BFN We did everything we could

I'm truly crushed. We had a textbook perfect cycle and perfect blastocyst transferred. My lining was fantastic. We paid for time lapse imaging and embryo glue. I couldn't have been more positive on transfer day. That was the only time I felt like we could truly do this, that our dream was going to be real. We've never been SO close! But I expected this deep down. Even so it still hurts so much. I'll try and get my head around this and we'll pick ourselves up and try again.

I just want to thank everyone for their support and wish you all the very best of luck on your journeys πŸ€πŸ€πŸ€ xx

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  • I am so sorry to be reading this 😞

    Nothing I say will make you feel any better but I just wanted to let you know that I'm sorry. Let yourself be angry and sad and in time you'll heal and be ready again.

    Such a cruel world. You deserved that BFP so much.

    I'll be thinking of you. Take care xxx

  • I hope you get your bfp. I love seeing them. It fills me with hope. X

  • Thank you. That means alot 😘 xxx

  • I'm sorry to read this πŸ˜” Xxx

  • Im so sorry it's heartbreaking, I felt so positive for you too based on all your results. It's so unfair. Specially when there's not really any explanation . Hope your ok . Xxx

  • Physically yes. Emotionally no. It's hard to get your head around. The difference between seeing one little line or two little lines is potentially life changing and it just so happens that I only ever see one. It's so unfair. I don't know why it didn't work and maybe I won't get that answer. But I do know we gave it everything we had and will do again x

  • Ah no Tugsgirl . I was thinking of you early this morning when I got up. Sending you a big virtual hug xxx

  • So sorry to hear this, thinking of you x

  • So sorry to read it's never easy. Take care of yourselves xx

  • I truly don't know what more we could have done. We have a follow up appointment Monday now x

  • That's good your follow up is so quick xx

  • BFN are rubbish. Take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”Truly gutted for you honeyπŸ’™

  • Thank you x

  • I have been looking out for your post all morning and am just devestated to read this. I'm so so sorry. You had such a positive cycle . Sending you all of my love and support X

  • I wish I knew why it didn't work but if wishes came true...... thank you x

  • Hi, I am really sorry it didn't work. Just want to send positive hugs xx

  • Sorry to hear this.....

    This was similar to me a few months back...we got a BFP and few days later I had a MC.

    At first I didn't understand what I had done and blamed myself for it.

    But maybe it wasn't to be.....with the help of family and friends you WILL find the strength to get through his journey.


  • I'm sorry for your loss x

  • Thinking of you. Look after yourself. It's not fair xxxx πŸ’—

  • Oh lovely I am so sorry to hear this 😞

    This journey is so heartbreaking hard and doesn't make any sense at all. Sending you so much love and strength at this terrible time. I know it may not feel like it just yet but you will move forward and hopefully your dreams will come true next time. Take time to recover and we are all here for you xxx

  • That means a lot thank you x

  • Oh no I am devastated for you..sending so much love xxxx

  • Ooooh no am so so sorry babez this is so heartbreaking 😒 i was praying to hear u got ur BFP.. 😦 lifes so unfair x x x

  • So sorry to read this, after all your progress throughout this time being so good 😞 Look after yourself xx

  • I'm trying. Thank you x

  • I'm so so sorry to hear this, it really is a horrible and unfair process.

    Take the time you need to manage your emotions and clear your head then move forward once your ready.

    I really wish you lots of luck with the future. Xx

  • Thank you x

  • Oh no so sorry to hear this. This journey is so unfair isn't it xx

  • It's the hardest thing I've ever done x

  • I know people who don't face infertility have no idea how heartbreaking it is. I found the physical side of ivf fine but emotionally it's like nothing you've imagined. How many cycles have you done? Take it easy be kind to yourself xx

  • Just the one! But it was so 'perfect' I don't know why it didn't work.. I did find it physically tough to be honest but the emotional side has been downright brutal x

  • I think that's the problem sometimes it all looks great and still doesn't work. We had 1 ten cell embryo and my lining was perfect and bfn. But knew with only 1 chance was slim. Xx

  • I'm so sorry Tugsgirl - I hope you're feeling more positive again soon. Take care of yourself and some time out. With love x x x

  • Many thanks Mommabear x

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