To go or not to go

[Emily7]

Hello

I am starting my IVF cycle tonight (2nd cycle) with Menopur injections.

Anyway am planning to go on holiday abroad with my husband mid September. If all goes to plan I am due to have my transfer around 21st August. I obviously really really want to get pregnant and if I am I don't want to jeopardise the early stages of pregnancy. Would it be silly to go abroad in the first few weeks of pregnancy?

Thanks in advance!

Xx

[bluewanderlust]

Hi, this is a really tough one. I had a holiday booked after my collecting as I thought I would be having a frozen transfer 2 months later. However, I ended up with only one embryo so had it back five days later. We cancelled our holiday that had been planned 2 weeks later and I am so glad I did as I am now 9 weeks pregnant. There are so many things you can't eat and risk with undercooked meats, unpasturised foods etc and of course no alcohol, smoking etc. I would say it depends where you are travelling to. If you were to get ill with food poisoning for examply this can cause a lot of harm during pregnancy. I was also advised not to swim, have hot baths, lie in the sun or get too hot etc. All of this does not make having a holiday easy after taking such precious cargo on board. It really is down to personal choice but my advice after going through all that hard work on your cycle is wait until the end of you 2ww and if it was sad news then definitely book to go away then. Good luck xxx

[Emily7 in reply to bluewanderlust]

Thanks very much for the advice, it is a tough decision. My husband won't be best pleased if we don't go away! But I agree with you to wait and see. We would only find out if it's successful a week before we plannned to go on hol though. X

[bluewanderlust in reply to Emily7]

I know its hard but I guess it boils down to what is more important to you right now. If you are really keen to go on holiday why not wait until you get back to start your cycle, that way you can give it all your attention xx

[lorraineb61]

We're also in the same position - we're due to go on holiday in the middle of September which, if this cycle works O would be about 4 weeks pregnant. W

I think it depends on where you're going. We're going on a cruise so very relaxing and nowhere near the Zuma virus.

I think it's personal choice whether you go or not. We're taking it as if it's positive then we get to enjoy 2 weeks ourselves before all the excitement takes over and if it doesn't then we have 2 weeks (all inclusive) to work out what we do next.

[Fredaflintstone]

We're planning two alternatives - if our fet works it'll be a trip to Wales for a week and visiting my dad for a few days after. If it doesn't, it's a big trip to China - got to have something amazing to help dealt with the sadness and planning it all helps me feel that my life's not completely on hold. I don't think I'd fly in the 2WW or first trimester though. Not after all we've been through. Xx

[Mariec7]

Going to sound a bit blunt here but yes flying in very early stages of pregnancy after IVF is not ideal. Breathing the recycled air, pressure changes etc

See how everything goes but it comes down to what you want and how careful you want to play it. Maybe someone else will offer a different option but my personal feeling is that IVF is hard enough on the body and if I got a BFP I would be staying close to home, relaxing. That's just me. Hope everything goes well for you x

[Hidden]

I think if anything went wrong ( not saying it would) you might blame yourselves. Personally I wouldn't go. I am 5 weeks pregnant and there is no way I would fly before 12 weeks. That's just me. Maybe put treatment on hold and have the holiday first? Ultimately it's both of your decision and you must do whatever is right for you. I'm sure women have flown short haul early pregnant and baby has been fine but personally I wouldn't risk it. xoxo

[Lilli79]

It's a tough decision but to me it would really depend on where you're going and whether you've booked it. I flew home in my 2WW and ended up with a positive but granted it was only an hour flight. If you were about 4-5 weeks you might be really tired and a holiday doing nothing would be welcome. If you do decide to go I would suggest staying in the shade as much as possible, don't do anything too strenuous and consider going veggie for the holiday. Our holidays are usually fine food wise, but we did go to Morocco some time ago and we both got food poisoning twice!! I hope you get a positive xxx

[Hormomalmess]

I went on holiday to turkey a week after my bfp. The stress of the 2ww and the worries of early pregnancy just drifted away.

I did have to be a bit more cautious about what I ate but I am really fussy eater anyway so no great hardship. And just avoided ice in drinks. I made sure I sat in the shade in hottest part of day, took regular dips in the pool and kept by belly covered with a damp top every now and then when sat in the sun.

I did have a bit of morning sickness but just drank loads of water and pretended the mocktails were real as if I am honest the worst part about the holiday was not taking advantage of all the nice cocktails on offer!!!

We knew when we booked that we might be pregnant when we went but needed the holiday badly so just went for it!!

I had checked with the hospital and they were all for it. If they had said a definite no then we wouldn't have gone.

I am now 9+6!!

It's all personal choice I guess but we went for it and glad we did xx

[kt_11 in reply to Hormomalmess]

Thanks for this. I'm due to fly long haul right at the end of my 2ww and some of the comments on here have made me quite anxious, despite my consultant having no concerns about the situation.

Unfortunately just not going isn't an option when it's for my sisters wedding and tbh when it was booked well over a year ago I wasn't expecting to be in this situation.

I could delay my treatment until October but the way I've looked at it (rightly or wrongly!) is that trying this time has a chance of working, whereas not trying definitely doesn't.

[TeamMonkey]

Sorry disagree with some replies. I went in my 2ww as was already booked. Was no issue. It's no different to eating out in the uk just avoid anything high risk! I'm currently 7+3 went abroad with my first pregnancy which resulted in my son so really don't stress xx

[Emily7]

Thanks v much for all your advice. I will see what my doctor says when go for a scan. We will prob end up booking two hotels - one in the UK and one abroad and cancel which ever one don't decide to go for and then book last minute flights if go abroad. I wouldn't want delay this IVF cycle plus have already started.xx