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Life is so cruel! πŸ’™πŸ’™

So after a successful IVF journey I got pregnant with twins and then at 16w 5days my little boys were taken away from us! Why is life so cruel and unfair!!

All we want is a little family

Heartbroken πŸ’”

Xx

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Oh my god I am so sorry to hear this. My heart really does go out to you. β€οΈπŸ’”β€οΈ

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I'm so sorry to hear this. Can't even imagine how devastated you must be....thinking of you xxx

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I am also so so sorry to hear this. I hope you are getting all the support and help you need. I can't imagine what it would be go to through that. I know there are organisations that do offer support for couples who have gone through a miscarriage - hopefully others on here can advise. It really is cruel and unfair. Thinking of you xx

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I am so sorry to hear this, life is so cruel. Thinking of you lots x

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So so sorry to hear this, life is very cruel. Hope your being supported. Thinking of you xxx

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so sorry 😒❀❀

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I am so very sorry πŸ’”. Thinking of you. Xx

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Utterly devastated for you and so disappointed for you. Absolutely shocking news. Thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers. Big hugs. X

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I am so sorry to see this. Life is indeed cruel and unfair. I can only imagine how you're feeling. Sending you love and hugs. xx

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I'm so so sorry. This is absolutely heartbreaking. Thinking of you xxx 😘

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Hugs..... that's pain is immense nothing can ease it. For now let the pain just work its way and you get by 1 minute at a time x

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So sorry to hear this, life is so unfair.

Xx

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I'm so sorry for your losses. I cannot comprehend how you must be feeling. I hope you are both getting all the support you need. Thinking of you xx

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Life can be so cruel. So sorry for you. Take good care xx

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I'm so sorry to hear this :( life can be so cruel, just take one day at a time. My heart and hugs go out to you πŸ’• xxxx

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So so sorry to read this. Sending big hugs and love. Try and be kind to yourselves xxxx

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Oh no :-(

So so sorry...no words will help with your pain right now, but know that we are here.

You couldn't have loved or wanted them anymore, so never ever blame yourself...life is just very cruel x

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Life can be so cruel and I'm so sorry for your loss x

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So sorry to hear this, devastating!! πŸ’”xx

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So devastating for you, I'm truly so sorry for what you're going through.

Sending love and strength to you.

xxx

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I am so sorry! This is just awful news. Life is very very cruel, thinking of you xx

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So sorry to read this, it really is so cruel. Hope your getting support xx

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So so sorry to read this! Thinking of you both. Take care xxx

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I'm so so sorry to hear this. Life is indeed cruel and unfair . Sending you loads of love . Hope you have support. So so sorry xxxxx

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I'm very sorry to hear this. Really cruel and unfair πŸ’” Sending hugs and prayers x

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Oh gosh I'm so sorry! Life is very cruel!!xx

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So sorry to hear such sad news. Look after yourself. X

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I'm so very sorry. Take care xx

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I am so desperately sorry to read this :( What happened? Am sending you lots of love but know there is nothing anyone can say to make this ok xxxx

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So so sorry hun it's utterly devastating. Hope your being supported. Big hugs and lots of love πŸ’—πŸ€—πŸ˜˜ were all here for you if you ever need to chat πŸ˜˜πŸ’—πŸ€—

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Sorry to hear your devastating news xxx

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So sorry for u xxx

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I'm really sorry Hope85.sending hugs to you. It's really so cruel .

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Oh I'm so sorry. How devastating for you. Life is cruel and incredibly unfair. I'm thinking of you. xxx

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So sorry to see this. Thinking of you xxx

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So sorry to hear of ur loss my heart goes out to u and ur family at this sad time sending big hugs and love. Xx

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So sorry to read this. Life really is unfair sometimes. X

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So sorry.

