Wee update

[Squeak2]

Babies heart beat has stopped and now I need to decide what to do next. No idea what to do, does anyone have any advice on medical management or have advice on having a d and c? thanks xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Squeak2. I'm so very sorry to hear this, and I do hope you're receiving lots of support at this time. Medical management usually involves a few days of medication, and will put you into a form of labour. Sometimes this can still result in having to have a D & C too. Best to discuss this with your specialist in full, but I'm sure some of the other ladies here will fill you in with their experiences. Obviously, i hope whatever route you take, will be straightforward. Thinking of you. Diane

[Emily7]

Hi,

So sorry to hear your news. It’s so tough. I’m going through a miscarriage (my first) at the moment. I have a scan tomorrow where I guess they will give me my options. My father in law who is a private GP recommends a D&C (if required) especially as I won’t be near a hospital over Christmas. Can your clinic give you more advice? Big hugs xxx

[Cinderella5]

Im so sorry, no advice but sending huge hugs!xx

[E_05]

I’m so sorry for your loss, I’ve had both medical management and the D&C. I’ve had medical management 3 times and for me I had to have it in hospital although I’ve read lots of women don’t. It can be painful and make you feel quite sick as it puts you into a form of labour but for me it’s the route I always wanted to go. I did end up having to have the D&C as medical management didn’t work which is a lot quicker and physically a lot less painful. I hope the hospital are supporting you to make the right choice but please ask me anything if you want xx

[LauraGU]

I am so very very sorry. Thinking of you xxx

[Hidden]

So sorry.

I chose to let nature take its course and it did without any interference.

Take good care. X

[Sherry07]

I`m very sorry to hear that.

I had a natural miscarriage with severe bleeding, so I definitely recommend D&C or a medical management but staying in the hospital afterwards just to ensure you are in safe hands. Sending lots of love and prayers xx

[Squeak2]

Thank you all very much, as I realise it’s sad memories for you. I’ve decided to go with a d and c simply because I don’t think I can face a normal miscarriage again. It took me so long to having accepted it wasn’t my fault when I had one at 18, I’m now 41. Hopefully this won’t be the end of my journey completely as I’m not sure if I will have many options left. However, that can wait until next year as for now I have a loss to grieve over but feel numb right now. Thank you all again 💕 xx

[Aleelilook in reply to Squeak2]

I’m so sorry lovely, I had a D&C in May, and although everything is horribly emotional, the fact that I didn’t have to deal with it naturally and painfully made it bearable. The staff were lovely and the I was physically ok the next day. I’m sorry that this has happened, you’re in my thoughts xxx

[Poppy16]

So very sorry to read this sad post. I have had 2 D and Cs. Personally speaking, the procedure is quick, you don't suffer as much physical pain and brings better closure. One of the times I lost I was advised to let nature take its course. It was a long and horrible wait and not knowing what to expect. It made the loss even more acute. I did start to lose naturally but then ended up haemorrghing and had to go to A and E. In spite of losing so much blood I hadn't passed everything and needed an emergency D and C. Do what you feel is best. Any option isn't pleasant. I feel for you so much. I hope you get all the support that you need right now and in the days that lie ahead. Take care. Sending a hug.xo

[DC13]

I am so sorry to read your post and totally understand what you are going through after we had a successful 6 week scan but then lost the heartbeat.

The eps should provide you information on your options. I can only speak from my own experience and more than happy for you to PM me.

The three options for me was

1) To allow things to happen naturally. This could take some time and can be unpredictable on when things might start to happen. They should give you pain medication advice

2) you might be given the option to take oral medication over a period of time and if necessary to be monitored at the hospital for progression

3) surgery

I don't think there is a wrong or right way and you need to decide what is appropriate for you.

I initially wanted to go the natural route but changed my mind in the end so I could have more control on when things took place.

I ended up taking the surgery option

Please do PM me if you want to know more.

Sending you a big hug. so devastating.

xx

[Lynnedevine85]

Loads love to you . I'm so deeply sorry xxxxxxx

[Hidden]

😞... I says sorry cos I know your pain and send you virtual hugs cos you need em x

[Se99]

I’m so sorry to read this, I opted for a d&c in July, I had no problems and felt it was the best option for me to move forward. Take plenty of time to grieve, again I’m so sorry x

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[Squeak2]

Thank you, it still doesn’t seem real yet. 😢 xx

[Sienna2 in reply to Squeak2]

I am in the same situation go back today to discuss miscarriage options and just can’t make up my mind, swaying to D&c due to it being so close to christmas xx

[Amanda86]

So sorry 😞 thinking of you xxx

[Squeak2]

I’m booked in for a D & C tomorrow, unfortunately they couldn’t do it any sooner. I feel like my life is in limbo just now... love and hugs Sienna 2 and hope your well Amanda 86 💕 xx

[Sienna2 in reply to Squeak2]

Hope it goes as well as can do Hun xxx so sad

[Squeak2 in reply to Sienna2]

Thankyou, will be thinking of you also 💕 xx

[tiger-cub]

A miscarriage happening naturally with loads of bleeding and pain . And there's no guarantee that everything would pass . And D&c is a bit invasive bit does guarantee u pain free procedure after which u r on d road to mend

[Squeak2]

Yup I went through that when I was 18, horrendous to say the least and the emotional scars from that never fully leave. Took me years to understand that 😞 xx

[Sara-J-]

Hi Squeak, so sorry for you xxxx I went through the same thing but decided not to have medical management and go it alone. They gave me strong painkillers just in case I needed them. It was a really bad two weeks of bleeding and emotional pain. The physical pain has gone now but I’m thinking the emotional side will take much longer to heal. I’m sending you big hugs. Xx

[Squeak2]

Thank you and I’m so sorry you had to go through that xx