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here we go again

Hi everybody. I've not posted in a while since my BFN, however I jumped straight back in to it and we had our 2nd transfer yesterday. We are so hopeful still, however I cant shake the feeling that getting excited will only lead to disappointment so I'm trying to think negatively so if it is positive I will be nicely surprised. Our clinic have been incredibly supportive, They recommended some counselling for us which they have kindly paid for on our behalf which I did feel was very beneficial in giving me the courage to move past the failed transfer and try again. Love and hope to everybody in all stages of your IVF journey xxxx

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Sounds like a nice clinic. Good luck for the tww xx

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thank you! xxx

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Best of luck Smithy1986, I’m happy your clinic is providing extra support because this can be an overwhelming experience both mentally and physically. xx

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you are so right, its nice that they actually considered my wellbeing before allowing me to jump in to another transfer. xx

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Best of luck. Well done for jumping straight back in there. Glad to hear uv been provided with counselling ❤

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thank you! xxx

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Glad to hear you've been well supported, it all helps! I kind of tried to do this in my 2ww, expect the worst and the best will be a surprise....not quite sure if it works but understand your way of thinking. Wishing you lots of luck for a BFPxx

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it certainly can't hurt can it! xx

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I am sorry you didn’t get your BFP first time around, this process is so hard. Like you, I’ve had to force myself to be a bit pessimistic on our second try, as I was so devastated the first time around as I really, truly believed it would work first time. I think that helped! I’m glad you managed to find some support and feel ready to go again. Sending you lots of luck and good vibes, I really hope you get that BFP xx

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you are so kind, thank you for your support xxx

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Wishing you lots of luck for the tww, glad you’ve had some counselling good on the clinic for arranging that xx

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aww thank you hun, I know they are a great support system I'm so grateful for all their help xx

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So pleased to hear your clinic are so supportive of you and that you have been been able to avail of some counselling. I’m wishing you so much luck for a positive outcome this time. I do think it’s really hard not to get excited, it’s only natural. Keep thinking positive thoughts and hopefully positive things and happiness will come your way. Lots of love xx

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Thank you so much, it has definitely helped. Even if I don't feel positive I certainly don't feel negative either so we will just take it as it comes xx

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lovely clinic and glad counselling was helpful. we found it helpful too...wishing you so much luck this time 🍀🍀🍀lots of love xx

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Vic! I love your lab! I have a 20 month black lab too! How long have you been trying to conceive? We have been trying for just over 2 years and it’s my first IVF cycle. Very nervous!

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Thank you babe, and to you too xxxx

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I honestly don't think I could have done this without ozzy..he is 28 months, daft as a brush but our world 💜we been ttc sine our wedding 3.5 years ago..yikes haven't said that out loud in a while. seem forever. we just had our 5th transfer. .hoping this is your time too xxxx

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Hi Smithy, I had to stop by and say good luck! Also I got my 1st bfn last March and went straight into an fet. Got my bfp on July 1st and am currently 37wks pregnant today. It certainly can work! xxx

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Oh wow! huge congratulations! I'm so happy for you, make sure you post a beautiful pic of your baby as soon as they arrive! xxx

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Good luck! xx

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That’s s great clinic you have. I think using counselling is very important as it helps dealing with and understand all your emotions.

Good luck xxx

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you are absolutely right, it has helped me realise that being stressed isn't going to help anybody. I also think I may start yoga to help me clear my mind. xxx

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