A hole in my heart I thought would never by filled.
Born on 23rd January my little dot is finally here.
Three rounds of IVF and she’s here. The struggle of IVF for us all is real. For men and women. We all have a unique struggle to our journey. Mine was struggling to understand why my own eggs just weren’t good enough. Worried if my baby would ever love me as much I’d love them as it was a donor egg. Panicked that I might not be able to breastfeed so how would I give my baby anything of me.
She loves me. Baby Emu, Amelia Florence, loves me and needs me. She brings me to tears every single day. But not the tears I’ve felt before. Tears of joy and disbelief. Tears of hope for every woman who faces the IVF warrior journey. You can do this. You have got this. Whatever the outcome, whatever the end...whether we get there with baby in arms or bow out when you want to... This was our last round I couldn’t take it again. I almost gave up the night before the embryo was transferred.
Lots of people say never give up. I’d never say that because I know how close I was. But I wanted to leave a piece of advice very close to my heart. I’ve been quiet I know ladies. IVF is a struggle and sometimes it’s hard to remember to take care of yourself. This journey has taken its toll on me, Mr Emu and our marriage. Please take care of yourselves. Please ask for help. Please contact others. Contact me!
I’ll always want to carry on telling my story in case one day it helps someone else.
Thank you so much to all of you who supported me. ❤️
Mrs Emu x
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Oh what a gorgeous wee Emu. Thank you so much for sharing your whole journey with us all. It's like we are all on each others roller coaster with each and every one of us. It's so great to see when we do get to the dream. So so happy for you xxx
Ahhh your lovely Emu family is complete! So delighted for you both. She's absolutely gorgeous. Love your choose of words, had a wee tear reading it out to hubby. Wishing you all the best, you deserve this!!xxxx
Awwww so happy for you!!!! Congratulations!! It's such a nice feeling being a mummy, I never thought I would be one too. But after 3 rounds we got there XX
Emu!! I've been thinking about you so much these last months but didn't want to bother you via DM, I was afraid that your last attemt failed. I am soooo very happy to see your beautiful bambina Amelia Florence and so relieved to read your words.
I just had my 3rd failed IVF news today, hcg came back negative and we discussed with the doc the option of going for egg donation... I'm confused but maybe willing to try, I need time to heal and to think first but your posts and other egg donor moms stories I read are making me feel much better about it.
I wish you the very best to you, Mr Emu and the little Amelia Florence Emu <3 <3
Please shout if you want some thoughts on DE. There are enough of us here who can support etc. I don’t think I evernfully came to terms with it until Amelia arrived. I’m here.
Sorry you’ve had a bad news day. Drink gin, eat cake, take time to read and be you x
Congratulations my lovely! She is just simply perfect and i hope this new adventure of mummyhood is everything and more you have dreamed off. Kisses to baby Amelia Xx
Your post made me so emotional. I am over the moon for you all and ur daughter is one lucky little lady to have you as her mum.. I too have been struggling and rarely on here but how could I not reply to you.. So so happy.. Much love xx
So happy to see this post, I’ve followed your journey from the start along with my own. My daughter arrived 6th Feb, i feel like exactly the same. Huge congratulations x
Oh my God!!! I was just about to ask you what stage you are seeing you replied to my post I am genuinely happy for you! Congratulations and she is absolutely gorgeous xxxxx
This response from you just made me cry, I guess that's not normal but the tiniest attention one gets on this journey is priceless.... Hahaha enjoy motherhood xxx
I've been thinking of you from time to time....congrats shes perfect!! 😍 What beautiful words 💕enjoy your baby Emu shes very lucky to have a mum that loves her so much. Health and happiness to you all 💖💕 xxx
This made me cry. I have been following you through your journey and logging on everyday to see if you posted. I’m so so happy for you!!!! What beautiful words and so true. This journey is so hard. I have been inspired by your outlook and positivity and your journey and words helped me through mine. I’m so glad you finally got your baby and I know you will be the most amazing mum. Xxx
Huge congratulations.. She is beautiful and what a pretty name... Great words and understand the strain you talk of... I read your posts always, and myself I havnt been in here for a while.. But I never will forget the journey to get my precious boy who is now 16 months, after 5 rounds of ivf.. I'm totally thrilled for you and wish you the best family adventures ahead... Huge hugs 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗
I don’t think I truly believed it until 20-25 weeks. I think I ruined most of my pregancy but she’s here. And I don’t need to worry about that now. Congrats! x
Fantastic news! I’ve thought about you a few times and wondered how you were getting on, beautiful baby and a lovely name for her, congratulations to you both, welcome to the parenting world xxxx
I was just thinking about you recently and patiently waiting for your good news!
