Questions to ask

[Dreamer0204]

Morning Everyone

So we are heading to Greece tomorrow for the first part of our egg donor cycle.

I have a list of questions to ask the clinic, next stage, egg donor pulls out etc but is there anything anyone would recommend I ask.

My mind has drawn a blank with out of the box questions and don't want to waste the appointment.

Many thanks

Xx

[Hannah143]

How exciting for you! It's feel very real when you're actually flying out. I had my donor treatment in Spain, and back out on Friday this week for another transfer.

My main advice for you is to get yourself super clear on the timeline of what happens when.

I'm assuming if this is your first you will have to do bloods and your husband can leave his sample which they can freeze (depending on how they do it at your clinic).

Do you know how many times and how long you are required for each visit? This is good to know in advance so you can plan with your employer.

Have you/the clinic selected your donor yet? They will talk you through the process and timings and usually will have a back up should your donor pull out. I think this is quite rare though so don't overly worry about this, they will have a process to cover this situation.

When we went for our first appt we went with a view to not signing anything or paying any money until we were completely satisfied. We were so impressed with everything and felt confident with the clinic that we signed and paid up, did bloods and sperm all in our first visit. That meant that the next visit was for the transfer, so all very easy.

Good luck and I hope it all goes really well for you xxx

[Dreamer0204 in reply to Hannah143]

Thank you so much. Yes starting to feel very real excited and scared at the same time lol

Timeline is my biggest concern and have to admit it's the first question I have on my list. Think with that and fitting it around work become the stressful part!

We have already done the blood tests (apart from 1 the clinic missed where we are) so just need hubby to do his bit. I didn't have to go over for this appointment but didn't feel I could rely on hubby asking or getting all the information needed!

Wishing you all the best in your transfer this week, fingers crossed for you

xx

[Cinderella5]

Hey, just wanted to wish you the best of luck! Hannah143 has given some good advice. Hope it all goes well!xx

[Dreamer0204 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you xx

[Hampshiregal]

Hiya Wish I'm thinking of something you can ask. I ended up having de here (looked at Spain as an option) and found the cycle just like my previous fet. My clinic is just going over to frozen and no fresh cycles for de, I've read lots of clinics seem to be doing this. Then they can guarantee there's something to transfer. Spain/Greece have such high levels of donation, I'm sure they wouldn't have an issue with the donor pulling out as they have to go through psychological testing and put up with drugs, scans etc. I knew that my donor had donated before so that reassured me she wouldn't do that to us.

I think I read on clinic criteria that as I'm over 40 I needed to have a breast cancer scan before I was allowed treatment in Europe. You might not be as old as me.

It took me a long time, two years, to accept de right up to the transfer but then straight after felt totally like its my body. I'm very appreciative of the donor but now it's part of me and my body. I am happy with my decision. Best wishes x