A sprinkle of hope....and then the emotions and fear takes over!

I've seen a lot of really sad news this week on the forum, so thought I'd share some news of mine, on Wednesday after a very long two week wait we took our test on official test date by the clinic and got a BFP! We cried and cried and cried and stared at the test for hours in disbelief after 2 1/2 years of trying and being our first cycle of IVF we never imagined this outcome! Elation soon turned into fear, and we've spent the past 2 days worrying ourselves for the next stage, waiting to get to our 7 week scan to check that everything is ok and is going in the right direction. Welcome to the emotional rollercoaster of infertility and IVF! We're praying everything goes well, but you just never know what will happen!

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  • Congratulations to you both, wonderful news!

    I know how you are feeling...almost too afraid to be happy, in case it all just goes away. Terrible, isn't it? πŸ˜–

    Try and take it a day at a time. I hope it's a happy and healthy 9 months xx

  • Thanks, I'm so scared! We've told our parents who have been through this journey with them, but so scared that at some point we'll be telling them it's not worked out! We're taking it one step at a time!

  • Right there with you! Told my in laws and my sister (who lives 11,000kms away!) and that is it. I wish I had the guts to rush out and shout it from the mountain tops, but like you, I am just too afraid. Fingers crossed we both get there xxx 😘

  • I can't bring myself to tell anyone, although we were quite open about our IVF very close friends and family knew right from our first appointment but we can't bring ourselves to tell everyone just yet! The support has been amazing and when it's the right time we'll share it with the rest of those who know but for now we're in this very weird bubble!

  • Lovely news, thank you for sharing. I needed that wee pick me up.

    I haven't been where you are yet, but I hope you can enjoy living in the moment as a pregnant mum to be πŸ’• Congratulations xxx

  • Thanks, it feels very surreal, the IVF process for us was all over within 2 weeks a very short protocol, we're still trying to process what's happened let alone accept we're going to be parents!

  • Congrats. We got a bfp back at the end of march and the wait in between scans has been tough. We had private scans at 8 and 10 weeks as my husband said I was driving him up the wall. (Well the 10 week scan was medical as it was part of a harmony testing package in London) The 8 week one wasn't medical in nature but it helped to see the heart beating.

    My mum says she never stops worrying about me so maybe this is just a way of breaking us in x

  • Congratulations on your BFP. My mum is very worried too! She's worried as I've gone back to work and my job is at times strenuous working with children with complex needs! She checks in every day to reiterate that I'm not to do any manual handling or lifiting of the children!

  • That's one thing I did do after the 6 weeks scan, told my employer so they could do a proper risk assessment and they ended up putting me on a travel ban for the first trimester.

  • My employer has known since we started the process as I'm a community children's nurse I couldn't risk working in some houses, they've been amazing and risk assessed me this week when I came back so that I'm not doing anything to put myself at risk!

  • Oh that's good news. I didn't realise they had an obligation to risk assess if you are ttc but when I was researching it it is clearly in there.

  • Congrats...one day at a time x

  • Congratulations - nice to see some good news. Take care & hope time goes quickly to your scan x

  • Congratulations 🎊... Yes sadly it is a, worry... But you will allow yourself times of hope and excitement too... As hollibob said.. One day at a time... Wishing you all the best xxxx πŸ’‹

  • Thanks, it's such a worry, the elation quickly turned to fear, I still can't believe it all!

  • Congratulations. Lovely news. x

  • Congratulations! Lovely news xxx

  • Fantastic news! We are having an ET tomorrow and I told a good friend of mine who has (unsuccessfully) been through IVF that I didn't want to get my hopes up and felt like I couldn't be optimistic. Her advice to me (which is hard to take but easier to give) is that if things go wrong then you will be upset no matter what. You won't be less upset because you weren't happy or optimistic earlier. It will suck either way. So you may as well enjoy the good news when it happens. And hopefully you will never need to worry about the bad. Xx

  • Congratulations on your bfp. Sadly I think this stage of worrying yourself silly is completely normal. Take one day at a time, deep breaths and try to relax. I know it's easier said than done xx

  • Thanks, it's so difficult to feel anything but worry, takeing one day at a time definitely!

  • Congrats ER12

    Lovely news.

    I know it's so difficult to accept each stage and allow yourself to think it's going to be ok but you can't change things and enjoying the excitement has to be better than constantly worrying it will go wrong.

    Hopefully the time till your scan won't go too slowly.

    At this moment, you are pregnant and everything is going to work out for you. Take care xx

  • Congratulations and good luck. Someone explained to that we worry about getting pregnant then worry about a healthy pregnancy then about a successful birth then about the babies health once a toddler about everything they might get up to and for the rest of your child's life you will always worry about them, let's hope that one day you will be worried about your 18year old taking their first trip away with friends. πŸ₯‚

    Allow those moments of positivity and don't beat yourself up heaven knows we have enough down times!! Xx

  • The next wait is definitely worse than 2ww. Just hold on to the 'walking on air' feeling for as long as you can xx

  • So glad to hear some good news! Congratulations - I can well imagine that the joy turns to fear quite quickly but try to enjoy it & take it day by day xx

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