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BFN 11dp3dt - it’s over.

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So I think we’re out - did a test this morning and it was negative. Test day isn’t until Tues but it should be showing by now at 11dp3dt. I’m feeling weirdly calm and haven’t cried yet. I think after all the emotion over the past week and being on tenterhooks with the spotting I’m just spent. There was a lot riding on this as our final round - we may look at donor sperm options next before considering adoption, though not holding out much hope of that working either. This has been such a nightmare and after 5 failed transfers I’m just not resilient enough for another round. Thank you for your lovely support and kind words, this forum is such an amazing source of comfort and advice through one of the hardest things anyone can go through. Xxx

UPDATE: Have done another test today (day before OTD) - still negative. Bleeding full flow now. It’s definitely over.

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Ruby1980

Im so aorry to read this and I have been there but otd is not until Tuesday still 4 days left so keep hope up if you can. Thinking of you. This journey is so so difficult. Big hugs xxx

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hoping-for-the-best in reply to Ruby1980

Thank you xxx

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Missy_22

I am so sorry I really am ☹️ Look after yourself my lovely xxx

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hoping-for-the-best in reply to Missy_22

Thanks Missy 💕 I can’t believe it 😔xxx

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EmGLA

I'm so sorry for both of you, this is terrible news. I agree with Ruby though there may be a glimmer of hope for your OTD. Sending you warm thoughts!

xx

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Dreamingofbaby

Oh so sorry to hear this. So unfair and def is the hardest thing to go through. Know we all here. Look after u xx

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Cinderella5

Sorry to hear this but its not over till its over! Its still pretty early days so hang on in there till test day!! Fingers crossed & hugs.xx

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hoping-for-the-best in reply to Cinderella5

I know there’s an outside chance, but it’s unlikely I think at this stage. Feeling so gutted. Thanks though Xx

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Core

So so sorry to read this, fingers crossed for OTD xx

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emiliajj

Hi lovely, I’m in the same boat my OTD will be tomorrow I have been bleeding since Tuesday I thought it was a good sign but just didn’t stop. I I did a test yesterday 12DPT.Unfortunately BFN

I don’t even think i will get a BFP tomorrow as I have bad cramps and bleeding today.

However you still have until Tuesday things my turn around for you. Crossing my fingers for you sending loads of baby dust xxx

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hoping-for-the-best in reply to emiliajj

I’m so sorry 😔 I’m now bleeding more heavily too so know I’m out. Like you I had hoped against hope when the initial spotting eased off that it might have just been an implantation bleed, but it wasn’t to be. Do you have any frozen? We don’t and have come to the end of treatment, at least in the UK and with hubby’s sperm. It’s going to be a grieving process. Take care of yourself xxx

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emiliajj in reply to hoping-for-the-best

I’m so sorry to hear 😔 I had BFN too this morning my OTD. I know exactly how you feel nothing can prepare us but we just need to keep going and be positive.

I have 3 Frosties left. It was my fresh transfer 2 weeks ago. We might go for Natural FET next time. Your previous FET are they medicated or Natural? Big hugs xxx

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