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Abandon Cycle

Hi ladies,

I posted a few days ago to say that after 6 days of stimms hadn't really had much response to meds, went back yesterday and only 1 follicle measuring 2mm, consultant agreed to try until Monday but she doesn't think there will be any great change,my lining is still thin and they really struggled every time to see my ovaries due to being very small and in a difficult place. She said my only option is donor eggs.

I am feeling devastated and not sure what questions I need to ask, as I am self funding it will be a struggle to find the money for another shot but I'm determined to find it some how but will have to go with whatever will give me the best outcome,whether that is using a donor egg xx

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Oh I am so sorry that you are in such a difficult position. I’m sorry that you haven’t responded but really hope that Monday brings miraculous news xx

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Thanks Lizzie, I'm preparing myself for the news. Hope your ok xx

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I’m so sorry lovely x is this your first round? Have they considered changing your medication? Xx

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Yes its my first round so didn't know what to expect but hadn't prepared myself for not reaching egg collection stage.

They didn't say anything about changing medication as on full dose, need to get to the bottom of why had issue with ovaries on every scan xx

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it is so very hard and disappointing when you prepare yourself mentally and physically, I’m so sorry. If you email Diane she will send you a list of questions that you can take with you as a bit of a guide really xx

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Just to add to this, I didn’t respond well to menopur alone, I do much better on high dose gonal-f with a bit of menopur thrown in (I’m 39). I’m not sure what your drug that you say you’re on max dose of, is, but don’t give up on the idea of a drug change x

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Sorry, I’ve realised that I already told you about this on a previous post. I’m a stuck record!

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Oh no problem at all you don't sound like a stuck record at all, 300 Bemfola and 150 Menopur x

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Thankyou, one lady ive been speaking to has emailed me a list of Dianes questions so will be able to go in armed. Don't know what I would have done without this forum! Xx

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It is my first round, Consultant said no point in changing medication as I'm already on max dose of 300 Bemfola and 150 Menopur x

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This is really harsh on you. Sending hugs xx

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Thankyou so much xx

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So sorry to read this, so cruel on you!! I hope during your follow up consultation they can provide some suggestions on alternative protocols for you to try!! 🤞🏻 look after yourself!! xx

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Thank you, a lovely lady from on here has emailed me a list of questions to ask when I go in for my review xx

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Sorry for delay.

I spoke to Consultant this afternoon and asked about different medication or a different protocol but he said that in his opinion it wouldn't work so going to have to get over this set back and think about my options xx

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So sorry to read this!! So unbelievably cruel!! Hope you’re looking after yourself and take time to think what next!! xx

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Thank you. Everything all happening at once, we are meant to be moving house Friday and should have exchanged contracts Monday but my buyer decided she wants a survey which is being carried out tomorrow so not sure if we will be moving Friday or not, really could do without the,additional stress. Once in the house will take some time out to decide what we are going to do xx

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Im so sorry to read this, this is so tough! I hope there might be a turnaround for you! 🤞😚

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Thankyou, me too don't think i can bare to hear the words again tomorrow x

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Im sure! Its must be so hard to remain positive but its not over until its over 😙😙😙😙 xxxxxx

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Hello,

Apologies for delay,sadly my cycle was abandoned today, no development at all. Need time now just to get my head together and then make a decision of next steps xx

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Ah im so sorry to hear this! I am gutted for u! Of course u need time to adjust to that news! Sending lots of love! 💕😘

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Sorry to hear this. It’s a very difficult time. I wasn’t in your position but I did donate my eggs to help another couple to try and fulfill their dream of becoming parents. All the best and let’s hope there is good news Monday x

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That is an amazing thing for you to do, I am really considering egg donation but have to save up again and from reading up ive seen it can take up to 2 years on the waiting list to get a donor. Is there an upper age limit of being able to receive a donor egg do you know? Im going to be 41 this year xx

