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Will the worry ever stop?

Hi everyone, I hope your all well.

As some of you know we got blessed with our BFP and found out it's non-identical twins. I am still in shock and can hardly believe it even with a huge tummy at only 7 weeks and 5 days. I've had all the symptoms that come along with pregnancy. I am so scared to be happy as I have the constant fear something is going to happen.

I have booked a private scan when I am 10 weeks as I can not handle waiting until I am 12 weeks.

I keep getting twinges in my stomach with dull aches which I know is due to the little ones growing. It's sending me mad if I'm honest and I can't enjoy the fact that I am pregnant.

Sorry for the long post on a Sunday morning and I hope I don't offend anyone as I don't want to sound ungrateful.

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Hi, i am also 7+5 with a singleton pregnancy. I have also had the sort of pains you seem to describe. I believe its the uterus growing and stretching. If this was the case i would imagine you would have this even more! congratulations!!

I thought i'd be out buying all sorts by now but remain cautious. I think that's only natural. I try and take one day at a time and still can't quite believe it.

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

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Thank you for replying it's nice to hear from someone in your shoes. Wow there is a few of us that are due on the 15th of May isn't that wonderful.

Thank you again 😘😘 xx

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Its like when you stand up and get a sharp twinge thinking is everything ok?, then every time you go to the loo checking there's no blood!

Has your EDD been brought forward now you have two little angels? Xx

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I have gone through so much toilet roll I'm there that much 🙈. I phoned the midwife unit and they were supposed to call me but haven't yet. I have not got a clue what the next steps are which is hard because with ivf there's always a next step. I have been told that it will be consultant based care as I'm high risk as there's two. I've also been started on 5 mg of folic acid.xx

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Sounds like you will have a booking appointment next with the midwife who will allocate you also to consultant led care. Are you also taking vitamin D? Xx

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Yes I'm still taking my pregnacare vitamins as they said I will just pee out the extra folic acid. They have given me healthy start vitamins to start once my expensive vitamins are finished.xx

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You're no ungrateful at all my dear it's part of it - the worry. For my part when we got to about 30 weeks or so I started to feel like we might get to the end ok. I know that sounds a long way away but you've been through so much already you can do it xxx

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Thanks Kitty I feel like we have had a long journey together. How are you?xx

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Congratulations! I'm another one at 7+5 today and feel exactly the same. I've been getting what essentially feel like period pains throughout and although I feel a bit better after my 7 week scan, I'm still so anxious that it means something will go wrong.

Someone I know has just announced that they're 8 weeks pregnant (unplanned) and it just made me realise how much worry & stress I've already been through just to get to the stage she's found herself in without even knowing! I think it's natural to feel like this when you've been through what we all have. I know that probably doesn't help you feel better but at least you know it's not unusual.

Take care of yourself and just take it all one day at a time xx

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Wow lots of May babies 👶🏼. Thank you for your reply I'm glad I posted this now. I've had cramping for the day they put the Embies back so you would think I would be used to it by now.

Good luck with your pregnancy and thanks again.xx

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I am 18+5 and still worry every day!! With all we have been through to get here it's not surprising we worry so much.

I am still on knicker watch daily just in case. 😬

Hope you have your scan early and it helps ease your worry a bit. And massive congratulations on your pregnancy xxx

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Thank you for replying it's crazy the knicker watch 😳. I've booked a private scan at 10 weeks hopefully I can then chill a little but it's highly doubtful. Congratulations on your pregnancy too xxx

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Totally understand your post, I'm 7 weeks tomorrow and still waiting for my first scan but I don't think the worrying will ever stop until we're holding our healthy babies then a whole new load of worries will begin! I've started to experience twinges again and I'm always worrying it's something going wrong but google (I know the dreaded dr google) has informed me it's 'normal' for everything stretching. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

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Yip where would we be without Dr Google I have promise myself from today not to google lol. Wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy xx

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It's nice to hear that lots of us are experiencing the same things. I'm just trying to plan nice things so the time will pass till my 10 week scan. We're just wishing time away at the mo. I'm hoping when we're in the 2nd trimester the worry will ease. it's so nice to have the support on here so we never feel alone. We all feel the same pain and fears. Just try and remain calm and positive 💪🏻❤️👶🏻 (double for you hehe 💪🏻💪🏻❤️❤️👶🏻👶🏻)

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Double trouble 🙈 Although I still can't believe that xx

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Your feelings are so so normal. It’s not being ungrateful at all. You’ve wanted this for so long and been through so much to get it that sometimes it feels too good to be true. You feel it will all be snatched away from you..

I hope your ten week scan gives you some reassurance and with each scan afterwards you can begin to relax and enjoy your pregnancy xx

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Thank you Tugsgirl I feel better knowing people understand. My darling husband just keeps telling me to enjoy it. I love him for that as he has been my rock.xx

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You're definitely feeling normal. I think we've been through so much to get to this point that it's only natural that we worry that something will happen to take it away. Until you get your babies in your arms you don't really believe it's real. I had cramping and shooting pains on and off for quite a while. It was at least the 10 week mark before it settled down. It could be your uterus stretching or if you had a fresh transfer it could be your ovaries going back to normal after EC. When I had my 7 week scan I asked the question and I'm sure I remember being told my ovaries were still the size of golf balls and take time to go back to normal.

I hope your scan gives you some peace of mind and you can start to relax and enjoy your pregnancy, but if you do carry on worrying then just remember it's normal.

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Thank you for replying. Yeah my ovaries are still huge and I have few fluid still so that won't be helping. Roll on 10 weeks then 🙈 Xx

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Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy, I don't think the worry on this journey ever stops until you have a baby or babies in your arms, congratulations 🎉👣👣🌈🌈💋💋

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Thank you very much xxx

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I'm 7 weeks 4 days today and I had my scan on Friday where I saw the heart beat and got told it was a healthy pregnancy. I think I relaxed Friday night and then Saturday the worry started again! I too get cramps and pains but I got told my ovaries are still really large and that will be some of it. I wish everyone good luck on this journey and I think once xmas hits I'm hoping it flies over and everyone's babies are born healthy and happy. Good luck to you all 🍀 x x

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Aw good luck to you spottydog it definitely a worrying time. I keep thinking about xmas day and then into the new year. I've never wished the days away so much 🙈.

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xx

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no its not ungrateful to feel like that. Its because of all the trouble you have been through to get that which makes you worry that it might get snatched away as through experience you have learned how nothing in life is guaranteed to anyone and how nothing is permanent but all the best with your pregnancy.

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Thank you so much and good luck with your journey xx

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