So happy to hear you are now finally relaxing and crying tears of joy!/(ok maybe relaxing is a poor choice of words describing life with a newborn! )
I'm currently in Spain holidaying it up after our third failed ivf cycle. We finally got a BFP this time but sadly miscarried early on over xmas/ new years.
There's been such a lot of good and bad news recently for so many of us that it is lovely to see those who have been on long journey get their happy endings
You were one of the first to give me advice when I started this journey and hopefully some day we'll have our rainbow baby
I’ve been waiting for this update!! Amazing strength and determination and you’ve won the battle with ivf. A massive congratulations and I wish you and your family nothing but happiness and health for eternity.... congratulations.... I too felt like it would never happen but I’m now 35 weeks and can not wait to feel the same joy as you xxx
Wow! You’ve got a baby! It seems like this news has come so quickly! I k ow it’s been a long old journey though. Your spirit and character always shines through strong in your posts. What an amazing couple of parents you’ll be. She has a beautiful name. Over the moon for you xxx
Big love to you. Just has a quick look where you were up to. Hope you’re doing what Mrs Emu would do... eat the cake; drink the gin. You’ll slot in to where you want to be on your own journey and whatever you decide will be right. Naturally worked once before, it might just be a sticky work the next time xx big love xx
I've ate way to much cake and drank far too much gin lol.
Not put it on here but just had another miscarriage ( fell naturally again.)
We are picking our self up again though, as they say never say never.
I've missed the lovely story's and post from Mrs Emu so lovely to catch your update as often wondered how you are.
Will never forget the one of you in the bath with mr Emu playing the guitar and you panicking as you realised you forgot your medication.
You have one very lucky girl there to have parents as amazing as you will be
We are going away celebrating out 5th wedding anniversary soon so it will be nice to switch off from the world, I'm dropping some hours at work also to help me cope with the stresses of life.
😁 I'm nearly 40 now can't cope with these full time hours lol xx
Great to hear from you... lucky lady enjoy forever kiss her always and smile at your rainbow.
Hi emu , I am so delighted to read your post . I hope you and mr emu are enjoying every minute with Amelia ( beautiful name ) I remember me and you posting when we both started off on the ivf journey . So so happy you got your happy ending . Xxx Mia
Congratulations Mrs Emma enjoy your lil princess you giving us words of encouragement i miscarried my twins at 22 weeks which was very heart breaking for cause cause i already felt their kicking i me . Boy and and girl thanks for these wise words 😍😍😍
Good luck Meg! The best thing I did was rule my cycle not be ruled by it. I injected on trains and in toilets and carried on with life. Sending you warrior power x
Your post brought me to tears because I can relate to every word! Love this, I’m about to embark on our next chapter with donor eggs and I’m really really grateful for knowledge of your experience and to know I’m not alone taking this route😊 Amelia Florence is beautiful and now it’s your time to be the mum you’ve always wanted to be. I’m sure you’ll enjoy every single moment. All the best to you and your family 💓 xxx
Good luck Jude. Well done for making the brave decision for your next chapter. Shout if you need any anything x
Lovely update wondered how you were ❤️Aww congratulations. She’s beautiful 💗 I am so very happy for you. Thank you for sharing these stories help others have hope that it can happen ❤️ xoxo
Ah, Mrs Emu, what wonderful news... what a precious little girl you've got there.
