Typical!!

[lou79]

Ok. Day 3 into IVF treatment and my husband and I are at a wedding. There are THREE pregnant women here, three!!! Just really dont want to be here right now

[noodles_]

Oh no... That's not good. There seems to be no way to escape these pregnant women, they're everywhere!!! Try to think positive thoughts as that could be you soon if all goes to plan with your treatment x x x

[Hidden]

Feel your pain but hopefully that will be you soon x

[mrs-kmc]

Its an awful feeling and you cant escape it but it could be you very soon. I try to help the situation by looking at them and saying they could of gone through what you are to get pregnant in the first place, you just never know xx chin up and try to have a good night with the hubby. Ivf is hard work so enjoy the fun times xx

[lou79]

Thanks ladies. I couldnt shake the negetive feelings tonight and was so angry at myself for it as I knew I was spoiling my husbands night too. Every where I went there were baby bumps! I have never in my life been to a wedding with this many pregnant women at it. It feels very cruel. Hypersensitive at the minute and feeling very sorry for myself, lol. Sorry ladies for the rant! x

[noodles_ in reply to lou79]

You're not alone and we're all allowed to feel sorry for ourselves. I broke down in a retail park the other week as there just seemed to be families & pregnant women everywhere. Nobody will every understand what it's like for us. The ivf journey is hard but this forum is proof that it can work and that's enough for me. Personally I try to avoid a lot of social situations but that's just me. Hope you feel a bit better today ☺ x x

[Kernishp]

I've always found thinking "Yes please, I want that too" is a good way of dealing with lots of bumps. I hope it's your turn soon. X

[hopeforICSI]

Yesterday in a get together, a lady started asking do you take those pills? Do they have any behaviour related side effects on women? And in one breath she went on saying do you think it would save from any "problem"??? Thus all she asked unusually after she knew I don't have baby! She had three. All I could manage tho say in awful awe was " do you say 'pregnancy' a "problem"?? And she said yes!!!!! My reply was " but sorry I can't be if any help to you because I am on assisted conception process!!!!!! ".....

I don't have words to tell you my further comments!!!!!!!!! Pregnancy! A problem! You need a pill and you worrying of any side effect on behaviour!!!!!! Ohhh God! I can't scratch away these echoing words!!! Help......

[Spongy]

Why is that always the way?? It's like you can't go out without there being loads of pregnant people.

I totally get how you feel but just try your best to remember you are already doing everything you can.

I hope it goes quick and you are ok today x

[Fordpop00]

No that feeling!! chin up, just think that could be you in a few months… positive thinking. xx

[Filmgirl101]

I had to constantly remind myself that we don't know the pregnant person's past or future. That may be their only child do to circumstances beyond their control, or they could have had multiple rounds of IVF. I had a lady on the train once tell me quite curtly that I didn't know how lucky I was to be pregnant. I flat out told her I did. And told her that until she went through 5 failed cycles of intense drug therapy she wasn't allowed to be jealous.

I understand where she was coming from. I did live on a council estate with tons of pregnant teenagers. It was difficult to see all these unwanted pregnancy and children. I will never understand why some people get lots of babies and others none.

Hopefully you're turn will be soon.

[Hopeful1982]

I went to a wedding last year where not only did every second woman appear to be pregnant but children were invited and all those women who weren't pregnant were there with their babies. It was honestly like a mother and toddlers group! I didn't realise how bad it was going to be until I got there and I felt completely trapped in the church. I got quite emotional during the ceremony which I had to pass it off as being emotional about the bride getting married!!! Cringe! x

[Bunty83]

I bet there are other people trying to get pregnant too, it really does seem so common now. I really hope your cycle goes well, I found the 1st week really hard emotionally but then I decided I could only hope for the best. We got our BFP on Saturday. It is a lot to go through, keep your head up and your heart strong xx

[Music1]

It's so cruel. I know exactly where you're coming from. Someone I know announced they were pregnant and due in November. My friends were buzzing round like bees discussing how wonderful and exciting the news was etc. Meantime, a friend who I discussed 'wanting children' with, now has a healthy and happy 16month old, who's saying "mum ma" every few minutes. She's growing up really fast and I'm still left wanting and with nothing. I sometimes feel like I'm grieving.

I don't do social things any more. I don't even do shopping as it feels like a punch to the stomach each time I see the 'perfect family', pregnant women or babies go past. My friend once told me I should "be really happy for them", but this was coming from someone who now has a 2 year old.

Whenever I go out, I end up often coming back angry and really upset. It's really not fair on any of us. I hope everything works out for you. Best wishes x