Midlands clinic advice

[Nemobaby]

Hi

After our bfn just over a week ago just wanted to say thank you to everyone for their kind messages and support, I'm starting to feel more human and have the itch to get back to it all, having seen more Bfps (congrats ladies ❤️) is spurring me on to have hope again, af has been and gone and I need to get my plan in place to keep me sane.

We're thinking about changing clinics for our next round, we weren't unhappy with our original clinic but having looked through other websites they seem to offer much more, and as we'll be paying this time we want the best chance of it working, we have an appointment with our consultant next week to see what plan he could offer but if he doesn't come up with anything new then that will probably seal the deal to change.

I know we can't give opinions on here about clinics so would anyone be able to pm with any experience of midlands clinics? have been looking at the Care fertility group in particular, but any recommendations would be great

Thanks xxx

[72cloud9]

No advice on the Midlands I'm afraid but I wish u best of luck on your next cycle xxx

[Nemobaby in reply to 72cloud9]

Thank you, how are you feeling? X

[72cloud9 in reply to Nemobaby]

Not quite there yet-I'm normally a big talker but I'm avoiding all my friends and I've told andy I can't talk about it yet.😢X

[Nemobaby in reply to 72cloud9]

It's hard isn't it, just look after yourself and take the time you need to feel better in yourself, I'm sure people that know what you've been through will respect that. I've been avoiding everyone too, just starting to feel like talking to people now but have said I don't want to talk about the ivf, thankfully they're understanding, just have to get through this weekend with my parents though which won't be so easy ☹️

[72cloud9 in reply to Nemobaby]

Yeah I know I need to talk eventually-think I'm scared of opening my mouth while I'm so unsure of what I want or how I feel.i really don't know now whether to push forward and go the DE route or to just accept that it's not meant to be and start living our lives again! I wish I knew the right decision! I don't feel like talking to my friends about this yet or my OH sauna bit scared to find out what he really wants to.thank god for this safe haven where I can talk without crying & be understood.

Hope all goes ok with parents this weekend! Deep breath and large G&T should help a bit xxx

[Nemobaby in reply to 72cloud9]

It is great to have a safe place to get it all out and know that everyone understands. I can't give advice on de as I'm not quite at that point yet, but maybe you need take a little break from it all, live a little, have a holiday or do something nice together then when you're ready to talk about it you can both make a decision about which direction to go in, ivf is definitely a time stealer and brings a whole truck load of weird emotions that are tough to deal with but don't let it rule everything, I know that's easier said than done!

I'm going to need the whole bottle of gin to get through the weekend! Xx

[72cloud9 in reply to Nemobaby]

Thanks Hun, I might post later on & get everyone's take on the situation!im so 💩 at knowing my own mind!! We so need a holiday but I'm a dog sitter & I don't have a dog free day til October now which is a pain!! At 45 I feel like I need to hurry up already & know what I'm doing with my life!!

Lol have the whole bottle if it helps but maybe not all in one go!!😳😂 ps I'm loving a G&T with a slice of cucumber & a grind of black pepper st the moment since I'm allowing myself anything alcoholic in sight!!😩😂

[Nemobaby in reply to 72cloud9]

Ooh fancy! Strawberries in bloom gin is good 😊 I do like a disaranno and coke too, but it's like Dr Pepper and goes down far too easy!! 😋

I often feel like I should know how to be an adult by now but still have no clue what I'm doing! I have no career, no kids, but a lovely hubby, and a nutty dog and cat, one day I might know what my purpose is?!

Is there anyone you could get to help out just so you could have at least a long weekend?

X

[72cloud9 in reply to Nemobaby]

Ooh I'll have to try strawberries!! Yes I love a disarranno too!

I know that feeling! I left my really well paid job 2 years ago to get away from stress! I am now living like a skint student again with a house that smells of damp dogs!!😩Couldn't go back to the 9-5 tho!!

Funny u say that I'm just looking at diary now and seeing there's a couple of week days where potentially I could do something so thinking to see if oh can get a few days off and we just drive somewhere in the uk -at least it's a bit of a break from the mundane xxx

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I am just doing my first round but if I'm honest they all seemed much of a muchness when I was picking.

It seems on here you get more value by going abroad if your paying x

[Tugsgirl]

PM'd you xx