I've looked you up a couple of times over the months to see if there was any news on your little pea, and I'm so pleased to see that no news was good news xxxx
I feel lucky and blessed to say I'm 20 weeks pregnant today.... but it still didn't feel real yet... still don't seem to have let myself believe it yet...but seeing your gorgeous little girl does give me hope. Thankyou for sharing and updating us!!! Xxxx keep well and take care xxxx
Awww Mrs Elbow it took me to 25-28 weeks to believe it. Regret missing parts of my pregnancy but she’s here now and that doesn’t matter xxx so pleased for you xxx
Mrs Emu,great to hear from you I've missed your updates,and what lovely words. Huge Congratulations on Amelia,she looks absolutely perfect,gives us all hope xx
Wow there is definitely a tear rolling down my face! The breastfeeding fear is real I just had a sleepless night thinking OMG what if I can’t BF and I’m only 14 weeks. Then I realised my fear was linked to my deep sense of failure I have in my body. I couldn’t conceive naturally so why should my body know what to when it comes to feeding my baby! I really hope this is not the case because I want to BF so much. My goal now for the rest of my pregnancy is to get that voice in my head telling me I’m a failure gone! Wish me luck!😂
Thank you for such beautiful and inspiring words. Your bubba is a real cutie! 💜
I hear you. Every word. Sometimes I still feel like I’m going to do something wrong. Why would my breasts work if my body didn’t! All the while forgetting i was growing baby! Good luck xx
So wonderful ❤️ thanks for sharing this lovely message with us. It is joyous and hopeful. Hope you can now relax and enjoy being with your new family xxx
Big congratulations to u & Mr Emu, dreams can come true, welcome to the world Amelia. (Here's to her giving u load of grandkids easily in the future & not having all the struggles we've had!) Enjoy family life x
Congratulations on the arrival of your gorgeous daughter!! Your post is beautiful 💖 We are just in the early stages of starting our donor egg cycle, and I have been experiencing a lot of worry about whether I am doing the right thing, and if we should keep going - I feel a renewed strength after reading your words ❤️
Thank you so, so much for sharing this news and your journey to get here with us xx
Oh congratulations!!!! Remember all your posts and really hope all had gone well a beautiful little daughter how lovely our precious little girl arrived in Dec x
HUGE congratulations (and some office dancing) from me!!! I was wondering how you had got on, and whether the little one had arrived. Oh, this puts a big smile on my face for the rest of the day. Take good care of yourself, and Mr Emu, and lovely Amelia (great choice of name, btw). So, so happy for you, Mrs Emu!!!
And don't you ever worry about your baby loving you - donor egg or no donor egg! The point is that you wanted her, and that you will always let her know how wanted she is. Really, I think ivf children are pretty lucky in this regard, because their parents fought so hard to get them. Hugs!!!
Aww you have crossed my mind many of times. I'm so glad you got the happy ending you truly deserve. Congratulations mummy!!! Congratulations daddy and welcome to the world little one!!!
massive congratulations Mrs Emu, she’s adorable!! 💕 so pleased you got your dream!!
not on here much anymore but still struggling on this horrendous journey, but couldn’t not reply to you - I’ll never forget the support you showed me way back when I first joined as a terrified ivf first timer!!
