giving the hope

[Amanda94]

Hi everyone, I want to encourage you not to pity yourself and cry after each loss. of course, you may feel anxious or you may rest for a while, we are not robots. But if you really want it, you'll deserve it and it comes to you itself. God has given success to each, but not every is ready. Now I'm searching for cheap clinic and I almost decided between Ukraine and Chezh Republic.

[jenny34]

No. No, no, no. It is natural to feel sad, pity yourself and cry when a cycle fails. To deny yourself these emotions is to not be kind to yourself; it is important to let your feelings happen to you and NOT be made to feel that it's wrong to feel how you feel . "If you really want it you will deserve it and it will come to you" - I'm afraid that is not how IVF works. And God doesn't give success to each. There are those of us who don't believe in God also. Please think about how your words might make others feel; women going through IVF put enough pressure on ourselves, we don't need more.

[Jaky76]

What a strange post... I agree with Jenny 34 and actually I felt uncomfortable reading your post.

[Se99]

Totally agree with Jenny, I've just suffered a missed miscarriage, before this I lost my son at 22 weeks, this post made me feel awful! I couldn't have wanted any of my babies more.

I think it's best to keep thoughts like this to yourself as you are entitled to believe what you like but trust me every woman on this group wants it, cycles don't fail because we don't 'want' it enough or deserve it.

[London7]

Bad things happen to good people ALL the time (depressingly). I wish it were otherwise but the world doesn't work that way. Wanting things doesn't make them happen.

[Georgina78]

I personally don't believe in god and am not religious at all so it's very difficult for me to find any hope in this particular post. I think lots of the ladies on here will agree that just because you want it, that doesn't mean it comes to you. Our failed cycles and years of trying naturally is testament to that unfortunately and I couldn't have wanted anything more.

I understand you were probably trying to be supportive and to spread some positivity, unfortunately it's not as easy as that. If all we had to do was think positive there would be no one on this forum..