*sensitive post* 20 week scan

[HollieW]

I had my 20 week scan yesterday and all was well with the baby. However, I have a large placenta so they need to scan me again in 5 weeks to make sure all is okay. The hospital do not seem overly worried but I have of course gone into meltdown and made the fatal error of "googling" it which made it ten times worse!!

I'm sorry I have not been on here much but the anxiety is really difficult to manage as I'm always expecting something to go wrong and for it to be taken away from me. I do try and comment on all the posts from those I follow.

I am so grateful for the support on this forum and wish everyone lots of luck wherever you are in your journey - infertility is so tough xx

[EmGLA]

If the doctor's aren't worried, hopefully you don't have to worry. Maybe just try and focus on the positive part; you get to see your baby again in 5 weeks!!

Best of luck!! Sending you all the positive thoughts!!

xx

[HollieW in reply to EmGLA]

Thank you that's what my husband has said. I'm a worrier anyway so hard not to go into over drive! Xx

[EmGLA in reply to HollieW]

I'm exactly the same, especially when things are out of my control. So I can definitely understand where you are coming from!

xx

[Cinderella5]

Hey Hollie, it sounds like the Dr's are keeping a very close eye on you which is never a bad thing and you get to see your little one again in a few weeks time. It must be such a worry but it sounds like you are in good hands. Step away from the google....yes I know, we all bloody do it and Im never off it but try to stay away, instead write down lots of questions to bombard the Dr with next time you see him, that way you will at least get all the right info about you and baby!!xx

[HollieW in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you. My husband will actually kill me if I go on Google again! Problem is my mother does it too and panics me as well! I know I'm probably over reacting and I just need to relax and wait for the next scan but it's so hard when you naturally worry anyway xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to HollieW]

Im a constant googler so I know how hard it is to stay away but just keep thinking "hubby will kill me"! lol I think being a natural worrier on top of doing IVF and getting pregnant is super stressful. Tell your mum to step away from google, she would probably be upset if she knew she was stressing you too so maybe just a little nudge to say "lets make a pact that we wont google as you're getting too stressed out"!xx

[HollieW in reply to Cinderella5]

You are right. I think I am going to speak to my midwife team though directly about it and hopefully that will give me some peace of mind xx

[Hidden]

Hiya, if something was seriously wrong they would be wanting to see you a lot sooner than in 5 weeks time, they just want to keep an eye on it and check that your baba is doing fine, extra scans are all good too, I had a growth scan as I have asthma as they randomly decided to give me one, and they found a chorioangioma on the placenta which is so rare I'm the first my consultant has seen and baby is fine other than being a little bit small and were being checked on every 2 weeks. If I was you I wouldn't worry unless the doctors have actually said there is an issue xxxxxxx

[HollieW in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. What concerned me was no one really seemed to know what was going on other than its enlarged and described as bulky. Hopefully when I see the consultant at the next appointment I can be reassured all is okay xx

[Hidden in reply to HollieW]

Oh I get you, so it was just the sonographer who said that, maybe you could call up and say your concerned and that 5 weeks is way too long to wait to see the consultant? Your baby was growing fine though no? Xxxx

[HollieW in reply to Hidden]

Yes although she did speak to colleagues and a senior midwife. I am tempted to call my midwife team and see if I can see a consultant sooner. The baby is growing fine and is actually measuring ahead by just over a week xx

[Hidden in reply to HollieW]

I'm sure sonographers and midwife's have no idea about a lot of things lol other than passing on pictures of baby and delivering babies. I wouldn't worry if they had no idea about it, I'm sure the baby is all fine and the placenta is working really well especially seen as he's bigger, mine was about a week and a bit smaller at 20 weeks I don't even think they checked the placenta properly at that scan and my scan after that was 8 weeks later when they found the tumor, so seeing the consultant at 25 weeks is probably a good time xxxxx

[HollieW in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. To be fair it was me that commented on the size and the sonographer was like yes it does look large! The scan was normal other than the placenta but I think with IVF babies you are so much more sensitive to every little thing xx

[ALLY81]

Ahhhh try not to worry stupid thing to say i know!! Im sure you're in the best hands just take one day at a time baby is doing great try and look after yourself xxx

[HollieW in reply to ALLY81]

Thank you xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

Hey hon - great to see BB is doing well. My little one is also measuring a week ahead - we've produced some strong little fellas

Wow, never even knew there was such a thing as 'bulky' placenta but it sounds like they just want to keep an eye on it rather than anything you need to get stressed about (but we do stress, don't we!!) Hope you're doing well otherwise xxx

[HollieW in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Yes my baby is measuring at the top end for everything! The medical staff also seemed perplexed at my 'bulky' placenta and did not really have a definitive answer about what it means which is why I have got myself so worked up I think. I have now left a message with the midwife team and am going to ask it is referred to my consultant sooner than 5 weeks as otherwise I will go mad with worry! Glad to hear you are progressing well xx

[Debrakay1704]

It is so hard not to worry and the anxiety set in, you are not doing you an good by worrying and they would have let you know if they were concerned I am sure they are just keeping an eye on you both. take care. xxx

[HollieW in reply to Debrakay1704]

Thank you xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Hollie. Lovely to hear that all is well. I wouldn't worry about a large placenta at this stage, as if it were forming into a placenta praevia, it should have happened by now, and you would be bleeding a bit. Quite a few of my babies that had large placentas were all fine, no problems, although I remember one that delivered 3 weeks early - and was perfect. Fingers crossed all continues to go well for you, for the second half! Diane

[HollieW in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you that is reassuring to hear xx