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Hey! Is anyone stressed about logistics of arranging care for another child while waiting to go into labour?

My parents are due to fly to be with me post 39 weeks which I am very fortunate for...but we have no support for our child if anything happens before then...I am 38 weeks now...

I've had other family members tell me when doesn't suit to go into labour! Speaking to me like I have control over the situation!

I tried to remain calm and explain that in an emergency, someone would have to support and help with childcare as I cannot give birth alone...

Is anyone else dealing with unhelpful family? Or getting stressed about these pre-labour logistics?

X

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Jane8412

I feel your pain. I am only 11 weeks with my second but I am already worrying about this! My family is in Australia and my husband’s family is in Cornwall and we are in London. We might be able to get people to come stay around the due date to look after our son but what happens if baby comes early?! My waters broke at 36+2 with my son and I was in hospital for 5 nights in total. Will they let my son come to the hospital while we try and find someone to look after him?! Gahhh.

I really hope you baby holds on for another week and you don’t have to worry about this. Good luck xxx

in reply to Jane8412

Ah that sounds familiar - thanks for responding. Was thinking this was just me freaking out!

Fingers crossed for you too that you have support when needed this time.

Xxx

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Thanks - you too lovely xx

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Jumpppy

Look up "sibling doula" specific service to address your need. We have no family in area (or really friends who we'd ask to be on-call...and we actually don't tell family or friends until birth day); it worked well for #2 and we plan to use same for #3. Found out about "post-partum doula" services from this search and it was amazing too. Our doula group allow us to shift deposit from sibling doula services to post-partum services should things change - they get the need for flexibility.

Good luck!

in reply to Jumpppy

Wow that sounds like a great service! Will look it up! X

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