Just starting out

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2]

We're just starting our treatment journey after 4.5 years of being lied to & messed around by every 'professional' we've met. It's tearing me apart & has taken a lot of guts to even write this but as we're keeping it to ourselves any advice would be welcome. Feeling totally overwhelm & terrified in equal measures 😢

[Hidden]

Hey it's a scary yet exciting journey! Where are you in your cycle xx

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to Hidden]

I'm just on day 14 & we have our big quacks consultation next fri to have scan, discuss bloods & what treatment path we go down 😢

[Sez73]

Welcome to the club! It seems that being lied to/messed around by so called professionals is part and parcel of the medical industry unfortunately. But you're in the right place, lots of ladies all with similar experiences and issues who can hopefully offer their support and fill in the sorrowful gaps left by the so called 'professionals'! Have faith, it took me 23 years but I did eventually find one surgeon who was worth his weight in gold. As for IVF, I've travelled the world and had IVF at opposite ends of the planet and unfortunately it's always the same, so what you need to do is stand firm, ask any question whether you think it silly or not, and make sure you're the one in control and become as informed as you can as to what is happening and why. It's a long road with plenty of bumps along the way, you will get let down, we've all been there, but hopefully the road will come to a fantastic end for you. It's understandable to feel totally overwhelmed but you're amongst friends here, ask away if you're worried about anything as you can be sure someone out here has been in the same sticky spot as you may be in & can offer some words of wisdom. You're not alone. Hopefully starting treatment marks a new fresh start for you and culminates in a happy end for you. Sx

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to Sez73]

Thanks for replying x

[bethany2]

How can those professionals be so inhuman? I know actually what you're talking about as I am pretty sure every one of us has met one or two doctors or therapists that just wouldn't do their job properly. I understand that they have a lot of work but when it comes to such a sensitive thing as fertility and having kids... we feel pretty uncomfortable ourselves and yet some of us experience such an awful treatment.

I wish you the best with your journey! I think that if you try even harder you will manage to stick with the best doctor out there who'd help you and give you the best advice.

It is definitely scary to start but you should not feel terrified at all as it is better to "think positive". I know that it sounds kind of stupid but trust me this is your only chance to get through all of it without losing your sanity...

we're with you, any time you feel like giving up... come here and talk to us!

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to bethany2]

Thank you x

[emu2016]

I spent 4 years being told pre cancerous cells and being overweight was my problem. Only when I lost the weight and the pre cancerous cells went away and it still wasn't happening did I have some blood tests to confirm the actual problem.

Do not let the inadequate diagnosis and information you've come across on your journey ... it will eat you up.

Embrace your new journey. You're here now and it's very exciting; if a bit nerve wracking at the same time! I've had those feelings of fear and being overwhelmed - crying in the middle of the night because I'm frightened it won't work. They'll pass. I promise xx

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to emu2016]

Thank you. I hope so. X

[DC13]

Wishing you all the best at the start of your journey.

Like you we have been silent about our journey and that has worked for us. You need to do what feels right for you.

Everyone's journey is different but posting on this network opens you up to a lot of resources who have lived through the journey or experience. Who has empathy for the situations you find yourself in.

Do not be afraid to ask questions of consultants and nurses ask again if you don't understand.

There are parts of the journey that you can control but be prepared for other parts that you can not and you are on the hands of experts etc.

Good luck.

Xx

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to DC13]

Thank you. Means a lot for all your responses x

[ditsy999]

Its a crazy journey, just be open to how you will feel emotionally and physically. Sometimes it will take a toll. Just think of the end goal. Wishing you all the luck, feel free to message me if you have any questions xx

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to ditsy999]

Thank you x

[margy7]

Hey! Keep your chin up! No more tears! Now you're here, and we'll help you with our support and love! Share your feelings, fears and questions and we try to do our best! lots of love and hugs.xxx

[Crazy_Cat_Lady_2 in reply to margy7]

Thanks x