Embryos in gradual decline...

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

So I have had a call from the lab to confirm ET on Monday after EC on Weds. It's my 2nd round, and we only had one egg last time so it was put back in a 2dt. It's my first experience of having phone calls to see how the embryos are doing. So yesterday we had 6 fertilised, three which looked good, today one has stopped developing, four have fragmentation so aren't graded very highly and one has seven cells and is graded good.

Obviously, as we are all worriers, I am now worried that with that kind of drop off rate, by the time we get to ET in 2 1/2 days time, there will be nothing left to transfer!

I know there is nothing I can do and I know this is a much better position than we were in last time, but I just needed to vent some anxiety!!

[WeeMrsH]

Oh Lizzie what a stress! I feel for you hon. As you say nothing you can do but sit tight but I can appreciate what a long 2 days it's going to be!

We just have the one egg as you know and going for a 3dt tomorrow- if we get there! I'm convinced they will phone and tell us not to bother coming, or worse when already enroute (we have more than 2 hrs to get to clinic)

Sometimes you just want to either hit the pause button and live in ignorant bliss for a while, others you want to press fast forward and get it over and have the embie where it belongs!

Big hugs, Monday will be good 🤞🏼🤞🏼 xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to WeeMrsH]

Oh I know just how you feel. We make it hard on ourselves with all the worry, don't we. Even my ever-optimistic husband is a bit pessimistic about ivf now. I just keep saying to myself,"what will be will be."

Good luck for your transfer... there's absolutely no reason to think the worst, as you say otherwise they would have popped it back in sooner! Xxx

[WeeMrsH in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Our clinic doesn't check on day 2 or 4! They do 3 and 5 day transfers. So we would be none the wiser today 😕

Stay strong 💪🏻👌🏻 xx

[Cinderella5]

Oh jeezo, waiting for those phone calls is so dreadful! I can sympathise so much!! Praying for you but they must be confident or surely would have transferred earlier!!🤞xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Cinderella5]

Yes you're right. They seem sure it's the right decision. But they have to warn you that the embryos might not survive. Every time I hear that, I think, " but I'm not a gambler... I feel like I'm gambling!"

No phone call on a Sunday... not sure if that's better or worse...

[Cinderella5 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

I didn't have any embryos first time and because of that they kept telling me "if they don't survive" on my second round but at the same time telling me it was looking good. I felt sick by the day of transfer but they do know best....they're the experts after all!! Everything crossed for you, I'm sure it'll be fine!!xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Cinderella5]

I think they have to say about them not surviving to cover their backs no matter what!

[Hidden]

Oh Lizzie. What a worry for you. Keeping everything crossed that your main little fighter is a strong one and you have a lovely blastocyst to transfer on Monday.

I know it's so easy for me to say but try not to worry too much over the next two days. You've done everything you can now and just need to focus on you strong one continuing to grow.

Thinking of you. X

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Hidden]

Thank you x

[Hidden]

Oooo how very stressful after everything you have already been through, everything crossed for you xx

[Oakey80]

Fingers crossed you get at least one blasto! I found the wait for results after ec the worst ever and I only had a 2dt...it was even worse than the 2ww so I feel for you xx

[Tugsgirl]

I will keep my fingers crossed that you get one perfect embie to transfer 🤞 X

[tiger-cub]

I do get u dear . I never had great egg quality . So these days r d hardest. And I personally after 4 failed cycles behind me have become a pessimist. It's so hard to think straight . But try to hold on my dear . Xx

[Hidden]

I had 3 day transfer last time and they said my embryo was borderline. I'm hoping this time they take a gamble and go to 5days I think for me personally I want to try get to 5 days and if it fails on day 5 I know I don't have that additional 2 week wait to see if it's worked. i guess they must have reason to give it that bit longer but it is stressful and worrying at the same time. Wishing you lots of luck . I'm awaiting my call tomorrow morning to see if I go in tomorrow or wait til day 5. Unless I get any frozen this is going to be my last go. My consultant already told me it's extremely unlikely to work and wouldn't recommend me trying again so I'm kind of the mindset mine won't work even though hoping for the best and trying to remain positive xx

[Rainbow_86]

I have everything crossed for you!!! Best of luck xxxxx

[bibi_16]

I will be praying for you sweetie. Lotss of hugs and kisses. Xxxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Thank you all for the support xx

[Hidden]

Aww dear we all need to vent when going through this.i hope your embryo is the one and good luck with ET.just the other day i was venting about my own arrrrrrghhhhhh.its so frustrating with all the emotions we feel when doing this.stay hopeful and i hope you get good nrws today

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

UPDATE- had one blasto and one nearly blasto (they called it ugly... think that might actually be the technical term haha!!) put back today. I had to push to have the second put back in as it wasn't graded highly and the other one was graded good, but my age worked in my favour so they let me put both back.

I feel more positive now. Thank you all for helping me through a bad day xx

[Hidden in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Good Luck 🍀🍀

[WeeMrsH in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Woohoo! Best wishes hon xx