TTC 4 years PCOS struggling to be positive

[Bella_12]

We started TTC 4 years ago, then found out I had PCOS and my periods were all over the place. Now they are pretty regular and a lot of my PCOS symptoms are gone. We use to talk about TTC but not so much in the last couple of years and now it feels like the elephant in the room. Feels like everyone around me either has children or is expecting and I feel like I’m the odd one out. It’s got to the point where I literally talk to no one about it and keep my feelings to myself so thought it might be good for me to join here!

[E_05]

Welcome to the forum, I think we all understand that feeling of everyone having a baby so you’ll definitely have people to talk to who ‘get it’ here. Have you thought about maybe bringing the conversation up again about having children or have you been to your GP to talk about being referred to a fertility specialist for help? x

[ZessB]

Hi PCOS sister,

TTC is a struggle and even more when we think it's because our body cannot function normally. Rest assured, there are many women that manage to conceive despite being diagnosed with PCOS. Sometimes, all that's needed is a little help from doctors and that's absolutely fine, nothing to be ashamed of. The first step would be to see your GP who will then refer you for some tests. It may be that your partner's swimmers are not so good and this can only be revealed with tests. As for speaking up about how you feel, you could ask your GP to see a counsellor or even better, have an honest chat with your partner. I also found talking to my parents has helped me go through this difficult period. Whatever you do, never lose hope. Miracles only happen to those who have dreamed them. Best of luck to you xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Bella_12. Well you've taken the first step and finding some much needed support. I'm hoping that you are to be referred to a specialist for further investigations/treatment?? I wondered, apart from being here, whether it might be an idea to seek some support from other sources too. You can access information about Support Groups in your area by going to our website fertilitynetworkuk.org and click on “How can we help you” – “For those trying to become parents” – support – fertility groups – England – then select the area you are looking for.

There is always the opportunity of counselling which should be available at your clinic/hospital or through your GP, as "ZessB" suggests. A charity called the “British Infertility Counselling Association” can also be accessed at bica.net this is not a free service, but they are all specially qualified in counselling people with fertility issues and partnerships problems surrounding them. It's never easy for any of you girls, but don't be isolated or alone. Wishing you huge success with whatever lies ahead for you. Diane

[Bella_12]

Thanks for your reply’s! I have been to the doctors and had lots of tests done which was when I was diagnosed, then I was put on metformin which has really helped me. Me and my DH spoke about testing and the possibility of needed help but he really doesn’t want to go down that route and after we spoke about it we both agreed it wasn’t something we wanted to do. One of the reasons is because when we started trying the pressure of it affected DH where he could not get an errection, it was only when we stopped for a little while that he was fine again. I just feel like if we went down that route it would be more pressure and there’s no guarantee it would work. I guess I’m just thinking if it’s meant to be it will be, however it doesn’t make it easier when I see other people get pregnant so easily, I can’t help but feel resentful which I hate feeling that way ☹️

[Tracy44]

I know exactly how everyone here feels. I'm 32 years old and have been TTC for 4 years. I just got my period today and I don't feel very happy. So many girls I know got pregnant without trying or on the first try and I'm just frustrated. I pray every day. I asked my co-workers and family members to say a prayer for me. I get so frustrated sometimes. But then I also realize how lucky I am to have such wonderful husband. I had a talk with DH yesterday (who has been very supportive) and we both are being very hopeful. Yes we had failed ivf and treatments did not work. But we want to believe! We have to have hope for sake of our future baby! We're supposed to see the RE soon. We are planning to move to the next step. We are willing to do whatever it takes to have our baby, even if it means using egg of a donor, surrogacy or adopting. Let’s keep going together to our dream! I think God will give us a chance to be moms when the time is ours. Sticky baby dust to all.