Anxiety in loooong wait before first scan

[Wishfully]

I am struggling to relax after my BFP. First scan is booked for 30th April (7+4) which is another 2 weeks away! 2 weeks of not knowing if my body is doing what it’s meant to, if the embie is ok, if this really is my time or if that scan will deliver heartbreaking news.

We want this so much, but just can’t relax & I just can’t believe that this will be ok. 2 days ago I found my very pronounced symptoms just disappeared & I’ve been anxious ever since. Actually this morning they’ve returned, but the Clear Blue digital only reads 2-3 & hasn’t progressed to 3+ as expected, so now I don’t know what to think 😣

For those of you fortunate enough to have your BFP, how have you coped? How did you pass the time before your scan? How did you prepare yourself for the news? Were you able to relax? When did your levels progress to 3+ on the clearblue tests? Do you think it’s bad news that I’m tracking behind?

Sorry for the rambling post, been battling with my own mind and an overwhelming sense that this is too good to be true. Hang on in there rainbow baby 🌈🤞💫

[Hidden]

Awww dear. Sending hugs to you.The wait is always worrisome but try to stay busy and relaxed. Put away the clear blue coz it will drive you crazy and all that worrying is not good for the baby.

Do a few fun activities ,read a book ,meet friends and family for lunch, watch your favourite TV shows, focus on work.soon two weeks without pass by and you will know what's happening inside of you. Symptom checking is not always accurate and it will just frustrate you.

As hard as it is to not obsess about it, please try to carry on with life and send positive vibes to your baby. One day at a time. I don't think one can ever really relax but we can just try. I'm 22 weeks pregnant and every day is a victory.

I wish you the very best. Fingers crossed your little one is hanging in there growing and loving the warm environment .

😊😊😊😊

[Wishfully in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Hidden & glad to hear your pregnancy is progressing so well ☺️ Will try to relax, it’s so tough when it has been a hard fought battle to get to this stage. We have a holiday booked from next weekend, so hopefully that will be a good distraction. Thanks again for your reply & hope all goes well for you in the rest of your pregnancy xx

[NDE1987]

I am so glad you wrote this post Hun. I feel exactly the same. I got my first ever positive last Monday and my scan isn't booked until 8th may which is such a long time away!! In the process my fil passed away so it's just been a week full of emotions. I testsed this morning and the test read 3+ and this is a week after it read 2-3 weeks. But I still can't help not worry. I don't have any symptoms. I started getting heart burn and that's it. I am going back to work tomorrow after having what seems like a month of work. I think the distraction will do me good. Just feel ivf is forever a waiting game!!! I am so thankful for this opportunity and believe me I count my lucky 🌟 every day. I didn't think it would be possible to get to this stage. But every day I feel scared of miscarriage. Xx

[Wishfully in reply to NDE1987]

It’s torture isn’t it?? I think you are 3-4 days ahead of me in your cycle, so we are practically cycle buddies! I’m going to try to stop obsessing about symptoms and what could go wrong (easier said than done I think!!) otherwise these next 2 weeks will be the slowest ever. I’m so sorry to hear about your father in law, that’s so tough - I hope you and OH are ok xx Good luck & keep me posted on your progress xx

[NDE1987 in reply to Wishfully]

Yeah we are cycle buddies!!! But the feeling never goes away that something might be wrong. I do end up feeling scared every day. I don't know why my scan is so far away in may lol. I think I am around 5 weeks pregnant. So really an early scan won't be early!! Thank you for your kind words xx

[Becky179]

Oh hon. I'm feeling exactly the same as you. All people say you must try to relax... Yeah Yeah! Much much easier said then done. I came home from work on Wednesday because I got my self so worked up about everything. They said to go home & try to chill.

I'm 6 weeks today. Scan is 23rd at 7.1 weeks. I just can't shift the feeling that its all gone wrong again, or going to. Luckily my clinic has requested extra scans for me before my 12 week scan, due to my history.

Unfortunately we just can't second guess can we, I wish I could knit or crochet, to keep my mind busy, the school i work at need poppys making so maybe I'll get on YouTube. They will end up with x100! 😂

I'm not gonna say "try to relax" or "stay calm" cause like me I know you won't!

Big love hon & try to stay sane! Xx

[Wishfully]

Thank you lovely x It’s not just me driving myself mad then 😂 - it’s a tough wait & our minds are our worst enemies right now! I hope all goes well for your scan on 21st... you’ll have made 100 poppies by then 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺 😉 Hopefully the time will pass quickly for you xx

[Laureu]

Im the same😫 i got my BFP 5/4/18, i have my scan on 19/4/18 so only a few more days to go but I’m wracking my brains wondering why i have ZERO signs of pregnancy!! I don’t even know how far on il be or anything, i don’t know what date to start it from? I just feel normal its bizarre, I haven’t done any tests myself because it will just send me into overdrive, congrats on your positive! Fingers crossed all goes swimmingly for us all xx

[Wishfully in reply to Laureu]

Oh your scan is close! Hope all goes ok & that you have chance to ask lots of questions... & congratulations on your pregnancy 🤗 !!

