Disappointing news

[N_M_10]

Just had the phone call from one of the embryologists...started off saying have disappointing news not progressed in the way they had hoped. She said 1 top quality and the rest a mixed bag. She then went onto say she wanted to wait and let another embryologist look at them on Monday and not book me in for transfer just now or maybe not at all. I am a bit confused why would she say that? I was under the impression I was only going to get 1 back in anyway. I was too shocked to ask any questions. She is going to give me a call back later. Thanks for any help and advice. xxx

[E_05]

Sorry you feel so disappointed but remember it only takes 1 and they've said there's 1 top quality one there. I'm not sure why they would say about not booking you in, could you or your partner ring back for some clarification so your not left wondering for the rest of the weekend? Xx

[N_M_10]

Hey. Thanks for your reply I know clinging to that hope of 1. She said she would call me back later this afternoon. Now doubting myself as to what she said on the phone as was so shocked when she said disappointing news. xx

[Sherry07]

Unfortunately I don't have any experience; just wanted to say calling them back to clarify stuff is a good idea. Wish you best of luck xx

[N_M_10]

Just had a call back and deffo have 1 top quality. Lots have fragmented but some are still dividing. She said they are a mix of poor and mid range. Going in at 12 on Monday and won't know until then if I'm getting a transfer or not. xx

[E_05 in reply to N_M_10]

Glad they've called back with some clarification, you've got 1 that's top quality and that's all it takes. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

[Tugsgirl]

Wishing you luck for Monday. Hopefully you'll have your top quality embie back where it belongs xx

[mupcake]

You haves a top embryo. May be they want others to catch up as well and then decide which one to put back. Sending you lots of luck and good wishes.

[N_M_10]

Sorry. I sound so ungrateful about the one top quality one. The embryologist just didn't seem to think that this was ok so really made us doubt everything. I was in shock when wrote my post. Feeling more positive after your comments! It only takes 1 so I'm keeping fingers crossed and praying embie makes it to Monday. Xxx

[E_05 in reply to N_M_10]

You don't sound ungrateful, it's hard to digest that news when your not expecting it. This is the place to write how your feeling especially when your unsure, everything crossed for Monday 🤞xx

[Hidden]

I had the same last time, rang me and said 'it's not great news I'm afraid' what kind of thing is that to say?!? I was gutted, if she had delivered the news differently then I might have reacted differently but she made me feel absolutely gutted, there's no need for such negative language, you can delivery a difficult message without using such negative language.

[Hidden]

Fingers crossed for Monday and it only takes 1 xx

[Sunshine09]

Wishing you loads of luck xx🤞❤️💋

[squidgy]

Never easy to be told things not running as smoothly as should. Bless you. I remember when I was told transfer wasn't going to happen it is gutting! Fingers crossed yours goes ahead Monday.

I am near to having my frozen embryo transfer potentially and in the info I have been given which is for any embryo transfer, frozen or fresh, it says they like to have at least 2 embryo's at time of transfer. Not for both to be used, but in case one doesn't transfer i.e gets stuck in tube or can settle in the cervical fluid. That way they have another there , a reserve, to use and not a waste of your time. It could be with yours, they are keeping an eye on the ones that are dividing to see how they do and what grading they reach so they know they have a reserve in case your super one does run into difficulties during transfer. As they also don't want to put in a low grade one, which again be a waste of your time.Hope that all makes sense as I am useless at explaining things.

Once again best of luck x

[N_M_10 in reply to squidgy]

Thank you for your reply. That does make lots of sense. Keeping our positive pants on. Good luck to you. xx

[squidgy in reply to N_M_10]

Glad made some sense x x love the positive pants!

[C_L_A_I_R_E]

I hated the wait for the embryo calls it's so nerve wracking!!! I would definitely take the positive out of this, there is 1 top quality! Hold out till Monday , do something nice tomorrow and go in positive. That little embie will have a new home soon x

[N_M_10 in reply to C_L_A_I_R_E]

Thanks. xx

[Fredaflintstone]

Finger crossed for you for Monday xxx

[TeamMonkey]

Hi,

I had a similar experience this last cycle, I had 22 eggs, 13 mature only 6 fertilised so I was gutted at that. But then a call day 4 to say not progressed as they'd hope none at morula only one at 10 cell, a couple of 8. Well I cried the entire day I accepted this cycle had failed! The next day came and somehow we had a early blast, and another not far off one grade b and c, by the time we got to transfer both progressing still so transferred both. Well I'm 12+4 today with one miracle baby!!! It really does only take 1 hold onto that one strong one xxx

[N_M_10]

Thank you for your reply. Congratulations 😀 We are holding on until we know what's happening at 12 tomorrow. Going to keep ourselves busy today, managed to convince my hubby to go for some retail therapy. xx