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I’ve just started my Progynova for my first donor egg cycle. I had 4 rounds of IVF, and a MMC. I always got lots of eggs, bud sadly they were all rubbish! I was told my eggs had a 5% chance of working in November. We decided to go with a donor, and I’m not going to lie it felt like a massive decision, and I had a lot of soul searching and coming to terms with the fact I felt so broken. I turned 35 two weeks ago and they seem to think my eggs have always been a tad rubbish and that was hard. I’m really excited now and so ready for our time, but allow yourself time to think everything through. With regards to waiting times we found our donor in a matter of weeks, I think 4 to be exact, but we weren’t really looking and it was by chance I checked the website, and that’s with a London clinic. If you want to PM me then please do.

I would definitely question them regarding other drugs as I always responded better to a combination of gonal F and menapur! Sorry for the epic message! Xx

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Sorry pressed send too soon!

You must have been emotionally and physically exhausted after the 4 attempts but its really positive that you have made the decision to use an ED, wishing all the very best of luck. Let me know how you get on xx

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Apologies don't know what I'm doing at the moment,sent the first part of the message as a PM!! Xx

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Haha! X

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Thank you! I’m not going to lie I’ve definitely been a bit mental over the past 16 months! Xx

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Hi I’m sorry I don’t know I was 29 when I donated my eggs I’m not sure what the process Is the other way round. Have you asked your clinic?xx

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Hi,

So sorry hon. It is v hard.

After one cycle where I got 2 eggs 1 embryo and a bfp but miscarried , i had 3 cycles where I didn't make it to embryo transfer. The first I developed cysts, then I only got one immature egg that didn't fertilise, and I ovulated before egg collection on my 4th cycle.

After that I decided i couldn't keep putting myself through this, not could I afford to financially.

I now have 3 wonderful children through the help of 2 lovely egg donors, and I am going through a natural FET atm.

I wouldn't change my children for anything. I believe everything happens for a reason and if I hadn't lost my first pregnancy I wouldn't have my children. I cannot imagine my life without them. They are my world.

So please, don't see needing donor eggs as being a failure. It just means the universe says you need someone else to help you have the children you are meant to have.

Big hugs and pm me if you have any questions.

X x

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Thankyou so much, that is really reassuring. I have sent you a PM xx

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Sending you a big hug. And have replied. 😀

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This is lovely 💕

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Agreed 👍🏻 Such a lovely way of looking at it. I❣️it. I’m sure many women on here contemplating the DE route would love to read this message xx

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So sorry to read tour news. I completely understand how devastating it is as I too had an abandoned cycle last year. I too was shocked to hear that the clinic only did one protocol therefore they said nothing left to do other than donor. I had previously gone through two round with the nhs which was a different protocol and both resulted in fertilised eggs for day 3 transfer however neither resulted in a bfp.

I really think that different protocols help and I was very slow to recover from the abandoned cycle. However I am now going down the egg donation route. We decided to look abroad as being 41 now we did not want to wait. Going from an own egg consultation which said I had about a 1% chance of natural success which would be the same with ivf - to a 50% + chance with donor eggs - it was a no brainer.

The good thing about going abroad is that you can move quicker. And, like private clinics in the uk, most have financing options. The bad thing is that they are not just within 30 minutes and there are scans and bloods that you need done in the UK before they know your lining amd hormones are at the right level to get you over for your transfer. Usually you will be required to go twice to the clinic. First time for check up and sperm extraction and second for transfer. Like two mini breaks. 😁

Anyway, this is a long response but thought it would be good for you to know. Pm me if you would like any other info.

Oh, almost forgot to say that with donor eggs there are a lot less injections and drugs than with own egg cycle - which is another bonus!

Cx

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Hello,

Thankyou for getting in touch, I am at work at the moment,although struggling to concentrate so I will PM later if that Ok, really keen on exploring the ED option so will be good to chat to you.

Claire x

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Not a problem. Chat later x

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