New chapter for us with donor eggs

[Jude6]

Hi everyone. Looking for some advice and reassurance 😊

I’m 33 with PCOS. Two years, three cycles and three day 5 blasts have all failed. Consultant has given us a debrief of the last cycle and he thinks the issue is the dna of my eggs. We’ve been advised to use donor eggs.

I’d already kind of prepared myself for this but it’s still a bit of a blow. But in a strange way there is a small amount of relief in that we have a chance because I was really struggling with the failed transfers and the potential to put myself through it all mentally again.

Looking for some advice from anyone else who’s been through this and used donor eggs. My sister has kindly offered to donate but we are literally at day 1 so will let it sink in before we move forward.

Wishing everyone a happy Monday 😊❤️ xxx

[Cinderella5]

We also had 2 failed transfers with 3 OE blastocysts and the Dr advised our best shot was DE. Its by no means a guarantee but it defo gives better success rates. I think even although you are expecting someone to say this its not until it has been said that we really start processing it all. It took me a little time to get my head around it, to grieve for my own eggs. Its great that your sister is willing to donate for you, Im presuming that she is younger than you. She'll probably required some tests done to check that she is a suitable donor but a great start! Ask any questions if you think I can help!xx

[Jude6 in reply to Cinderella5]

Hi Cinderella thank you so much for your reply, how are you doing I’ve been following your recent posts? 😊 Yeh it’s a bit of a low point at the moment but I do feel hopeful xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Jude6]

It is always good to have hope hunny!

Im ok thanks, turned into an OCD wiping maniac after getting a little pink discharge last night - which I know can be normal but oh boy not good for the blood pressure! Ha ha ha I dont think I actually contemplated how I would feel getting a positive, its not for the faint hearted! Just hoping and praying that all is going along ok.

If you have any questions on here or privately then you know where I am!xx

[hannahding]

I hope things go well for you. I am in between my second cycle of IVF. Things didn't work for us the first time. However, if this cycle doesn't work out then we will also opt for DE. I hope it goes well for you. Just stay positive. Will you be selecting a donor for yourself? Or there is a different criterion?

[Jude6 in reply to hannahding]

Hi Hannah, yes I’m defo doing all I can to stay positive. I’ve decided to have some counselling before we go ahead with DE, had my first session yesterday and I think it’s helped already. There’s still a part of me thats confused about how we’ve got to this point and I’m not 100% convinced about having genetic egg issues but I guess that’s part of the process, all the different emotions.

My younger sister has kindly offered to be our egg donor. Our consultant said it’s highly likely that any of my siblings have the same genetic egg issues but she had a little boy last year straight after coming off the pill so I dont think that’s the case.

If you don’t mind me asking what has made you go for donor eggs next time?

Xx

[Refocus]

Hi Jude,

Sorry to read about your situation. I feel like I have got my head around DE but there's always something that crops up which gives me anxiety. A very close friend has offered me her eggs which has actually made me feel a lot more comfortable although I know there will be serious hurdles to face. I'm just desperate to get things moving as I'm exhausted from the emotional strain and not knowing when and if we'll ever have a baby! Frustratingly though I'm not sure my friend quite gets the urgency but I'm very wary not to put any pressure on her as its the kindest offer I could have ever imagined.

Good luck Xxx

[Jude6 in reply to Refocus]

Massive good luck to you too! It’s such a rollercoaster ride. I seem to be going round in a circle at the moment thinking using my sister eggs is going to be amazing, then overthinking about what my sister may feel if it works, so then I think about using an anonymous donor. But then get back to thinking using my sister eggs is the best option! I think a bit more time will help me to process things better.

That’s amazing that your friend has offered her eggs 💓. What’s your plan are you going to get started soon? Are you having any tests beforehand like ERA/immunes? Xx

[Jude6]

Hey Star! I’ve not gone ahead with donor eggs yet I’m having a few months off to see if I can get my periods back myself. Then I’m going to try ivf at a different clinic because I want to make sure there’s no other issues at play eg implantation failure. What’s PRP treatment? If you don’t mind me asking, how did you get on with IVF and what prognosis or advice have you received? Xx