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Hi everyone,

Thought I’d post a little update as I’ve been really worried about over sharing on here but today I can’t believe I’ve reached 28 weeks, the 3rd and final trimester.

This week I’ve also been able to reflect a lot on my anxiety and have realised that its not just down to suffering 2 mmc but the whole IVF journey, I think we forget how much it takes from us and trusting my body has been something I’ve really struggled with all the way along.

I’ve been checking in on here and hoping I’m still able to offer some helpful advice where I can. I hope whoever you are on your journey things are going well, I’m not going to tell you to never give up because that would be unfair.

Do what you need to survive this IVF rollercoaster as truthfully it’s the only way to get through 🧡

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Tugsgirl

I’m so happy for you. As you know I’ve had two mmcs and a miscarriage ten years ago so I can totally relate with everything you say. Great to see happy posts. Keep up the good work xx

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E_05 in reply toTugsgirl

Thank you, I hope everything continues to go well for you 🌈 xx

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Kari55

Lovely to hear from you and I’m glad to know you are doing well.

I’m about to start FET and having lots of anxiety too. Although I know what I need to do to ease it a bit, it doesn’t go away. All the best xx

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E_05 in reply toKari55

It definitely doesn’t, I’ve kind of learnt accepting the anxiety has helped rather than trying to fight it. Lots of luck for your FET xx

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Kari55 in reply toE_05

Yes, that is a good tip about accepting the anxiety - I will try that, thanks! Keep us posted xx

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Cinderella5

Ahhh I'm so chuffed to see your update! Fabulous news!!😘🙏❤xxx

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E_05 in reply toCinderella5

Thank you, I’m looking forward to seeing your updates as everything progresses xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toE_05

Hell I'm so scared right now. I can't even bring myself to book a scan or to even pee on another test!🙈😨 I'm sure I'll get there eventually!!xx

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E_05 in reply toCinderella5

That’s totally understandable, I was exactly the same and tbh I’m still terrified of going to scans 🙈 you will definitely get there in your own time, that’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s okay to do things when you feel ready xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toE_05

Thank you!!😘 Clinic said I could go end of next week but I want to make sure we have the best chance of seeing something if there is something to see! Think I'll just stick to my own timescales!!😂xx

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi E. Fabulous milestone. I was always happy when mu mums to be reached this stage. Happy rest of pregnancy and easy birth. Diane

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E_05 in reply toDianeArnold

Thank you Diane.

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Gemz29

Great to see this post, I often remember back to nearly 2 years ago when I started this process, took a little time out last year which was needed. Hope you enjoy the final trimester.... gives me inspiration to keep going 💕😊 xx

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E_05 in reply toGemz29

Thank you xx

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Clover5

It’s great to hear your doing so well hun and gives others hope. Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy 🙏💕xX

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E_05 in reply toClover5

Thank you, hope you’re doing okay xx

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Hollibob

Great to see your happy update x

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Jonesjp

Really pleased to hear your doing well hunny and we all need to hear the positives as well, it’s what keeps so many of us going through this journey. I hope you have a stress free last trimester 😘

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E_05 in reply toJonesjp

Thank you, me to! Hope the tww is being kind to you, will be looking out for positive news 🤞🏻xx

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Jonesjp in reply toE_05

Thanks hunny, the second week is starting to drag a bit now but will be worth it if it goes our way x x x

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Positive2022

I'm so very happy for you. I've not forgotten the support you offered me when I was struggling and wish you all the very best in your 3rd trimester. Sending lots of love ❤ xxx

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E_05 in reply toPositive2022

Thank you, hope you and your little one are doing well xx

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Positive2022

We are doing ok thanks. We had quite a traumatic birth which resulted in me having a large postpartum haemorrhage and this literally knocked me off my feet. It has taken me a good while to get going again as I was quite poorly afterwards but I am getting there now. I really hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and wishing you all tghe best. It's so lovely hearing happy news xxx

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E_05 in reply toPositive2022

Oh no sorry to hear that but glad you’re doing better now. I’m still terrified of something going wrong but really trying to enjoy at least moments xx

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Positive2022

It's really hard to relax and not worry,

especially with the journey we go on to get to this stage. I found that, I had multiple bleeds off and on all the way through and with my history of low progesterone I was terrified of something going wrong. There was one moment when I was at work and only myself and one other colleague there who didn't know I was pregnant and I started to bleed quite heavily. Ended up just leaving v suddenly and being seen at EPU for emergency scan at only 5 weeks. Once I got to about 35 weeks I started to relax more knowing I was almost at full term. I'm still a bit anxious about my hormone levels and whether my progesterone has dropped too low again so awaiting blood tests to have this and my iron levels checked. I took each week as they came and once I got to 30 weeks the last trimester actually went by quite quickly. Enjoy every minute as best as you can and take time to rest. BIG hugs xxx

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E_05 in reply toPositive2022

