Age 42, been to GP, an update. Need advice please.

Previously posted: Been with my current partner 4 years, trying for 3 years. I don't have any kids but he has a son from previous marriage. The other thing is I'm 42 now.

Thanks for all the useful comments. Just an update. I went to see my GP, who did not know about the new guidelines extending the age to 42. She phoned up the hospital to confirm. However, she was told it's not likely it will be funded on the NHS, but referred me anyway. I've made the hospital appointment due in a next week.

I am really concerned about being let down, and I think I have been burying my head in the sand, and not wanting to hear any rejections, and almost in denial. However, this is my absolute last chance in the NHS, and I am 'just doing it'! It's bad enough with monthly disappointments...

Does anyone have any advice how to approach the hospital appointment? How can I help myself to improve the chances, and to help myself face any possible disappointment.

Thanks!

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Hi

I guess you need to mentally look at the various scenarios and what that might mean for you, which I think you are already doing.

I'm a bit confused by the messages from your GP as funding is linked to the local commissioning group, so they should be able to find out for you as to whether you would get support.

I guess you have to decide what you want out of this if NHS funding isn't available. Are you prepared to fund yourself, and if so, you will need to discuss wth them the options and what they think is best for you.

Have you had any test to check on ovulation etc etc. Even if you can't get IVF on the NHS, there are a whole series of tests that you may be able to get. This would then tell you the options that are available to you - IVF with your eggs, donor eggs or something else.

Good luck

FG x

[mrandmrsx]

One of the first questions the fertility unit asked was, do you or you partner have children. If either partner has had children you won't qualify for free ivf, but this could be appealed.

You could fund your own ivf. Which is around £3000-£5000. But go in there with a positive. There are all sorts of tests they need to carry out.

Good luck

[Cloudyrain]

42 is the NICE guidelines, most CCG don't adhere to these guidelines sadly. Also, in lots of areas having a partner who has children is a no. However, lots of areas are more open with general treatment (excluding ivf/icsi) like clomid, ovarian drilling, standard fertility tests for both men and women.

Have a look at the taking charge of your fertility book, it's quite useful and worth the money.

Good luck x