Devastated. Heartbeat but not viable.

[2-shades-of-hope]

*Upsetting content* I’m pregnant after FET#1 following unsuccessful first round. Last week at 6.5 weeks we saw a heartbeat and everything looked perfect. Today at almost 8 weeks the heart is beating faster, it looks more like a baby, but I’ve been told it is too small and will die. It is so cruel. I don’t know what I’ve done to deserve this. My baby is alive but I know it is going to die. As it’s still alive I can’t have anything to make me miscarry and end the pain. Has anyone been here? I have no idea how to get though this.

[Hidden]

I've not been through this Hun but just wanted to say I'm so sorry that your going through this. I had 2mmc which was bad enough but what your dealing with must be absolutely devastating. Sending you love & strength x

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriages x

[Aleelilook]

Oh god I’m so sorry, I’ve had a mmc and early miscarriage and it is quite simply horrific and my heart goes out to you 😞 we saw a heartbeat all was fine with our first, and then a week later it had stopped beating, and that was bad enough, I can’t imagine what you must be going through at the moment. There’s no real advice, just sending love xxx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Aleelilook]

Thank you, it’s devastating isn’t it. Sorry you’ve been through an awful time too xx

[Autumnmoon]

Bless you life really is cruel thinking of you and sending love hope you are surrounded by people that love you x

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Autumnmoon]

Thank you x

[Cinderella5]

Im so sorry, how devastating! I have no advice but Im thinking of you!xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you x

[romaluna2015]

I’m so sorry for what your currently going through . Xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to romaluna2015]

Thank you x

[genten]

I'm so so sorry to hear this. Heart breaking for you.

I've not been through this and can only imagine the pain.

sending lots of love. xxx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to genten]

Thank you x

[Elynn]

What a rotten journey..lm so sorry....big hugs

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Elynn]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

Sending lots of love ❤️

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

I cant even imagine how you are feeling. Sending lots of love xxx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. It’s so hard knowing there’s nothing I can do x

[Hidden]

May I ask if you have had a second opinion?

As last week I was told at my scan that I had conjoined twins, where one was dead and one alive but would die.

We’ve now had two second opinions, where both told me only one alive baby!

I could of booked myself in for a termination this week, if I haven’t of had the other opinions.

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Hidden]

That’s awful that you’ve had to go through all that trauma only to be told its ok. I hope your baby is ok. I haven’t had a second opinion, but they’ve said to keep taking luteal support and have another scan in a weeks time, by which point they expect it to be dead. I hadn’t really thought about getting a second opinion tbh, as you get so used to trusting your clinic, but at that point if it’s still alive then I probably should do.

[Hidden]

Well I would certainly recommend it, my clinics Dr was 90% sure it was conjoined twins.

I was recommended to go to the London fetal medicine clinic in Harley street, London, by many people who I work with in dentistry. The scan was only £100 and they fitted me in 24hrs. And they really took their time.

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for the recommendation, I’ve heard they are very good.

[baby2016]

I’m so sorry to read this 😢 I’ve had 2 MMC after seeing a heartbeat at 6wks, but what I find strange with your situation is the heart beat is still going strong, normal in these situations the heartbeat is starting to slow, not get faster. Have they told you how far behind your little one is? And have they offered you another scan in a weeks time? Still keep taking all the meds and I really hope your next scan reveals all is ok. I would def get a second opinion even if it meant paying for a private scan, even if just for your own sanity xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to baby2016]

I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriages. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it. That’s what I’ve found hard. The heartbeat was slow last time but today it was so strong. Horrible to think it’s trying to live. I am measuring 10 days behind and have a scan booked in a weeks time when they have said they expect it to have no heartbeat.

