I was overwhelmed by the amount of lovely, heart warming posts I received from you all when I got my BFP with embryo number 7 just 8 days ago. Thanks for reaching out to me and sharing in my good news, even though some of you are going through a hard and sad time personally. This forum is amazing for support in the good and bad times. We are all in this together.
Sadly, on 15dp5dt (Wednesday just gone), I had very painful cramps and red bleeding. It started mildly on Tuesday, I could tell something wasn’t right so went for a blood test but that showed high hcg levels. I’ve since had a blood test with my clinic and they confirmed this morning that I have miscarried, my levels fell from 2633 to 600. I was officially 4 - 5 weeks pregnant they said.
Damian and I are of course devastated. At 38, this was the first BFP I’ve ever got in my life - we were living on cloud 9 for just 5 days, imagining our future as a family.
Moving forward, we still have 4 frozen embryos from our 3rd cycle so have to hope that our baby is one of them. We now know we can get pregnant so have to see that as a positive. We want to go again as soon as possible.
Keep going warriors xxxxx
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Awww Scarlett I'm so gutted for you honey!! It's such a horrible drop from the cloud of hope to nothing. Sending you massive hugs lovely, hold onto each other tightly.xxxx
Yeah I wanted to wait for today’s blood test result before sharing as the nurse still held out some hope for us but I just knew it was over - I just had the feeling things weren’t right on Tuesday. Thanks for your message xxx
So sorry to hear about your loss. It must be hard to take. You've taken it splendidly well! It's great to see you in high spirits. The best way to shake it off is by getting right back at it! I really hope you get a BFP, honey. Fingers crossed for this cycle.
Omg Scarlett I am just absolutely 💔 to read this sad news this morning I don't even have any other wrds to say, esp wen ur hcg was so high aswell. One of your 4 frozen will b ur rainbow baby wen u feel strong enough to go again xx
Oh Scarlett, I’m so sad to read this 🙁 So terribly sorry. I truly believe that there is at least 1 baby amongst your frosties. Sending hugs and love xxx
I'm so sorry to read this! How terrible to have it taken away when you were so close. As you say, you now know you can get pregnant and that hope will keep you going and fighting for this. Sending hugs xx
I’m so sorry that you found out at the scan, so devastating beyond belief. Must have been awful to not be at home too. I’m really sorry. Good luck with your next one and thank you for your kind message x
It’s tough but I’ll be honest, it gets easier quite quickly or it did for me anyway.
It might sound crazy to some but having a bfp after all the bfn’s was quite nice, even though it didn’t quite work out. I felt like at least I knew it had nothing to do with implantation issues and that all it will really take is the right embryo xx
Just wanted to tell u that Im so sorry for u both! I do understand how hard it is coz we had the same experience recently! Just dont give up! As u said when it happens once, it’ll happen again! This is what two of our doctors told us after the misscarriage! Sending u lots of love and baby dusts! Take care! xxxxx
Oh dear... I'm so sorry to hear about your grievous loss. Hugs to you!! What can I say the whole losing a baby when you were counting on and was so happy about your pregnancy seems so unfair. The emotional devastation that follows is a new kind of hell. I've been through it and know no words can really console you for now. But trust me time will make you strong to live with it and to move on in your TTC journey. I wouldn't say heal because the grief and the feel of loss never really heals... no amount of time can undo that. TBH in my fertility journey... though it's still on... it's hard to decide which one is grimmer and more disappointing not being able to conceive for so many years or the loss.
I know it's a hard time.. but like you said we're warriors we'll sail through. I'm glad to even notice that in spite of the remorse and pain you feel you're looking forward already. The angel you lost may rest in peace!! and the remaining embryos you have I wish one of them fulfill your baby dreams soon enough Just make sure you're emotionally stable and back on track before going for FET. Stay well
Thanks so much for your lovely message - it breaks my heart so much that so many of us have to experience this journey with the highs and lows but I’ve noticed that we are all strong women and maybe that’s why this is our path - it’ll all be worth it xxxx
TBH I found a lot of support here... especially emotionally. Out there in the real world women who are blessed with kids easily hardly understands us. I think this is somewhere where we unite in our odds to be eachother's guide and strength. Well that doesn't help infertility really in most the cases... but makes the bumpy ride just more bearable. Don't worry... it'll all be worth it in the end... the pain the suffering the BFNs.... I still believe that!
