Dear lovely ladies,
I am feeling down and puzzled and fed up too. Yesterday a 'friend' who knows my hubby and I have been struggling with IVF and fertility for a long time has given us, as a Christmas present, a 2019 calendar of her and her 2 children and husband, lots of pictures for every month. My husband and I love her children but she also know, or should know by now, that one of the hardest things for me in this IVF hourney is to know that my husband would like children and we have not been able to have any. Generally I would think giving a calendar of yourself to others (unless it is family) is already a bit on the weird side of things... but in our situation I think it is really tactless. Unfortunately it is in line with her general attitude toward people, which is to not really listen but to give her opinion and tell them what to do without having really first listened. I would not choose her as a friend and it is more the circumstances that make it such that we hang out with them (morethan I wanted). Plus she keeps asking us out and I already have to make excuses quite often, as each time after hanging out with her I feel down, as she keeps talking about herself and I find it impossible to have a mutual conversation. But my husband is keener to go out with them mainly because of the children. 🙁 Sigh. Sorry I needed to let this off as I cannot talk about it with anyone else and this bloody tacky calendar in the house really bothers me now, I have just put it on top of the recycling bin, maybe my hubby gets the message. Quite childish of me I recognize, but I am both hurt and angry.
Anyway... apologies for the steam. I hope Christmas and the New Year will bring some peace to all of you and, if not, strength and support when you most need them ! 🥂💕xxx