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Goodbye and Thankyou Xx

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I just wanted to say a huge thankyou and goodbye to all you lovely ladies who have offered me support through this journey. I have decided to come off this website now as things didnt work out for us and im not having anymore treatment. At the start of the journey i honestly believed i would at some point get one BFP but sadly it was never meant to be. Two rounds with my own eggs and partners sperm and 1 round using donor eggs and donor sperm still didnt work. Never any eggs to freeze either not even from our young donor. So far transferred 2 good quality embryos and 3 top grade blastocycts and not one implanted. I also have no problems with my womb/ lining/ tubes etc. Took all the meds i could, had a scratch and partner went through 2 microtese ops. I am still taking the pesseries until i get blood results on Tuesday to confirm its failed, then hopefully i can stop them, bin all my drugs and get my period back. I am lucky to have a 13 year old son who i call my miracle. I wanted nothing but to have a little brother or sister for him. Hes doing amazing at school and has a bright future ahead of him. The spare bedroom will no longer be planned for a nursery but will be redecorated into a study room for him. I will look for a new job in the new year and hopefully be able to save again. I wish you ladies all the best for the future and hopefully you will have better luck than me and get your BFP's. I will never forget this experience. It certainly has been a rollercoaster to say the least! Thankyou once again and all the best for the future Xxx

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Kitcat12

Oh bless you lovely lady. I’m so sorry this hasn’t worked out the way you wanted x

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Scarlett13

I’m so sorry that this journey hasn’t worked for you. It’s awful not knowing if it’s going to work or not and how long to keep going financially, emotionally, mentally, physically. It’s the toughest thing ever. I hope you and your partner are stronger together for having got through it to this point. I hope you can put it behind you and enjoy your life with your son to the fullest now xxx

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Kimbers12d

Good luck in everything you do. Go hold your son tight - if he will let you! I'm so sorry it hasn't worked out for you, but you will go forward and be happy in life. We all will somehow. All the best. And thank you for all your advice. Xx

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Aleelilook

Good luck with the future lovely, take care of yourself xxx

I’m so so so sorry you didn’t get your happy ending. 💔But I think you are incredibly strong & brave to draw a line under it. And I wish you every happiness in your life. Thank you for all the support you gave me. xoxo

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Kempton

Good luck with everything x

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry you didn't get your dream! Sounds like you have a lovely family & beautiful son who is very lucky to have you!! Wishing you all the best, love and hugs.xx

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AnnieAnnie

Good luck going forward, I'm sorry your wish for another child hasn't been successful. It's brave of you to be so strong and end it all. Wishing you all the best xx

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jengi

I’m sad to hear your journey has ended this way. You have been braver and stronger than you will ever know. Enjoy your family and be at peace that it is complete. Hug your son every day and love him with everything you’ve got to give. He is so very special. Hugs to you my lovely Xx

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Lovefood1984

So sorry to hear this but wish you all the best for your new job and whatever the future may now hold for you all x

A huge decision for you both to make. Wishing you both the very best for your future. Sending hugs xx

This post has made me well up. I'm so sorry things haven't worked out, you're so brave to have made the decision to stop, it can't have been easy. Your son sounds amazing, you've obviously done a fantastic job raising him. Wishing you and your family all the best for the future. Take care xxx

Thanks everyone 😘😘 I actually feel happy with our decision. We can start planning our future now properly without all the hospital appointments etc. You've all been amazing. My sons sat here playing his flute lol the noise is unbearable but i wont have it any other way 😁😂. Were gonna book DisneyWorld for 2020 hopefully. Ive had a lot of hugs off him as he knows it didnt work. I called him my golden egg and he started laughing 😂😂 x

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londonrc in reply to

Dear One2one, your post and this reply brought tears to my eyes. You are an incredible woman to have gone through all that you have- life is so tough for some of us - you sound like you have a gorgeous son and I’m sure you are an amazing mother too! I wish you every happiness as you move onto exciting holidays and your new job in the future. X

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Masha111

Hi one2one, so sorry things didnt work out and a brave decision to make. At least you tried your best, you did everything you could and more. Everyone is right you're son is lucky to have you. I wish your family all the happiness in the world. It was nice of you to tell us you are leaving the community here. All the very best for the future and enjoy all your holidays, good luck in your new job xxx

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Devj

Oh wow, what an emotional post. You’ve been through so much and are incredibly brave. You tried your hardest and you’ll never look back and say you didn’t and that’s truly inspiring. Best of luck for the future which sounds amazing with a Disney World trip I must say!

Take care xxxx

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Steadman80

I’m so so sorry it didn’t work out for you. Thank you so much for the support and advice you gave me whilst going through your own journey xx

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Jonesjp

Sending you much love for your future hunny and I’m so sorry this hasn’t worked out for you, life can be incredibly cruel x x x

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Shirazlover2013

I’m sorry you’ve had to endure so much on this journey. Sounds like you’ve thrown everything at infertility! You’re incredibly strong and so brave to get to this point and make your decision. I hope a weight has been lifted and you can move forward with your life in a positive way. Wishing you all the best xx

I’m so sorry it didn’t work out for you but so thrilled you have your son to cherish

I am in awe of your bravery, and sanity, to walk away at the right time. I hope I have the courage to do the same

Wishing you love and luck in the future x

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Autumnmoon

Just want to wish you and your family all the best x

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vic77

awwww bless you..I am so sorry you never got your bfp but sounds like you are moving forward so I wish you all the very best xx

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gattonero

Wishing you the brightest future, you’ve been a rock going all this way, be proud of you hun xxx

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Kyell2

Such a difficult decision to make but it really sounds like you have made peace with it and have made the best choice for your family. Wishing you all the best xx

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi One2one. So sorry to hear thus, but can completely understand your reasons for doing so. We do have a sister site called "More To Life" for those having to move on from treatment, should you wish to have a look. You could also email our MTL C-ordinator Heather Whiffen for support too at heather@fertilitynetworkuk.org is you wish. Diane

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Thanks Diane! I will check it out. Xx

Hi One2one

I am so sorry to read this. I didn't really know how to respond. You must be so so brave to make this decision whatever the circumstances. Sending you big hugs hugs xxx

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Tugsgirl

Good luck for the future whatever it holds xx

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Dunla

You’ve had a difficult journey and I’m sorry for that.

Wishing you, your partner and your son all the very best for the future. Good luck with your job search in the New Year.

Take good care xx

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