Oh gosh you went through so much, it’s a relief to know when you got to 35 weeks you felt a bit better I’ve been wondering if il feel like I can get more organised the closer I get xx

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Positive2022 in reply toE_05

I found that just taking it week by week really helped, not thinking about what may or may not happen. Easier said then done, but after each week I literally said to myself 'we made it another week' and this did help ease my anxiety. I tried to rest as much as I could and it wasn't until the end that I started buying baby things as I couldn't cope with having baby items around the house if something did go wrong. By 35 weeks I actually felt really excited knowing we were nearly there. Hang on in there, and look after yourself. Don't be afraid to ask your midwife for any additional support or to simply just cast her eye on you and baby if you're worried about anything. I did this too. There were a couple of times where I thought I felt less movement and there was no hesitation in getting me in for a check and this did help reassure me. Do message me if you need a chat. Wishing you all the best and keep in touch xxx

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E_05 in reply toPositive2022

That’s so true, I think I’ve been clumping the weeks together recently which is making it worse. How many weeks were you when you start buying things? So far we’ve only brought a couple of babygrows and I’m trying to block out everyone going on about me needing to get organised.

My midwife has been really good, I’ve been in twice with reduced movements and they’ve been so supportive and re assured me to never be worried about ringing xx

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Positive2022 in reply toE_05

That's really good to hear that you have good support. We started shopping literally within the last month of me being pregnant. We made sure we had a car seat to bring baby home in, moses basket, enough sleep suits to ensure change of clothes and for washing, a pram and bottles / formula. I was so pleased we got the latter as due to my anaemia I really struggled to breastfeed as I couldn't produce enough milk so we had no choice but to top up with formula. I was really low after the birth, very tearful for a couple of weeks actually because I couldn't breastfeed but the midwife explained that it was simply that I couldn't produce any milk and this was caused by the haemorrhage. We had lots of gifts given to us after we got home from hospital mainly all clothes so really we didn't need to worry about getting many outfits. Oh, and we stocked up on fozen meals to save us shopping. All in the last month. I started my maternity leave 3 weeks before due date and used this time to potter and get things done. Don't worry about people advising on getting organised, easiest thing I found was just to nod along and know that I had all this to look forward to at the end which I really enjoyed as I felt more relaxed.

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E_05 in reply toPositive2022

Thank you so much for your advice, it’s definitely reassured me that what I’m doing is okay. The tip about meals is such a good one to, hadn’t even thought about that one x

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Positive2022 in reply toE_05

No worries lovely, just focus on you and your baby and try to enjoy as much of your pregnancy as you can. BIG hugs as always xxx

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Franco81

It’s so lovely to hear your update. You were the first person to welcome me to this forum about 18 months ago and I’ve followed your journey ever since.

I’m so so pleased for you, your story really gives me hope and I just hope you will be able to enjoy this moment at some point.

Whatever happens for all of us here we will carry the scars of infertility but it will make us stronger and appreciate what we have in a way others could never understand.

Here’s to a healthy rest of your pregnancy xx

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E_05 in reply toFranco81

Thank you so much, you’re right I’ve learnt that the scars on infertility never leave you. I hope things are going okay for you xx

Wow not long now. Pregnancy is so hard when you have been on the ivf struggle. I don’t think I ever fully trusted my body until my little was born xxx

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E_05 in reply to

I think I underestimated how hard it would continue to be, that’s how I feel and in the moments I feel myself getting a little excited it’s like my brain tells me nope don’t jinx it xx

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Ang24816

Yeyyyyyy!! ❤ sending you lots of positive vibes xx

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TRYING2016

Perfect words, so lovely to see this. Wishing you all the best for the rest your pregnancy 🤰 xxxx

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Amanda86

28 weeks already! Amazing!! It’s tough that us IVF ladies don’t seem to be able to enjoy pregnancy 😢

Hope your managing at work ok, it’s a tiring job at the best of times xxx

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E_05 in reply toAmanda86

It definitely is and slightly unfair after all we go through we’re still full of anxiety that we won’t get our happy endings. I hope you and your little boy are doing well xx

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Emma04

How lovely to read such a nice post, wishing all the best with the rest of your pregnancy xx

Great to have good news posts! Glad your doing well and do trust your body! It's amazing! X

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Niki_B

Aww congrats hun, your in the final stretch! I can only imagine the anxiety, I have bad anxiety and I'm not even pregnant! Lol. I would be a headcase 🙃 And THANK YOU!!! Finally someone who doesnt say...never give up...you will get there. Well no we all wont get there, and not everyone can keep going. Whether it be financially (like myself) emotionally or physically or whatever, it's not going to happen for everybody. I know it's coming from a good place when people say it but it really upsets me.

