Ahhh my head is literally bursting too much thinking going on in there. So we can’t have our own a few rounds of ivf proved this so we had a donor donor round we paid for the embryos to be pgd tested and they all failed. They were all good quality but chromosomally abnormal 🤦♀️
Do we do it all again the money the time the arghhh when it doesn’t work. When did people move on to adopt? Coz that process is not a barrel of laughs either 😢
Firstly there are a few things that spring to mind here (I’ve also just done a donor round as well with my sister)
Have you actually found out why your own rounds weren’t working?!
For us it was process of elimination and we figured it was my eggs, hence why we did a donor egg round, with my much younger sister.
Secondly what made you PGS test your donor embryos?!
I was under the impression you wouldn’t need to because the donor goes through slot more stringent checks then we do?!
Adoption not been that route, I know of people who have and I have my own views on that, not suitable for this forum
Hello its both of us. We have had a number of checks over the years. My eggs are very poor quality and my husbands sperm had low motility mobility and amount. We have taken heaps of different vitamins etc but seen no difference to any of it. Although donors go through a lot of back ground checks, like any embryo it may be chromosomally abnormal. We had 5 embryos so decided to test them to see which to put back but they were all abnormal. So we are glad we checked or we would have been transferring and getting no where.
I feel like you just posted my morning thoughts! I guess it’s a personal thing as to how much money & time and heartache you feel you can keep throwing at the process before you decide to move on to adoption. My husband and I have always spoken about adoption before we knew about any fertility issues so I’m wondering if maybe it’s something we should be looking into alongside ivf as I hear the process can take forever 🤷♀️
Adoption takes years in some cases, the hoops you have to jump through are unbelievable
Also you have really been handed some lemons to pay for donor eggs that were all abnormal! You would really expect that to be a one off rather than the norm x
Hi, it's highly unusual to get all abnormal embryos with a young egg donor but it's possible. Especially if the problem is with the sperm. Have you had the DNA fragmentation test done on the sperm to check if that's fine? I also PGS tested all my donor embryos when attempting DE embryo transfer. 5 out of 6 were normal. I would definitely double check the sperm before switching to a new donor. If sperm is fine, it's highly unlikely you would get a bad quality DE twice. If you used donor embryos (not just eggs) then I would try one more time. Again highly unlikely to get a bad batch twice. Don't give up yet!
Hi there, I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you. We had a similar failure with a double donor cycle (we got no embryos at all even though both donors were in their 20s, non-smokers and both had proven pregnancies previously). It was really devastating at the time as we’d already had 5 failed cycles of ICSI with my eggs. In our case the problem I think was with the lab. Our clinic stopped dealing with this lab abroad subsequently.
We moved clinic, used an egg donor agency as we just couldn’t face another long wait and chose the sperm ourselves online from an international sperm bank. We took a leap of faith and didn’t PGS test the embryos as our donors are both in their early 20s. I’m now 9 weeks pregnant and have had two scans showing a strong heartbeat. Given the difficult process involved in adoption, if you are able to afford it you might consider giving double donor one more go. It would be expensive but I’d be inclined to start from scratch if you can. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. xx
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