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Devastated after scan

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Had my first scan yesterday at 8 weeks and I keep replaying over and over again the nurse saying it’s not good news.

I was so sure this was my time, I hadn’t prepared for bad news. I have done nothing but cry since the appointment. I’ve had no bleeding or spotting at all but I suppose my boobs stopped hurting a week or so ago.

I know time will heal but at 43 I don’t have time on my side.

I have to go back next week and they’ll decide how to manage it I guess.

I am broken😢

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Oh no Sharon, how awful. I am so sorry to read this. Sending you huge hugs xx

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Cinderella5

Awwww Im so sorry Sharon, devastating!! Bug hugs.xxx

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jessleach2018

So sorry to hear this Sharon I really hope your ok sending you lots of hugs 🤗😢 xxxx

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Novice_knitter

So sorry for your loss xx

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Penders

I'm so sorry to hear this, it's just so heartbreaking. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxxx

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Orla9298

I’m so so sorry... big hug xxx

I am so sorry 😢 I can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through. To have failed cycles is bad enough without getting a positive then more heart break. I wish I could find the words to make this better for you. We are all here for you if you need absolutely anything. You can get through this. Huge hugs xxx

I am so very sorry to hear your news. Truly devastated for you both. I had bad news at my 6 week scan last year, but as I had heavy bleeding @4.5 weeks I was prepared to hear the worst. You on the other hand had no indication of anything being wrong it must have been an horrific shock to you both. 😢 All I can say is time is the best healer & you will get through this. For now you need to grieve this huge loss. I really hope you have plenty of support around you & am thinking of you during this awful time xoxo

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Tugsgirl

So so sorry. I hate this. I’ve been there myself, more than once and I hate that anyone has to go through it. Thinking of you xx

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MrsAdzee

Sad news, so sorry to hear this. I hope you have plenty support around you at this time. Thinking of you xx

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Thinking of you xx

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Masha111

So sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to grieve and i hope you have the support you need around you. Wouldnt wish it on anyone. I cant even imagine how you must be feeling. Thinking of you and sending hugs xx

Hi im so sorry it is the worse feeling I have been there twice but at my 12w scan totally devastating hearing the words. I still play back in my head sometimes it still upsets me. I'm getting an early scan with this pregnancy and tbh I'm anxious and scared of the actual procedure of them turning and saying the same thing I'm just emotionally getting over the last one from July. I felt the same way with age not being on my side aswel im 38.

sending lots of hugs xxx

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2-shades-of-hope

I’m so sorry, I’ve been there recently and it’s the worst feeling to go from being so high to so low. I’m thinking of you xx

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Sharonl75

Thanks for all your support ladies. I know lots of you have been through this as well. Can I ask what happens now given I’ve not bled? I’m back at the clinic next Tuesday.

And (I know this might seem too soon) but I need to know there is a future-when can I try again??

Thanks

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2-shades-of-hope in reply toSharonl75

Have your clinic referred you to the early pregnancy unit? My doctor said that I can begin my next FET on my first day 1 once the miscarriage is over. Obviously being physically ready doesn’t mean you would want to start again that quickly necessarily xx

Im so sorry to read this. I hope you have lots of support around you.x

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Shirazlover2013

I’m so sorry that it wasn’t good news at your scan. There really aren’t any words 😭 do your best to look after yourself during the coming weeks. Xx

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Emma04

I’m so very sorry you’ve had such terrible news. When it happened to me at my 12 week scan I was referred to EPU and I went the next day and they talked me through my options as I hadn’t bled either. Right now you probably feel numb and nothing anyone can say is going to help at all. Sending love and thinking of you x

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Ap98

Oh Sharon, I’m so sorry for you!

I’m sending you lots of hugs

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City74

Am so sorry to hear this sad news. You must be devastated. Take care of yourself as best you can xx

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LKT1

Sorry to here this heartbreaking news. Don’t lose faith. Take time to rest and spend quality time with your partner. Thoughts are with you xx

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Lou7744

I’m so sorry to read this, it’s devastating. Sending you big hugs 💕 xx

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everhopeful83

I am so sorry to read this 💗 sending you my best wishes ✨xxx

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Dunla

So sorry to hear this Sharon. Sending you a tight hug xx

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Laceygirl

So sorry for you, life is just so unfair at times. Sending you much love xxxx

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