I hope the rest of your pregnancy will go as smooth as can be, and look forward to your updates and baby pic of your little one 🤗😍💕 xxx

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E_05 in reply toNiki_B

Thank you, I found that the most frustrating phrase to and I’ll be honest with you last year I felt like I had given up at times and accepted that was okay. It’s tough journey that no one truly understands unless they’ve walked it. I hope you are doing well and find comfort in whatever your next steps may be xx

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Niki_B in reply toE_05

Definately. It really upsets me when I hear it, as if I had a choice I would not give up and I would keep going till my eggs have run out! Luckily I have 2 frosties left, they are day 6s so apparently not as good as day 5s but I'm just happy I have another 2 chances. I'm starting my FET now actually just got AF 🤞🙏🤞 xxx

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E_05 in reply toNiki_B

Exactly that, people don’t realise just how emotionally exhausting it is either. Lots of luck for your FET and try not to worry about quality, in the past I’ve had hatching blastocysts put and both them cycles were BFN xx

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Niki_B in reply toE_05

Thank you xxx I'm trying not to worry so much, but so much riding on this 🤞🙏🤞 may I ask what grade your wee one was graded? Xx

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E_05 in reply toNiki_B

Tbh I didn’t actually ask as I didn’t want to know, in the past I’d focused so much on the quality and got my hopes up when they told me it’d been a hatching blastocyst that I decided this time it didn’t matter, if it was going to stick it would xx

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Ajplus1

Congratulations on meeting this milestone xx

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LHow81

Loving reading the happy news too! May it all continue to be smooth sailing from now xx

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Mitzi2018

What a beautiful, thoughtful & heart felt message. Thank you. 🙏🏻

That’s wonderful you have reached this stage after all the heartache you’ve endured. Wishing you all the best in this final stretch. ❤️

I’ve had two failed cycles and one mc (2 with own eggs then we went down donor route) and about to go for fibroid removal surgery before attempting again with our two remaining frozen embryos.

We’re drawing the line after that as it’s all just too hard. As much as we do long for a baby we feel our lives are on hold.

I’m 43 and the journey over the last 5 years has been the hardest thing emotionally I’ve/we’ve ever had to deal with (& I’ve had my fair share of things)!

Infertility is such a lonely heartbreaking place to be and unless you’re in thick of it yourself, it’s a hard thing for anyone to understand.

Forums like these really do help with the isolation of it all so thank you to you and all you other ivf warriors out there for sharing your stories and words of support.

Thanks again for the post and lots of love and luck with mummyhood! Xx

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E_05 in reply toMitzi2018

Thank you and so sorry for all you’ve been through, I really hope this next cycle is your time 🤞🏻xx

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Mitzi2018 in reply toE_05

Thank you! ❤️ Here’s hoping 🤞🏻😘 xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Extremely happy for you. You've done amazingly well to reflect and process this whole journey I know it's been a tough tough fight and your anxiety has really been a nightmare, your a true warrior who has done what you could do and look you are on cloud 9 not long to go to meet your precious bundle you so so deserve this. I'm immensely happy for you well done lovely hugs and xxxx

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E_05 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Thank you so much for always being such a support. How are you and your little boy doing? Xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply toE_05

Hes doing really well unfortunately I've been struggling and now got the shingles it's been never ending health issues since I was induced I just can't wait to be my old self xxxx

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E_05 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Glad to hear he’s doing well but sorry you’ve been through so much, I hope you’re feeling better soon xx

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Muppetgirl

It is so great to have positive outcomes at the end of a long journey

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Babyjoshua

Great news and I appreciate your feedback and I kno it's been a hard time for me after getting a BFN on my 1 ivf cycle. It's has been a hard year for me in 2018 because not only that my first round fail I found that my lil brother is having a baby and many others of my friends. It's been rough attending those baby showers. I wish everyone on here all the luck on there journey towards parenthood. Sending you lots of prayers and baby dust.

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E_05 in reply toBabyjoshua

So sorry it’s so hard to cope with family members pregnancy announcements, do what you need to get through and if that means saying no to some baby showers remember that’s okay.

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greengreen

Thank you for sharing this is truly wonderful news. It is lovely to hear positive journeys as it keeps us going and motivated. Sending lots of love xxx

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Babyjoshua

Thank for the advice and it's so hard to say no because sumtime they tink your hating on them for not supporting them. My lil nephew arrive today and it's a happy sad moment. Take care

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Saya85

Aww how wonderful to hear!

Congratulations

I remember the early days when you'd gone through the mmc's and all the heartache

So lovely to see you get your bfp and successful pregnancy

Hope all goes smoothly xx

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hannahding

I am glad things are going smoothly for you. I just started my IVF journey recently. I am really nervous this time. It is my second cycle but with a different clinic. Really hoping for the best. It truly is a roller coaster. Good luck to you. Sending baby dust your way.

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E_05 in reply tohannahding

Lots of luck for your 2nd cycle, I hope it all goes well with the new clinic 🤞🏻

Well done on holding on in there as I know that anxiety feeling and loss. So happy you’ve survived and wishing you all the best with your final trimester xxx

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