You can work out your number of weeks by counting from your last period ... if you had IVF & are unsure, then count back 2 weeks from ET (for a 28 day cycle) or 2 weeks 2 days for a 30 day cycle. For some reason the doctors include the “gestation” period, which is the very start of your cycle, before you have even conceived.

I hope your scan goes really well xxx

[Ekjones86]

Hey lovely. For starters please don't rely on the clearblue test. Just use it as a guideline. I looked on their website for how it measures the weeks and people's hcg levels vary so much! I will try to find the link and send it to you.

I have so far managed to stay quite calm but you have been through a lot more than I have. Trust that this is your time. You have waited long enough for this. Maybe try going for a swim or a long walk in the countryside to try and clear your head a bit-blow away the cobwebs.

I have a really good feeling about this for you.

Try to focus on your holiday (easier said than done I know), and look forward to the break and a bit of relaxation.

I really hope you're ok. Thinking of you 🤗 xxx

[Wishfully in reply to Ekjones86]

Thank you for your really kind reply Ekjones86 😊 xx Trying not to get anxious but way easier said than done! How are you feeling? Do you have your scan date yet? I found a better app called What To Expect... has loads more info on there to keep me distracted! Hope all good with you xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Wishfully]

Ooo that sounds great thank you! I'm feeling ok...no date yet. Need to book in tomorrow. Have a feeling it won't be until may though 😣

Really hope you're ok. Telling yourself to not get anxious makes you feel even more anxious sometimes!

You look after yourself and your seed 😊 xxx

[Princes14]

You sound like your tormenting yourself with the pregnancy tests, step away from the clear blue! I know it’s so difficult to not test, says me who’s done 3 since her BFP 🙈 mine were simple cheap ish ones though...

Anyhow! I completely empathise with emotional roller coaster you’re riding I really do, but can I suggest reading, getting out in the fresh air for a good brisk walk, listening to music... cooking?! Something to keep your brain and fingers busy?! Keep talking things out in this forum also, many of us are in, or have been in the same boat...

I’m currently feeling all your anxieties trust me; our viability scan is on Tuesday 23 April 😬😬😬 Some days I’m climbing the walls. But I do find that talking it out helps a lot - get it all off your chest! Talk about in equal measure how you’ll feel if the scan goes either way, as one who’s had an ‘empty sac’ in the past at my viability scan, I wish I’d known how defeated and devastated I’d felt, this time I’m prepared. I hope. But I know how bitter disappointment feels.

Enjoy your bfp! Good luck for your scan, I’m keeping everything crossed and I’m thinking of you. ❤️

[Wishfully in reply to Princes14]

Thank you so much for your reply Princes14 😊 I’m sorry to hear that you found an empty sac in your previous scan... I don’t even know how I’d cope with that. I know it is one of many milestones, but I’m terrified of bad news,

Wishing you every bit of luck for a promising scan on 23rd April & for a wonderful & healthy pregnancy beyond 🤞🤞x

[Smang]

I know exactly how you feel. We keep testing as well and even knowing that weeks calculator is not that reliable I still continue to do so. I even bought two more tests today, but promised myself not to touch them for at least a week. I have no idea we drive ourselves mad with worry, but it’s because just want it so bad. Cheers to us having healthy pregnancies xx

[Wishfully in reply to Smang]

Thanks Smang - I reckon I’ll give it another week and then test again, but 🤫 don’t tell anyone 😉 Fingers crosses for us both!! Xx

[Newyeae]

I understand exactly how you feel. Unfortunately there is no real way to relax but just to have a little hope that everything is going to be ok. Even when you are at almost 20 weeks like me, there is always a little worry there but it does get abit easier once you pass your milestones. When you see your baby at your first scan it will make you feel better but then you still worry after it. Try to stay calm and have patience. I am sure it will all be ok but just feel how you need to feel. Time will pass x

[Wishfully in reply to Newyeae]

Thank you Newyeae 😊 And congratulations on your pregnancy xx

[Ekjones86]

How did you get on yesterday? Hope everything went well xxx

[Wishfully in reply to Ekjones86]

It was wonderful 😊 we saw and heard its tiny heartbeat 💗. I was going to post about it but I was scared I might jinx something! 🙈😂 I’m so glad your scan went well too... we’re on cloud 9 xx

[Ekjones86 in reply to Wishfully]

Oh amazing!!!!!! I was so scared to ask you. What wonderful news 🎉 !!!! Congratulations 😊 makes all the years of heartache so worthwhile xxx