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Life is so unfair 💔

After receiving amazing news before Christmas that our one and only round of NHS funded IVF has worked today my life has came crashing down.

My clinic took a HCG blood test which has showed my levels have dropped and I have infact lost our baby.

Truly heartbroken and don’t know which way to turn and go from here.

Our follow up appointment is booked for 2nd February which just seems so far away.

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Oh sweetie I'm so sorry, that's just awful. Sending you a big hug. I know February is such a long way away but I hope you get some answers that may help you in the future. Take care of yourself xx

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Oh Im so sorry! Life is so cruel xx

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So sorry to hear this! There are no words, thinking of you xx

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I'm so sorry to hear this, sending you hugs x

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Aww... sending you a big hug xx

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I’m so sorry to read this, there are no words. Take time to grieve for your baby, thinking of you xx

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Hi Chantelle07. So sad for you, nothing I can say! Just hope you’ve got lots of support around you. Thinking of you. Diane

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I’m so sorry that this has happened to you. All that hope and then for it to be taken away so unfairly. Look after yourself xx

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This has happened to us over xmas as well. She had a blood test on Wednesday and her levels were only 2. Had another one today but not holding out much hope. She is in a state, shaking , crying feeling sick. It’s heartbreaking. Sending hugs to you xxxx

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Very horrible situation to be in, my levels had dropped to 0.2! I’m praying for good news for your daughter 💞 sending hugs to you all too xxxx

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Thankyou my darling. I know exactly how you are feeling but as I said to my daughter there is nothing can be said to make you feel better. It’s only time that can do this and the support of family and friends which thankfully is in abundance xxxx

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So very cruel and so very unfair. I'm so sorry and completely understand the hopelessness and pain this news brings. As everyone says, it will take time to heal, so don't rush yourself xxx

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so sorry xx

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Hi , I'm so sorry to hear this. It's just horrible when you get so far and it is taken away . Big hugs to you and give yourself time and take care x x

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So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you. X

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I'm so sorry. I can completely understand your heartbreak. Take care of yourself. It may seem a long time until February but you need time to heal x

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I’m so sorry to hear this I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through xx

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I'm really sorry sending you big hugs xx

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I am so sorry for your terrible loss. So heartbreaking to have received this devastating news. Perhaps it’s best your review appointment is a 4/5 weeks away. Perhaps it will give you the space you need to grieve. I liked to wait a while after failed cycles as I felt I would be too tearful speaking to consultant and wanted to have a clear head to get the most from the appointment. Otherwise your clinic might keep you in mind for a cancellation if you are eager to meet with them sooner. Take good care of yourself and sending you love xx

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I was in the same situation in September although I had paid privately. I’m actually very anxious for my ET tomorrow (I have three frozen embies). Have a chat with the clinic, email Diane Arnold for some questions you can ask. Then depending on your age start to think about when you can go again. Praying for BFP in 2018. All the best x

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Oh dear it's completely so aweful

Hang in there gurlie

Take care of urself

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I’m so sorry for your loss x

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Really sorry to hear this sweetie 🙁 xxx

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So sorry to hear this. Look after yourself xxx

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I’m so sorry xx

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I’m so sorry to hear this. Look after each other. Hopefully the follow up will help with some answers going forward. Keep strong xxx

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So sorry 🙁 thinking of you xxx

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So sorry to hear this. It’s so hard. Take time to grieve x

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IVF can fail unexpectedly. There is no reason even sometimes.Same happened to me. Any update on what happened next? What happened to the follow-up appointment? I am glad I went to a clinic that offered multiple IVF in the same money. It was such a relief. I knew that financially I will still be strong. That made the whole difference trust me. Stress plays an important part in IVF cycle. I failed my first cycle because my body reacted differently to the transfer. I am glad the second time everything went well. You should also look for a clinic like mine. If you haven't started any other procedure yet. I will be glad to hear from you.

This is an old post; given the sensitive nature of this post I don’t think the original poster will want to relive this painful memory. Going through a miscarriage is a traumatic experience; particularly when struggled with infertility .( I’ve been there) Please look at dates of posts before replying this can cause distress; I know isn’t your intention. Xoxo

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