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Struggling with tears tonight

I know it's only been a week since going through medical management of a miscarriage but tonight I'm so teary. I thought I was coping well, I have gone to work and been fine, it was a good distraction. I have been out seeing family and have had a long long walk in the fresh air today with my partner but tonight I feel low, it always seem to hit me on a Friday night and Sunday night (although this Friday I had an early night to avoid the sadness that comes over me) . Has anyone any tips on how to get back on track after a miscarriage? X

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My daughter lost her baby xmas week. We have had plenty of tears, cuddles and talks. Don’t expect too much of yourself, you have gone through a heartbreaking situation. Give yourself time but I will tell you something my dad once told me. He said every day you will feel that bit better, you may not notice the difference but you definitely will and before you know it, you will be ok. You won’t be sad for the rest of your life.

What my daughter is a big believer of is acupuncture, it helps with her anxiety and her fertility. She is booked in again for Tuesday. Maybe give it a try.

What you are feeling is totally natural, but I promise you, you will be ok . Take care xxxxx

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Hey hun. No tips unfortunately, just wanted to let u know im thinking of u! Be kind to yourself and if u need to cry let it all out! Here is a quote that's helped me before when in a bad place 😘 xx

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When the world says "give up". Hope whispers, "try one more time." xx

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I'm so sorry for your loss. There really isn't any advice other than go with how you feel and let everything out when you need to. Grief is a funny thing and it will overwhelm you when you least expect it. Take time for you xx

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I'm so sorry to hear about how tearful you are. I have miscarried twice and have just had an ectopic. Maybe try speaking to your partner or family more, it helps to be totally truthful about how you feel. It's easier on here because we don't really know each other, and other people can bring new perspectives. Try pin pointing why at those particular times you feel sad, maybe start a daily journal. I used to find that helped, even when I was having a good day, I would just write it all down. If not maybe speak to your doctor or find a counsellor? I had a couple of acupuncture sessions that made me feel better, and it's good for fertility too. Be good to yourself and remember that you don't always have to have it together, some days you will feel sad, that's part of the process. I'm here if you want to chat some more, look after yourself hun xx

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I would say that for me I had to just ride the emotion waves, being sad when I was sad and enjoying the times when I wasn’t sad. At first I found i could flip between ok and sad really quickly. Your hormones will still be settling down for a good while and so your emotions will continue to be a bit all over the place. Like I say, I just had to ride the waves.

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Sorry your feeling like this 😔. I’ve got no tips as I felt exactly the same and really struggled with feeling low. It wasn’t until I started my FET I started to feel like me again. Just take it easy and be kind to yourself xx

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Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply, I’m sorry that you have all similar sad experiences, I think my hormones are definitely readjusting as I have come out in loads of spots! Everyone on here is such an inspiration to me, you are all so brave. I now understand that what I am feeling is normal. I hope there are more happy days that sad days to come! X

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It’s early days. Please don’t try to rush your grief, it’s a process. I still cry for the babies I lost in April and September last year, heck the other day I cried for the baby I lost 9 years ago, but I’m not crying everyday anymore. What I’m trying to say is there’s no quick fix. Take it Day by day and though you’ll never forget your little one it will get easier xx

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I agree with everyone else there is unfortunately no quick fix, you have to allow yourself to grieve for your baby. I think I’m coping and then the smallest thing sets me off but I guess I’m realising that’s okay, we’ve ‘lost’ our most wanted ‘gift’ and only in time do we learn to live with that pain. Take care of yourself xx

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So sorry to hear you are stuggling :(. Sorry also to all the other ladies on here who have lost babies xx

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