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Does anyone else feel like they are living in a dream & one day you'll wake up & be able to get pregnant with ease?? Maybe it's because so many people are pregnant/having babies but I just think why us?? Why is it that we have to go through this long, draining process and others don't??? I don't begrudge anyone their bundle of joy, but sometimes it's just too tough for words! 😔xx

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Franco81

I know exactly what you mean, sometimes I wake up and think it can’t be real, this isn’t really happening; months, years haven’t passed as I’ve watched all my friends grow their families while I’ve been stuck on the sidelines. But then I realise it is and sometimes it’s too overwhelming but other times I can put on a smile and carry on pretending to be ok with it.

I feel your pain and if I could take it away from all of us, I would in a heartbeat.

We are warriors though and we’ll get through this, one way or another. Sending you a big hug xx

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Rainbowbright1 in reply to Franco81

I get 'putting a smile on' I think that gets me more than anything, this pain that no-one knows about as we just hide it, hoping it doesn't exist, cause if we think about it , it hurts too much! But you are right about us being warriors, we are stronger than anyone will ever know! Big hugs back 😍 xx

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Anna00

I feel exactly the same😔 I always thought I can get pregnant easily and now it looks like it was just a dream. We hide it from every one too and sometimes I think maybe it was easier if I could talk about it but then I think no I don’t like to talk about it🤦🏻‍♀️ Just hope one day our dreams come true.its not fair that we go trough all these things physically and mentally. That’s why we all are warriors. ❤️xx

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Rainbowbright1 in reply to Anna00

I often think I wish people knew, so i could be myself again and then I think no I don't want to talk about it. Total minefield! 🤦‍♀️ xx

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Anna00 in reply to Rainbowbright1

I know what you mean🤦🏻‍♀️ That’s exactly me xx

I’m here for you any time you need to talk ❤️

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Sunshine92

100% I feel like im living two separate lives sometimes, the emotional sobbing wreck behind closed doors and the brave face i put on to everyone else. I work with children, and seeing families come in with multiple children im in awe .. how is it that they can conceive multiple times and we cant have one? 🙁 life can be so unkind. But i try and focus on the good things i have, like my amazing husband. You are not alone lovely xx

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Rainbowbright1 in reply to Sunshine92

I work with kids too & like you wonder the very same thing ☹. I like to focus on the good things too (normally a glass half full type of girl) like my hubby & our families who are great! Just sometimes need to speak to people who understand 😘 xx

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Leo2017

I can totally relate - sometimes it just feels like such a blur - I find myself thinking is this really happening to us!! Why us!! 😢 then I paint that face on we all do and face the world like all is okay!! 😕 xxx

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Rainbowbright1 in reply to Leo2017

Make up covers multitudes right?? Glad we have this community that understands when we need it. We can only go so far on our own! 😍 xx

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Leo2017 in reply to Rainbowbright1

Absolutely - paint on the face & deal with the world!! 😕 totally agree I’ve found this site so much support over the last year, so many lovely ladies fighting this cruel battle!! 💗xx

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CBOO1

I think everyone has summed up this horrendous journey we are all on perfectly! I paint my face on every day, plaster on the smile, try to keep the pain from showing in my eyes & hope today is another day I can hold it together at least until I get home. It really is so unfair! Much love to all of you xxx

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Rainbowbright1 in reply to CBOO1

Awww big hugs to you too 😍 xx

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7AVA

I had a moment like this today where I must have momentarily forgotten and then remembered and couldn’t quite believe that, from where I’m at now, I’m probably never going to have my biological child. Sometimes it just doesn’t seem real 😢

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Rainbowbright1 in reply to 7AVA

And that's when it hurts the most, when it takes you by surprise. Just remember we are all here for each other. Sending you big big hugs 💖 xx

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7AVA in reply to Rainbowbright1

Thanks Rainbowbright - sending hugs back to you xx

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