12 week scan.. Fluid on baby neck :(

[Beckyboo1985]

I had my 12 week scan today and unfortunately its not looking good. My baby has 17mm of fluid on its neck and the norm is around 3mm. We have to go back Monday to see specialist and get results from the blood tests to see if I'm high risk of downs etc. They wasn't very optimistic and now we are so confused and upset. The baby was also in a awkward position so. It was hard for them to see the heart. Were praying for a miracle but I feel like its going to be bad news. Not sure how to deal with this, I feel so scared. Xxx

[Penders]

Oh hunni Im so sorry. Will be praying for you. Sending you lots of love and great big hugs ❤️❤️ Xxxxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Oh bless you, I will be holding you in mind x

[_MrsC]

Oh gosh. I’m really sorry you’re having this worry. It’s so unfair after all you’ve been through to get to this point. x

[Kyell2]

I’m so sorry! I have no advice to give. Hopefully Monday comes around quickly and that it isn’t quite as bad as they first thought xx

[Hidden]

Oh im so sorry, i hope you get some more positive news on Monday, sending huge hugs to you both xx

[emiraven62]

i'm so sorry. Hope you can get better news soon xx

[Sabnon]

So sorry to hear this. I hope you will get positive news on monday. I pray for u and your babys health 🙏

[Tugsgirl]

How terrifying for you. I’m really sorry. I’ll be hoping for a miracle for you too xx

[Poppy16]

Keeping you in prayer at such an anxious and stressful time. Trusting there will be a positive outcome on Monday. Really thinking about you.xo

[AllWeNeedIsluv]

Big hugs hun. Life is never simple is it. Constant worry and uncertainty. I really hope you get some positive news on Monday. 💗🤗😘

[Amanda86]

Sorry to hear this. No advice I'm afraid, I hope Monday will bring more positive news for you. Thinking of you xxx

[Sunshine09]

Thinking of you hunny, sending loads of positive vibes ur way, we just had our harmony test done yesterday an anxious 3-5 day wait for results, keeping everything crossed for you 🤞❤️😘💋💋

[sipidania]

Hi Beckyboo - it is a really terrifying time, I know only too well. I had my baby girl 4 months ago, as a result of IVF/ICSI last year - I was on this site a lot as we did 3 rounds of egg collection before our first successful transfer! I just want to tell you that if it turns out that your baby has Down Syndrome, it is not the end of the world even if it may feel like it at the moment. My little girl has DS and is just perfect, and as we have found out, there is a whole community of people who will welcome you and your baby with open arms. I also went through the whole blood test, NIPT/Harmony teat and finally an invasive CVS test so have been through all that. If I can help in anyway please pm me. Best of luck for your results that your baby is strong no matter how many chromosomes he or she has xx

[sandy112]

Sending u hugs n kisses xx

[Cinderella5]

Oh what a worry for you both! Just wanted to say that Im thinking of you. Hope the appointment goes ok on Monday!xx

[Missy_22]

I’m so sorry for this news. Nothing is confirmed yet so take it easy and wait until you have some more tests. Big hugs xxx

[Lojane]

My heart goes out to you and am hoping that you will have good news on Monday

This will be of little comfort but you are not alone in having to deal with this. My daughter and her husband have just been through the same situation. They had to be sure and had the Harmony blood test privately and CVS and although the outcome was not good they have come through it together. The hospital was completely supportive and dealt with them in a very sensitive way. They are now moving on in a positive way and will have pre-genetic screening on the next embryos.

We now understand just how common this is not only in IVF but in general and I strongly believe that PGS should be offered to all. I just want to make it clear that it was not DS and there was no hope of survival in my daughter’s case .

I truly truly hope that you won’t have to face the same thing and am thinking of you xx

[Beckyboo1985]

Thank you for taking the time to write to me.. Reallly kind of you. We had the harmony test today so we will await the results in 7 days. With such a high reading of 17mm on the nuchal fold reading we are expecting the worst anf I'm just trying to prepare myself for the news that we are probably going to loose our angel. We had 2 rounds of IVF which both didn't work and then we fell naturally this time. I'm just in utter shock at the moment and trying ro be strong but its so hard. We thought we would be telling the world yesterday our happy news but instead we left in tears and not knowing what's goinf to happen next. Xxx

[Scarlett13 in reply to Beckyboo1985]

I'm so sorry to hear - this is just too cruel. I really hope you don't lose your baby. If your baby has Down syndrome then I just wanted to say that although some people with DS have chronic health issues, so many people with DS can live a happy and fulfilling life. A friend of mine has a wonderful teenage girl who loves one direction and is able to get a bus by herself to go to college. I've worked with amazing children in the past with DS too who are just adorable and so loving and really enrich their families lives. I am thinking of you both at this very difficult time and hope that your baby will be ok. I'm sorry you have a long wait for the results - be there for each other xxx

[Beckyboo1985 in reply to Scarlett13]

Thank you so much xxx

[Duda-24]

Sorry to hear that, lots of hugs and kisses.