Sending love and enjoy every minute of your gorgeous wee bundle!! xx
Been thinking about you 🧐 and Oh my word, dot is absolutely gorgeous with such a beautiful name! So the adventures of Mrs Emu continue with all the ups and downs of life... I wish you all every happiness lovely lady 💕 Get the book written and the heels back on to enjoy the gin and cake 🍰💕 xx
I always wondered how you were getting on! I’m delighted to read this, she is just beautiful 💗 I needed to hear this this week- to not lose hope, to carry on - so thank you 🙏🏼 Wishing you & your family the very very best for the future 💕xxx
Oh Mrs Emu, massive congratulations. I loved your posts, they always brought humour and positivity to sad situations. Wishing you and your little family all the very best. Enjoy being a mummy xx
Such beautiful words thanks you for sharing your positive experience and still want to help others going through this struggle. I’m aboyt to have my 2nd cycle of ICSI soon and my sister is currently pregnant with DE after 3 failed attempts. I really wish it wasn’t such a taboo subject and people were more open about talking about it as there really are so many people going through the same thing. Huge congratulations on your beautiful and big love to everyone on here to keep the faith ❤️❤️❤️ pS I was siobhanmorris178 but updated my profile incase anyone is wondering 😀
Thanks emu2016 i haven’t posted much about it on here as I’m trying to be in the zone and not on social media too much but we have our 2nd scan today so I’m really hoping I have responded better to the drugs this time. I at least want to make it a step further this time which would be to have some even fertilise so please keep everything crossed for me x
Massive congratulations! She’s beautiful 🥰 your post made me cry 😢 just a few tears, so happy for you! What’s struggle! I’m still going so thank you for the inspiration xxx
She's beautiful, congratulations to you both.
I had a little girl on the 8th of January who also brings me to tears when I look at her. Six weeks on and we still can't believe she's ours!
Enjoy your precious girl. Xx
Massive congratulations. You bring hope to so many people.
Dear Mr and Mrs Emu, huge congratulations on your beautiful new arrival. What a wonderful destination on your journey. Wishing you so much joy for the future. x
This is such a lovely post. Many congratulations to you all, it's been such a long journey for you and it's so lovely to see your outcome. Thank you for sharing and congratulations again on your beautiful little one ❤
She looks perfect! Well done and congratulations. This forum has been such a support during the down days so you are absolutely right- talking is key to our sanity! xx
Massive congratulations!!!! What a gorgeous wee snuggle chum you have there!!!! You have brought tears to my eyes reading this - so happy for you and Mr Emu. Pleease give wee emu a massive hug from me and our wee pudding!
Congratulations and she’s beautiful and enjoy every moment. Can’t believe my little man is almost 7 months old (will be 7 months on the 5th of March) xxx
Congratulations on the new addition to your flock (although a group of emus is a mob). She is gorgeous!
This post makes me so happy! I'm so so happy for you both and so glad to see that all your dreams came true. She's a little beauty. Congratulations to you both xxxx
You often pop into my mind and I wonder how things went for you. Our fertility journey has ended but I’m so glad to see you are now a mummy. So absolutely thrilled for you both. Much love. X
Beautiful Amelia, beautiful mummy, beautiful post xxx congratulations Mrs Emu! Wow she’s stunning and perfect. Well done for getting through your ivf journey. How are you and mr emu now your baby is here? Hope it’s my turn soon. Xx
This has made me well up and has given so much hope. My first round of ivf has been successful but it’s early days and I’m anxious, but this shows dreams can come true. Such beautiful words, such a beautiful baby and no doubt a beautiful mum x
This brought me to tears - what a lovely, thoughtful, beautifully written post. Huge Congratulations to you and mr emu!! She is just perfect well worth the wait and stress I bet!
I had been wondering how you’d been getting on as you’d been so quiet on here. So happy for you.. your words have helped as I’m just anxiously waiting for my 5th OTD which is tomorrow.. wish you all the very best for the future xx
Not on much mrs just log in from time to time, just wanted to say a huge congratulations, every year every jag,every doubt, just disappears the minute you hold that little bundle, I like you still 10months down the line look at my little princess and the tears stroll, happy tears full of so much love, I am making my mind up in the next few weeks to go try one of my frozen embryos, would love to give my girl a sibling and would be last chance as 47, but loving every minute of mummy life, all the best to you and ur family enjoy every second xx😘
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I am genuinely happy for you! Congratulations and she is absolutely gorgeous xxxxx
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