I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss Scarlett. I don't really know what to say other than stay strong and look after yourself. I don't know much about you since I only joined a few weeks ago but when you got your BFP last Fri, that really gave me hope as I was feeling so down on Thurs after my EC. I've been thinking about you all week at how happy you must be only to read about your loss today. Thinking of you xxx
Hello, thank you so much for reaching out to me with this message. Welcome to the forum!! I’m glad I gave you hope and despite my miscarriage, I still have hope for both of us - with this journey, the highs and lows are extreme - but you have to ride them out and keep going to get to your baby. How are you doing? Xxx
I'm glad you've got such a positive attitude, wish I was more like that! I'm currently in my 2ww, 5dp5dt, and it's killing me! My OTD is the 6th April but I think I might end up testing early!! Xx
Oh this is so sad but I am inspired by your strength in that you and your loved one can see the hidden positive and I prayer your frozen embryo transfer/s are the key to your baby. I hope you take care of yourself and you continue to be strong. 🙏🏻💙🙏🏻
I’m so sorry to hear this hun, it’s just heartbreaking 😢. I’m glad it’s not put you off trying again and I really hope it works out for you both. Sending hugs ❤️XX
Oh god this came as a shock I’m really sorry to hear this - I really thought this was your time. Sending lots of love and strength. I’m in awe of your positivity but you’re right at least you know you can get pregnant and it’s great that you’ve got 4 in the freezer. Take your time to heal. Lots of love xx
So so sorry to hear this, what devastating news but you sound amazingly positive. Look after yourself and your hubby/partner. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for your future round xxx
So sad to hear this, must be devastating to finally have that BFP and then end in miscarriage but like you say taking the positives this means you can get pregnant xx
Scarlett I am so very sorry to hear your really sad news, sending you my warmest thoughts and a virtual hug. U r so brave and strong sharing ur journey the good and bad and u should b proud of how resilient u r and the support u give others on this forum one being me recently. Great u still have some frozen and I will following ur journey to what I am sure will b another positive result and ur happy ending lots of love and take care of urself and each other xx 💞
Oh thank you coral - that’s such a sweet and lovely message and much needed as I just woke up and cried as I saw some people’s Mother’s Day posts with their babies on Facebook. Think I’ll stay off that today!!! Good luck on your journey too xxx
Oh dear, sorry to hear that, Yes I can appreciate how hard it must be, not finding it easy myself today, plus period finally arrived yesterday & really really heavy so a day at home for me today. Yes probably best stay off Facebook. Concentrate on looking after & being kind to yourself. I have essentially stuffed my face with chocolate and all things bad so am feeling better 😱 for doing that! also looking at booking a holiday something to look forward to. We have a follow up app at hospital end of April we will consider options after this either our last fresh cycle or a frozen one. Xx
I need to eat all the chocolate today xxx good luck with your decision making and booking a holiday - always good to have stuff to look forward to away from ivf x
I was honestly shocked and saddened to hear your news as had so much hope for you and still do 👍 Yes we will get through this and try again 🤞🏼. Am feeling like am ready to start over ....thinking about my May cycle, using the hopefully magic ‘gonal f’ FSH drugs this time. I need to know for peace of mind.
Having a dilemma whether to bother with DHEA & Ubiquinol again, just worried they had a detrimental effect well more the DHEA as stuff read online says if I don’t need it can do more damage than help. I figured after lots of research they may help them had my worst results ever.
When I had my best cycle resulting in my darling son I took nothing but multivitamin and folic acid. I was 39 then though so was keen that last time to take any supplements that will help although my clinic will not support my use of them . It’s so hard to know what to do for the best x
I’m glad you’re soon going to be going again - I hope the gonal f works for you. I’ve only ever used menopur. I had much better results from using DHEA and ubiquinol and can’t help but think they must’ve worked for me, but all our bodies are different and react differently, what works for one doesn’t work for the other.
I can see why you’d want to repeat what you took when you got your son! Go with your heart xxx
Hi... I just saw this. I don't know what to say, I am really sorry... If It helps at all, you have all my best wishes for everything going good next time.
Keep going lovely, I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. You sound very strong and I am sure you will have your happy ever after with one of your frosties. Good luck for the next cycle xxx
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I don't even have any other wrds to say, esp wen ur hcg was so high aswell. One of your 4 frozen will b ur rainbow baby wen u feel strong enough to go again xx
Just make sure you're emotionally stable and back on track before going for FET. Stay well 
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