The End.

[Filmgirl101]

Our last treatment, ivf number 8, ended this evening. Definitely negative. We can honestly say we gave it our all. We responded better than ever, with better quality embryos than I have ever had, nothing could have gone better, and we are forever grateful for what we have. Treatment 6 resulted in a little girl, despite terrible odds. We had hoped to give her a sibling. But we will take one very loved little girl to no baby any day!

And can I say if I get anymore sex tips from the oldest, grossest, fattest people I know, I'm gonna scream???!!! I was informed my hubby and I might not be doing it right... And running into my old midwife, she said she thought I'd be about to pop by now, seeing as I really wanted kids... Apparently she missed the bit in my appointment notes that said IVF. And an old friend getting in touch, when I said 1 child, she said I was "lucky" because she got 5 and 3 were "total accidents". People just don't get infertility, it makes me crazy. Infertility is a very cruel beast.

I wish all you ladies and gentlemen the very best and that you at least get lucky once like we did. It's been a 9 year long battle. It never gets easier, but worth the fight.

[Miroslava]

8 years ? Cant imagine how strong people you and ur partner are and i am really sorry it didnt work more times for you .. Wish lots of love and health to your wee family x

[Lucy26]

I feel your pain. I have a little girl aged three and she was natural conception and now doing icsi as we speak all I ever hear is "at least you already have one!!!" So that makes it ok to spend thousands on Ivf treatment and my pain is less just because I have a child!!! If only it was that easy and the pain of finding out your husbands sperm is low and I have endometriosis all in the space of a few months!!! Agh!! Rant over!!! I love my little princess more than the world but for her to have company would be amazing!!! X x send you love x.

[Hidden]

Oh filmgirl101 im so sorry to hear your treatment wasn't successful. You can certainly say you tried your best. That's what you need to say to be able to move forward. Yes totally agree some people don't have a clue just how lucky they are to be able to have children without a fight. Maybe some counseling might help come to terms with this big disappointment. Hope in time you feel better. Take care lovely X

[herrys]

Sorry to read filmgirl thinking of you xxx

[pm27]

Really sorry to hear it didn't work.

Continue to treasure your little girl.

[Hidden]

So sorry it didn't work filmgirl. Thinking of you xxxxxxxx

[Hopeful1982]

Hello Filmgirl, I am sorry your result was negative. After 9 years and 8 rounds you have definitely given it your best shot and hopefully that brings you comfort and some closure. I think for all of us it's important to be able to decide when 'enough is enough' and it's time to move forward.

Insensitivity of others has been one of the most difficult parts of he journey for me so I understand your frustration. My own mum once told me I wouldn't be so upset at being unable to conceive if I had experienced morning sickness! I think she was trying to be humorous but let's face it, infertility is not one but funny!

As for the well-meaning advice of others. Have you tried..? Add one or more of the following options dished out by someone who conceived first months trying: Legs in the air post sex, OPKs, thermometers, billings method, just relaxing, acupuncture, reflexology, a massage, Bowen therapy, going back on the pill (seriously!), counselling, hypnotherapy, Chinese herbs, vitamins, special diets, a particular clinic, surrogacy, 'just' adopting. The list is endless! Some is helpful but generally it can all be a bit overwhelming!

Anyway, take care of yourself. I wish you, your other half and your daughter all the best for the future x

[Hope23]

I admire you both for going through all this for so many years. I'm so sorry it didn't work on your last attempt. It's so bloody unfair, tough and heart breaking, but yes you do have your special little girl, so you're right you can focus on her. But the emotions you're going through for this failed attempt still hurt like mad I'm sure

We had a negative last week. Our second and final try. It's just too much money, we can't do any more. When it didn't even implant this time I was heart broken. Not sure yet how to begin to contemplate a life without a family or being a mum

But you have definitely done all you can over the many years. So take comfort in that

Take care. And enjoy your little one

Xx

[Hopeful2016]

Hi filmgirl,

Seeing your comment for my post i was curious to know about you!

I can say nothing more to the above supportive and lovely comments except just copy paste all what those super strong women and sweet humans have already said to you!

I just feel your love for kids for several reasons, and that you gave in all that you could physically, mentally, emotionally! wish you all joy and happiness with your family today and always😘 Along the way just hope for a miracle, you never know nature might surprise you any time!