[Caroliono4 in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

Hello. I'm really sorry to hear your news. I'm really quite surprised to hear they've said this. I've had 4 miscarriages and for each one they've followed the textbook in terms of deliberately not making a diagnosis until after a follow-up scan two weeks later. I'd also expect the heartbeat rate to be a better prognosis of outcome than the size and I really hope this is the case for you xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Caroliono4]

Thank you. I feel so confused. I really don’t understand it all. Sorry to hear you’ve been through this 4 times that’s awful xx

[Caroliono4 in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

It's a horrible time. Take care of yourself and take time out if you need to xx

[baby2016 in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

Yes the thought must be truly heartbreaking and it’s the fact you can’t do anything to help that makes you feel hopeless as well as all the other feelings. I hope the next week passes as quick as it can for you. This journey is so hard, sending you a huge hug xx

[Binky1983]

I’m so sorry to hear this! I have no words but just wanted to say thinking about you and your partner. Hope you’ve got people around to support you at such an horrific time. Xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Binky1983]

Thank you that’s really kind of you x

[kelsbels88]

Oh my how shattering. Take it easy life if so cruel. Sending lots of love and thinking of you xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to kelsbels88]

Thank you so much x

[Blondie_81]

God this is so horrendous - poor poor you. I too can’t offer any advice and can’t imagine what you’re feeling - have they offered any support to you like counselling? Sorry I don’t know what to say - we’ve had 3 failed transfers so far haven’t even got to positive test stage and just undergoing our fourth with our last frozen embryo. Thoughts & prayers are with you xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Blondie_81]

Thank you. In all the horrible situations I’d imagined I’d never thought this could happen. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through so much. It’s such a difficult thing to go through. I hope your fourth transfer is successful xxx

[Mantaray75]

So sorry to hear this. I would also wait for the next scan.

I was told at 7 weeks the sac was empty and irregular and was booked for a d&c. I decided to wait and now I’m 14 weeks.

X

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Mantaray75]

That’s awful. I hope everything is going well for you now xx

[Mantaray75 in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

All good at the moment thanks but still can't believe its real. x

[Beechnut1]

I'm so sorry, your heart must be breaking. Sending you so much love and strength. Are they re-scanning you? I hope they are and your little one grows. xxxxxxx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Beechnut1]

Thank you so much. I have a scan next Friday xx

[Beechnut1 in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

Absolutely everything crossed for you 💜💜💜

[2-shades-of-hope]

Thank you so much for the support everyone. I really appreciate it as I know everyone is going through a tough time xxx

[misswinky34]

💯 percent get another scan, I’ve heard it before of them being wrong. I really hope you’ve got good news at your next one. 💕💗 love and prayers xxx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to misswinky34]

Thank you x

[Klndmr]

Im so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time .. But please please before making any decisions get a second opinion as well just in case. Wishing you all the best and i hope with all my heart you get your miracle and share good news after your next scan!!! ❤❤❤❤

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Klndmr]

Thank you for your kind words. I’ll post an update. X

[hannahkc]

Wow I just can't imagine how anguishing this is for you 2-shades.Sending massive hugs x ❤️

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to hannahkc]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

How awful, life can definitely be a so cruel at times. Sending you big hugs xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[Babyblues1]

Oh so so sorry to hear this. Life is just so cruel at times. I have no words. Thinking of you at this sad time. Take care and sending you big hugs xx

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Babyblues1]

Thank you that’s really kind of you x

[Billywhizz10]

I'm so sorry to hear this, my brother in law,( my wife's brother) lost their baby and it doesn't matter if the baby is 18 months old, or just 8 weeks. Support charities really got them through this time and the love and support of their family.

Have you contact ARC ? Your not alone and they can help.

ARC's national helpline

Want to talk? We’re here as often as you need us. Our helpline is answered by trained staff Monday to Friday, 10.00am-5.30pm call 0845 077 2290 or 0207 713 7486 from a mobile.

arc-uk.org/about-arc

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Billywhizz10]

Thank you for the link. I hadn’t heard of them but think that may be useful. I’m sorry to hear about your brother in law’s baby.

[Billywhizz10 in reply to 2-shades-of-hope]

As others have said, sometimes the're are mistakes with scans, but preparing for the worst will get you and your partner through, wishing the best for you xx

[Jayde2221]

Im so sorry, I'm holding onto all hope that they were wrong and because you have such a strong heartbeat that your little miracle pushes on! Keep us updated!

[2-shades-of-hope in reply to Jayde2221]

Thank you Jayde, will do xx