Picking up the pieces...

[Lumie]

Hi everyone. I had my 3rd failed cycle a few weeks ago and I feel like I've completely having a meltdown. But whilst having this breakdown, I'm trying to act like everything is normal. I go work that I hate. All I want to do is lie in bed and just hide. I have acknowledged that I have depression and I'm trying to get myself back on track (joining a gym, going to work etc) but it's just sooooo hard. I have 4 frozen embryos so I know I'm lucky but I just can't shake this feeling. What can I do to help this feeling?

[Lots8788]

So sorry to hear this and that you're feeling like this. Can you take some time off work to process everything and take some time for yourself to rest and recharge? Big hugs to you xx

[Lumie in reply to Lots8788]

I guess i may have to soon as I can't carry on the way I am. I'm struggling so much that I can't afford not to take time off. I was hoping I'd be able to cope.

[Lots8788 in reply to Lumie]

Ah hun I'm so sorry x big hugs x this journey is a hard one but we are all so much stronger and complete warriors for going through it x

[Lifelongdream]

I feel your struggle. Have you ever thought to change your job? I know this isnt always a possibility but a change may do you good. We spend a lot of our time at work and happiness and positivity is key. I say all this..... but i dont take my own advice! x

[Lumie in reply to Lifelongdream]

I am waiting to hear back from a job but I gotta concentrate on making things better at this job just in case the other one falls through. Also, I have 1 month notice and I don't even know if I can work that with the way I feel.

[Lifelongdream in reply to Lumie]

I understand. Nothing can prepare us for this and the way it makes us feel. I was so scared and worried with the way i was feeling until i came on here and seen that it effects us all in different ways. It did make me want to hide away but i have found that still going out and meeting up with friends/family can just give you that little laugh all smile just to ease your pain. Do you have support around you? x

[fertmag]

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this, infertility and all the huge disappointments are very hard to handle. It's not easy dealing with depression by yourself (I know this having been through it myself), it's great you've joined a gym, that's a good start. I wish I had spoken to a therapist sooner, can you find a coach or counsellor who deals specifically with infertility? Your clinic, if they are in the UK, should have a list. Apart from the gym, can you go for a walk every day, in a wood or the countryside? Don't be hard on yourself, this journey is not easy, and you need to take care of you for those other 4 frosties. Sending hugs xxx

[strong-girl]

Be kind to yourself believe me ivf takes it out of you and remember the end goal xxx

[Hidden]

I have no advice ( hopefully others will have) but wanted to say so sorry for your BFN. Hope in time it eases & you can move forward with a plan ❤️ xxx