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Thank you all for your kind words! Still can't believe this has happened to us! Feels like they have us our dream then snatched it away again. Xxx

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So so sorry to hear this x such a sad and upsetting time for you xx it's so unfair xx thinking of you xx

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Oh you poor things. I'm so sorry. Thinking of you xx

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Hunny this is devastating and I can't even imagine how you are feeling. Sending much love and thinking about you x x

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I'm so sorry sending love xx

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πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”heart broken for you..sending massive hugs xxxx

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Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear about your grievous loss! I know no amount of words can give you any comfort at this moment. Take your time to heal, both mentally and physically. Hugs!

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Sending you so much love and strength, unbelievably sorry for your loss πŸ’”

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Oh no so sorry so speechless. I pray you and your family take time to heal for this...so heartbreaking.

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so sad to see this xx

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I cannot imagine the heartache you are going through x

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So very sad to see this - it really is so cruel - look after yourself and each other xxx

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Oh hunny I am so sorry to read this, no words, just sending you loads of love and cuddles, thinking of you both xxβ€οΈπŸ’‹

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So so sorry to hear this - it's heartbreaking. 😒 Sending you lots of strength. It's so hard what you are facing and so cruel and unfair. My heart really goes out to you and your OH. Look after yourselves and each other and take the time you need. Xxx

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I'm so sorry honey! I can imagine your devastation, it's so so cruel.

Try to be kind to yourself and surround yourself with loving and caring people who can be wuth you and provide support. Take some time to grieve but don't lose all positive you have...thinking of you. hugs xx

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Oh no, I'm so sorry to read this! I can't begin to understand how dreadful this is for you but just want to send you all my love and hugs and tell you that I'll be thinking of you, life is just so damn cruel πŸ˜”β€οΈπŸ’” xxxx

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So sorry to hear this it's so so tough and my heart is going out to you. We are in a very similar position - we got pregnant earlier this year with our first round of ICSI, and lost our identical twin boys also at 16 weeks from TTTS in April. It feels particularly cruel to have got to over 12 weeks (when you're supposedly in the "safe zone".) and I was so ill when I was pregnant - all for nothing. I found it very helpful joining TAMBA - they have a closed Facebook page for people who have lost one or more twins and although it's so sad to hear other stories you realise that you're not alone. YOu can also ask to speak to a befriender from that organisation, who has been through similar things. I also got referred to the bereavement counsellor at the hospital that we lost them and she was fantastic. I don't know what the cause of you losing them was but in our case the cause was TTTS, and it is still a bit of a comfort to know that I lost them when we did as we were just as likely to lose them at full term from the same thing and I don't know how I could have dealt with that. Is it still early days for you? I can say that things do get easier but it takes time, and now at the moment I'm near to what would have been my due date and am finding it quite hard again. I found that when I had the miscarriage so many people say that they have also had miscarriages, but a miscarriage after IVF and everything you have had to go through is appalling, as is a late miscarriage. Anyway, I really hope you look after yourself and don't put any pressure on yourself re: work or getting better. Sending you lots of hugs. x

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Hiya! Thank you. Yeah it's early days only happened last Tuesday still very raw. I had an infection and it started my labour. Just so hard to deal with, just wanted to feel normal again x

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That really is so early and so raw still - I can't even remember the first few weeks after we lost the twins. Me and husband were just in absolute shock for days after the initial diagnosis sitting there staring into space for a few days and it just all felt so surreal. I couldn't be on my own for very long when it happened so had relatives staying with me all the time so I didn't need to be on my own. It helped hubby go off to work and get back to "normality" for him. Of course you want to feel "normal" again - and I promise that you will (speaking a few months down the line it still feels very sad but bearable). It did help me going back to work after 3 weeks but think I went back a little too early - was crying at my desk to being with - so don't rush back too early if you work. Also your hormones will be all over the place - the further along in the pregnancy the worse it is in terms of impact on your body and you probably have IVF drugs in your system still. It took about 6 weeks for my periods to return - then it felt as though my body was "resetting" and my milk came on too very painful a week after we lost them - that was also a very painful reminder. Make sure you enjoy some treats (I had the odd glass of wine, lots of chocolate and nice bubble baths) and massively look after yourself along the way. xx

