Husbands/partners going to IVF appointments

[ochy1]

Do most IVFers husbands/partners go to scan appointments? Just wondering.

[Olivialinney]

Sometimes depends if he can get off work a lot of times I go by myself. Xx

[Hidden]

Mine didn’t. He only came to the main appointment at the beginning and then EC and ET. Scans only took a few mins and he works an hour away so wasn’t worth it x

[CLN1986]

Mine will only come to the EC and ET appt/scans. I might drag me mother along for a couple of the others, and then we can go for lunch after. Make it a nice morning/afternoon. But I’m quite happy to attend them alone. x

[Lou7744]

I usually attend alone 💕 xx

[Abaco]

We're having treatment in Poland so my husband has to come with me!! Too much of a scaredy cat to travel on my own! He come into the room when I have the scans, nothing fazes him!

[jm22]

My OH came with me to them all except for 1 of scans,helped him feel part of it all and kept me calm cause I'm not very good with these things xo

[Lovefood1984]

Mine came for all the investigative appointments but once consent was given and we started I did the downreg and stimm scans alone (for a few mins with the ultrasound probe it didn’t seem worth it) and then we did EC and ET together (well they need to be there on EC day for their bit 😉) I think he also came blood test day even though it was a phonecall for the results in the afternoon 😊

[Hidden]

I had planned on going by myself and did for my first stimms scan but got bad news and had to have my dose increased. Since then he has come with me for every scan as I needed the support.

[Aleelilook]

First round my husband came to them all, but after that (we have had a few more since!) he didn’t, I just didn’t need the support, only for the big appointments now cx

[andromedae9]

My partner comes with me to initial and follow up consultations, egg collections and transfers but scans I usually attend by myself. Best of luck x

[Hope4usall]

Just the main appointments as he has so few holidays from work. I don't mind now. I'm used to knowing what's going to happen at these appointments now so I really don't mind. I'd rather he used his holiday's on having a break and time away xx

[E_05]

Mine doesn’t come to scans, he’s always come to the main appts and EC and ET though xx

[LegoBatgirl]

He came with me to all the diagnostic and paper work appointments but we've agreed that he'll just come for the egg collection and transfers rather than all the scans.

Best of luck with your treatment x

[Sammy18]

Depends if OH can change a shift but I would rather he worked than come to a scan. He does come with me for EC, ETs and follow up. X

[Hidden]

For my first 2 cycles he came with me to all my appointments and scans, egg collection and embie transfer. This 3rd cycle im going on my own to all scans and appointments as he's working. Plus this 3rd round no one knows about it not even our bosses at work as i cant put us through the "sorry to hear that it didnt work" again!! So this round is a secret X

[genten]

Mine doesn't really to come to scans. He did when we were close to egg collection or transfer but not the ones in between.xx

[Dreamingofbaby]

Mine will mostly come with me to all of it if can ☺️

[Kari55]

My husband came to endometrial scratch, one of the scans, EC and ET with me. He couldn’t make it to all of the scans but it didn’t bother me although it’s nice if partners are able to attend all the appointments.

[sanj76]

Hi ochy, As a husband I went to each and every appointment. For me, it was as important for me to undestand the process, as well as read up on it and it made me better prepare for the coming months as well as being able to support the wife with all the emotions involved.

My daughter is one on on Sunday, this journey was incredible and I’m glad I was involved as much as I was.

[Bris09]

Mine comes to most but he works for himself so has that flexibility but I went alone to the last one x

[Kdixxy169]

Hi, we any together to all appointments, as it was all so new 2 sets of ears listening to all the info was definitely better for us. I'm due my 2nd ivf in a few months and I'll be asking him to come with each appointment x

[Minchoo]

Only during the initial tests and EC. He came to one or two scans it was all too much for him. Hahaha

[Anaknez]

Mine is going with me always, because if i get bad news i am not good with controling emotions

[Loublou1985]

Mine didn’t but that wasn’t my choice. It was easier for me to go on my own or take my mum. When we found out we were pregnant he came to the scans after that. X

[jessleach2018]

Hi hun I normally go by myself as my other half is self employed, obviously if they were baby scans it would be different ☺️ Good luck xx

[Cinderella5]

My husband came on the first round with me however as time went on and he's self employed Ive pretty much gone to most of my appointments by myself! Last time even went for transfer abroad by myself, you kind of get used to it all after a while!xx

[Jmaw]

My husband avoided coming with me at all costs! Apart from seeing councillor to talk about using a donor, and ‘doing his bit’ (which was compulsory) he waited in the car park! This is because he didn’t want to be seen! Glad it’s all over and we decided to pack the whole idea in and try to adopt x

[LauM]

If its a time where he is off work then my hubby did, tried to get early or late appts if possible but i often went on my own. Some appts he is needed, we only really wanted him to book time off for those ones. I was being scanned daily and just didnt see the point unless he was needed.

[TerryNaples]

We have not started the treatment yet, but my hubby has come to all the appointments with me until now, even if his presence was not strictly needed.

I don’t know what will happen when we’ll start the meds, as he’s a sous chef and has pro rata holiday, so he cannot ask too many days off and shift swappings. We’ll see.

[JessJ25]

Mine did until we realised it was a waste of his time x

[MrsElbow]

My husband has been such a massive support and comfort you me whilst going through this all... he has attended each and every appointment, however small. It helps him understand my (sometimes crazy) emotions, plus it's another set of ears to take in all the info. More than anything, it keeps in really involved in a process that is largely centred around me/ the female.

But each to their own! Whatever you choose to do should be right for you/ yours x

[Hidden]

Mine came to the ones he could, but I think the rest of my family were glad he couldn't make some of the monitoring scans as it meant they could come have a look, lol. I had my mum, my sister, my nan (if I was shy before, I'm definitely not now!!! hahaha!)

I didn't mind that he wasn't there for some of them, but I definitely liked having someone with me to talk to/wait with me if we needed additional bloodwork.

Everyone's different though, so you need to do what you think is right for you! xxx Good luck!

[lorraineb61]

Mine didn't come to the scans - he was there for consent appointment, review appointments (3 failed cycles although he got stuck in traffic for 1 and missed it!!) and then he was there for EC all 4 times & ET twice.

I didn't need him for the scans etc and as he works away it was easier just to try and schedule when EC would be so he would be at home that week!

[WhatAwait]

Mine (self-employed) came to all the appointments which was really nice because we were in it together and got all news at the same time. Our daughter was born on Christmas eve and turns two this year

[sandra81]

Mine only came for the initial appointment, egg retrieval and transfer then for the hcg test. All other appointments I went by myself.

[Hopeful1982]

I just went to scan appointments myself. My hubby came to the main appointments and EC and transfer. It just seemed a lot for him to keep taking time off work too x

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I found the internal scans uncomfortable and I didn’t want my hubbie there. Sometimes he was in the clinic but he never came in the room for an internal scan until we finally had an eight week scan where we saw our baby.

[Clark2018]

My husband has been a massive support and is keen on joining the appointments. There are a few he didn't need to be there and because you have so many you soon pick and choose which ones are important. x

[Mantaray75]

My husband has come to nearly everything with me. We both work near eachother and both our jobs are flexible about us popping out for an hour. I think it is fairly unusual here in NZ though as we hardly ever saw any men in the waiting room.

X

[Cindy1214]

Hey you. What's up? I think it is your own personal choice. I have seen partners going along for the scan. It is normal to take your partner with you. Actually, I think it helps you in staying strong. And it gives you positive energy. My best wishes are with you. Stay hopeful and blessed.