Thought I was doing ok 😔

[Reb990]

Hey everyone,

I had my first failed cycle at the start of August. After a few days of feeling sad, I started to feel ok.

Today, my first period started after the one when I knew the ivf hadn’t worked and I feel like it’s hit me like a tonne of bricks. I’m lying awake sobbing my heart out. I know it’s probably PMS but I feel as devastated now as I did when we found out that it had failed.

Did anyone else feel like this a month down the line?

[gattonero]

hey hun, I understand well. The IVF journey is a real emotional rollercoaster.

Mood swings are very frequent, unfortunately, but we've got so much on our plates (physically, psychologically, socially)!

Be patient with yourself, accept the fact that moments like these can happen and it's totally normal. Talk to someone you love, your DH, a friend or a family person you are close to. do something you like, treat yourself the way you think it can help you go through this (in my case listening to music/going to a concert or simply staying on the sofa watching a silly comedy with a cup of ice cream, doing some shopping with a friend, spending the weekend out with hubby).

Last week I've started seeing a psychotherapist. It took me a year and a half after the infertility diagnosis to accept that I may need a professional figure able to lead me through this. Staying on this forum helps so much too! We ladies here are incredible fighters

All the best Reb x

[LegoBatgirl]

Really sorry that you've had so much to cope with. I think you're incredibly brave and really glad you shared.

Hope you know that you always have people here who will support you x

[genten]

So sorry for how your feeling. I can only imagine. Xx

[Hidden]

I do think these shocks hit you sometimes later - like a delayed reaction.....

Give yourself loads of time to recover and process everything.

Xxx

[andylins]

I'm so sorry for how you're feeling. But this is natural and it's so good you're using this place to share your thoughts with others, not locking yourself in isolation..You're one of those bravies going through tough times.. Having mood swings is often caused by meds taken. Try to take this failure as the step forward. I'm sure your doc will investigate and make some improvements for your next cycle so that to boost the chances. I'm praying you feel better soon. All my positive thoughts going your way xx

[Elynn]

Grief finds it's own path...unfortunately its unpredictable especially when combined with hormones. Cry as much as you need too. It's normal. Be kind to yourself. Try not to shut out your OH. Big hugs.