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Thank you again, my boobs have just started to get sore and leak which is horrible. We're like that now just numb and empty. I have been signed off for 3 weeks but I will see how I feel. My partner is going to go back into work tomorrow hopefully he'll be okay and like you I have friends and my sisters coming round to keep me company xx

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Glad you've been signed off - I couldn't bear the thought of going back to work for the first few weeks and when I did it was too early. Glad that you have people coming over to be with you too that really helps. Take good care of yourself things will get easier with time. xx

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Beyond sorry to hear this! Thinking of you xx

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So so sorry to hear this...literally have no words πŸ’” xxx

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So so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you. Xxx

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I am so sorry to hear this devastating news. xx

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I'm so sorry to hear this thought are with you xxx

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Hi Hope85. How cruel indeed! Just wrap all these replies round you tightly, and feel some comfort from all the ladies here. Diane xxx

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I know there's no words That can help but I'm so terribly sorry for you I cannot comprehend what you must be going through. Utterly heartbreaking - take time to heal and look after yourself it's not your fault xxx

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yes it is bloody unfair isn't it getting used to the idea and having it all snatched away and your dreams shattered and it stinks and it hurts and I feel myself that those who don't deserve get everything and those who do don't and it bloody hurts as its unfair.

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I am so so sorry to hear this. You poor thing. Life is utter shit sometimes. Sending u lots of love at this devastating time xxx take care of yourself xx

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I'm sorry to hear , life is not fair at all. I hope you getting all the support and help you need. Sending you hugs xx

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Im so sorry to read this awful news,my thoughts are with you both πŸ’™

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I'm so sorry to be reading this, its heartbreaking. I lost my son at 22 weeks last December and then my girl at 11 weeks this July, if you need to talk feel free to message x

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So sorry for your loss so unfair xx

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May god make you a strong woman to deal with such a loss.. i am so sorry to hear about this 😭

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Oh I am so so so sorry... life really is cruel at times and I don't understand it either, not after all you have been through!!! We lost our miracle little boy at 36 weeks and I know just how you feel, I felt I had been cursed. Praying you find some strength and have a good support network around you, so so sorry for your loss I really am xxx

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Hope, I am so sorry to read this post. A truly awful time for you. I hope that you have lots of support around you, cry, scream, and do whatever stops the pain, even if only for a minute. Sending you a huge hug xx

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Oh gosh Hope, I am so very sorry for your truly devastating loss. My sincere love and prayers go out to you and your husband at this cruel time. Xxx

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I was so so sorry to read this and I’m thinking of you. xx

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this is so heartbreaking to hear. I am so sorry you went throw this harsh experience. Life can be so hard and wicked at times. it takes a huge heart to come out and share your problems with others and make them easier to bear. Just when you think there is no hope always remember " the greater the obstacle the more glory in overcoming it". this time will pass on and I truly believe you will be blessed with a loving family of your own that you will nourish and grow.I know its easier said then done but don't give up hope. take care of yourself love and have a happy life. I will be thinking of you today.

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Hi! Thank you very much for your message! Xxx

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I’m so sorry to hear this..thinking of you xx

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OMG! Such painful it is.

Hugs to you darling.

Yes, life seems to be cruel.

I am left with no words to share how I feel.

Before joining such forums I used to consider my life as the worst life ever.

What all happened to me used to broke me into thousands of pieces each morning.

But you guys are real fighters.

May you be blessed each coming day!

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This is an old post ; by replying to it means the original poster will relive the painful memory. Going through a miscarriage is a traumatic experience especially after fighting infertility ( I been there). By looking at dates can save distress to the original poster; I know it wasn’t intentional xoxo

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