry, BFN's are really hard! We have so much pinned on getting that magic BFP. Try to plan something nice to do together, some kind of treat for putting yourselves through this and to build some strength. Bug hugs.xx

[Bali88 in reply to Cinderella5]

So true. Thank you x

[Poppy_2018]

I just wanted to say I'm really sorry about your bfn, I had the same result yesterday after my first ivf cycle. We pin so much hope on a positive result and it's devastating when it doesn't happen. We need to look after ourselves and take time to process this. I think the follow-up consultation with the clinic will help to get answers, help to plan the next steps and feel like we are moving forward. We too have frosties which gives some relief for now and hopefully our miracle baby. Take care x

[Bali88 in reply to Poppy_2018]

Thank you x

[Ajl46]

I’m very sorry for your loss. If it helps, your blastocyst was there and you do have the “right” to grieve. I’m in a similar position - got a BFN on Monday following an FET. It does take some time to sink in and be able to pick yourself back up. Can you treat yourself to something nice? I found it was helpful to indulge in some of the things you can’t have when pregnant (Brie, coffee, wine!). Have you got a follow up appointment booked? Mine isn’t for 2 weeks but I’ve been offered a counselling session by my clinic which I will take them up on as I hope it will help me feel a bit more positive about future rounds - does your clinic offer this?

Best wishes and baby dust to you xx

[Bali88 in reply to Ajl46]

Thank you! Yes I had a rather large gin and tonic the day I found out. My follow up appointment isn't for a whole month which is rather frustrating. I just wish I could get on with the next stage. BUT we are lucky that we have two frosties so hopefully one of those will bring us some luck!! Wishing you all the best xxx

[Sarahlou01]

I’m so sorry to hear at was a bfn. Give yourself some time and look after each other. Frozen cycles are much kinder on your body, good luck for your next attempt. Lots of love xxx

[Dream_possible]

Me also having BFN before two days it is really shocking me despite it is my first trial but I have low reserve and my husband has azoospermia and our chance was less than10%

I lost a hope and I told my husband I want to divorce and live rest of my life alone and to stay at home until I die

But now after seeing these posts I have hope and I will go for other cycle

I know this might not help you sorry 😭😭😭

[FlowerofLondon]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Know there’s not much that I can say - had the same thing happen to me a few days ago. Chemical pregnancy and logically I knew it was a possibility, it still doesn’t mean it’s not heart wrenching and that the grief isn’t real.

Biggest of hugs xx

[Lots8788]

So sorry to hear this x take it easy and look after yourself x big hugs