Applying to adopt

Hi all. Just wanted to let you all know that after much thought, deliberation and a lot of tears we've decided not to pursue any more fertility treatments. We've both decided adoption is best for us. Already I am so excited to meet the little one who is going to steal our hearts. Well fingers crossed we get approved!! I ll still be following your posts tho and hope you all get the bfps that you so deserve much love xxxx

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  • We wish you well in the journey ahead... my sister adopted and we are all blessed the little girl has become part of our lives.

  • Thank you x

  • You go girl!! Xxx

  • Thanks. Keep me posted with your journey. So hope you get your bfp xx

  • Aww I'm sure you'll make a perfect little family ❀️ best of luck with the process (I'm sure they've sped it up recently). You really deserve a medal for being so brave in your decision-making, letting something go is so hard but sometimes is the only way to pursue new horizons. This fertility journey is just so punishing and it must a relief in some ways to leave it. Take care and hope you have your little bundle in your arms very soon πŸ‘ΆXx

  • Thank you it actually is a relief. I just know it's not for me anymore. I think if we'd gone through donor eggs and it had failed I would probably have had some sort of breakdown. I am so excited for this next stage and so ready to be a mum. I'm prepared for about another year of a wait hopefully. Got my review at hospital next Tuesday so will wait for that then phone social work. They may want us to wait the 6 months and not apply to Feb tho xx

  • So excited for u as u enter this new chapter!! Please keep us posted on how u get on xxxx

  • Thanks so much xx

  • Hey mrs that's great that you have decided this. Soooooooo exciting and brave. I wish you all the love and luck in the world. Keep us posted as to how you get on xxxxx

  • Thank you vic. I was all set to do the donor eggs in Dec but when I had the pregnancy scare last week realised I couldn't do it any more. Lucky husband agrees xx

  • Wishing you all the very best re adoption. I am sure this was an incredibly hard decision to make and I do hope that you will post on how the adoption journey goes.

  • Thank you it really was it feels very emotional but I know it's the right decision xx

  • That's great news. I've read some of your recent posts with empathy esp as I think we share a name and (almost) an age. Good luck with the adoption process and sounds like you have so much love to share. All the best to the three of you ;)

  • Thank you so much xx

  • Hi katya38

    I completely agree with what you say. I'm only on my second cycle and feel this time much worse. If this doesn't work this time I think we are the same thinking about pursuing the adoption route. It's always something I wanted to consider even before I was aware of at problems. I will be keen to see how things go and good luck with it all. πŸ˜‚

  • Thank you moira. I will def stay in touch. I didn't even realise how bad I felt until last week when I had the pregnancy scare. I just know I don't want another year of this I just want to be a mum and I will love the child as much as a natural child. Just hope it happens fast xx

  • I think that’s great katya! I am desperate to adopt one day as I think it is one of the most amazing things that you can do. I wish you all the best and please keep us updated with how you get on.

  • Wishing you all the best! There's a child out there waiting on their forever home who would just love you to be their mummy! πŸ’•

  • All the best with your journey, it mustn't have been a easy choice but you are going to make a child very happy!

  • Good for you, this is something we looked into and still want to pursue further down the line. I have loads of info if you need anything xxx

  • Good luck to you :-)

  • Good luck. I've considered this alot and think we are going to try next year one more time and then apply. X

  • Thank you everyone for all the lovely messages it means so much. It is daunting the thought of what's ahead.

    but I know it ll be worth to get my own little boy or girl. Still going to our review next Tuesday just to see what they say. Will phone social services after that. They may tell us to wait until February to apply as that's 6 months after our ivf. Hopefully not just want to begin xx

  • Wow congratulations Katya38! Hopefully you'll not have too long to wait to get through the process!! Exciting times ahead for you guys! Wishing you both all the very best!!xx

  • Thank you so much. Yes really hope it won't be long in getting started xx

  • It would be great to hear your you get on Katya38! Please do pop in now and then and give us your update!

  • I hope it all goes well for you. My sister did 2 cycles of IVF and knew she couldn't face anymore. She adopted a gorgeous 6 month old girl who will be 2 at Christmas. They are the happiest parents ever.

    I started injections today for round 3 but I know I don't have much more in me to go through it again. I want my life and the old me back.


  • That's exactly how I feel it's all consuming. They were very lucky to get a 6 month old we ve been told it ll prob be 12-24 months. Just want to get started xx

  • They were told to change their criteria for under 2 to under 3-4 as otherwise they would struggle to be matched. They were then told that they were assessed as fitting the criteria to get a baby and were matched within a month. X

  • That's great. I'm really hoping it ll be quick for us. Where is it she lives? And how long between matching and baby going to live with them? Xx

  • They live in Hampshire. They had their final adoption panel in March, were matched in April and she was living with them in June. I do think they had to be a year away from ivf before being accepted but I guess that may vary in different areas. X

  • That was quick! ! Think with us I'd heard you had to wait 6 months which would take us to Feb. Don't think I could face waiting a year!!xx

  • I am glad you have managed to make the best decision for you both. I wish you all the best for the new chapter in your life. Let us know how things go. Xx

  • Thank you I will def keep you all updated xx

  • That's fantastic news! Some people we know said they wished they'd stopped fertility treatment sooner as now have an adopted son, they're so much happier now! Good luck, keep us updated! Xxx

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