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Why can’t I have self control!!

So, I’m currently in my TWW and due to test tomorrow as instructed by our clinic but tonight hubby convinced me to test!!

I don’t know why I gave in as I know FMU is always best but I did it and you guessed it i hotness a BFN! I just feel so sad now like it’s all over 😞

I wish I had just waited now I’m sitting thinking about it and know I need to retest tomorrow but will be scared to now!

Is it really over? Anyone got any hopeful stories? X

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Oh no, sorry to hear that but like you say FMU is the one to use, so early on your HCG would be low and if your urine is quite diluted it could easily cause a negative test. Good luck for tomorrow xxx

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Thank you. I’m not feeling very hopeful but will test again tomorrow

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I’m sorry to hear, however the nurses even made me re test a week after my OTD. Unfortunately for me it was still a BFN.

I wish you loads of strength & hope it different for you tomorrow.

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Thanks for commenting, sorry to hear that. I’m not feeling very hopeful now but nothing I can do now just have to wait it out and see what tomorrow brings

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It’s difficult to wait, but I just didn’t see the point in doing it before, if you going to worry about it, it might as well be when you meant to actually test as a false negative is always on your mind till the OTD!

I felt devastated after my first BFN and thought I would never stop crying and the disappointment would never go, but somehow you just move on and I found the follow up appointment useful.

Good luck!

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Thanks hun. I had been so strong and avoided testing early but hubby said let’s just do it now and I caved!

I know it’s stupid and now I’ve started my worrying off. I haven’t had any real symptoms either way apart from the monster headache I had last night but I usually get them bad when AF is due so really not holding out hope!

Tomorrow is actually 13dp3dt so I presume as the clinic told me to test that if it’s not positive tomorrow then that’s it for this cycle

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Yes honey, it should show accurately tomorrow. Many people don’t show positives until later but it’s very unlikely in most cases it will show on the OTD.

Don’t worry about it now, try to get some rest and test again tomorrow to know for sure.

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Thanks Hun. I’m gonna try and sleep now and what will be will be. I can’t change anything now just hoping and praying tonight’s test was just due to my urine being too diluted and I will get my BFP tomorrow!

If not back to the drawing board, we have another round so have to speak to the clinic and get it started in the new year x

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First test in the morning is best. I will keep a look out for your update. Sleep tight xxx

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BFN - devestated 😭

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I’m so sorry! It’s terrible, look after yourself. Your follow up will help, there’s a lot they can learn from a first cycle to be able to know what to do better on a second cycle.

Look after each other for now.

Big hug to you.

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Thank you Hun. We are going to take today and be upset then Just enjoy our Christmas and wait for the follow up x

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Hi hun, I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Try not to worry about it for now...I know it's easier said then done but try your best to rest. Sending you best of luck xx

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Thanks for the message

Tested again this morning still BFN - absolutely broken 😭

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So sorry to hear this, hugs!xx

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Thanks for the message xx

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So sorry to hear this 🙁 xxx

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Thanks for the message xx

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I'm so sorry hun....sending you big hugs and the best of luck for your next cycle xx

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Thanks Hun. GL to you wherever you are in your journey xx

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So sorry, much love xx

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Thanks for the message xx

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I'm new to this forum, but just wanted to say I'm so sorry for you BFN :(. I can imagine how heartbroken you are. Massive hugs xx

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Thanks Hun, we are trying to focus on Christmas and see if we can try again in the New Year. GL with your journey xx

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