Dreading telling people - post 12 week scan...

this does sound daft as I write this - my parents already know about our pregnancy, but as we are approaching the 12 week scan and various tests we all go through, I am dreading telling friends and extended family I am pregnant!

I am trying to figure out why I am feeling like this.

I already have a child and this is a much wanted baby, but maybe the anxiety about being an 'older' (42) mum is making me want to keep it more private...

I had to explain to my other half I didn't want big announcements at a family event coming up....

Does anyone else feel like this? Or is this just me going mad...

[Star241]

Hi! I am exactly the same I have told a few close friends and family and some of my daughters friends, it’s pretty obvious if you were to see me but I am still super anxious about telling anyone else, I think it’s because I am still awaiting my 20 week scan and I just want to make sure all is well as it seems like ages since my last scan, I think it’s pretty normal, I am also 42 xx

[Hidden in reply to Star241]

yes ok snap - glad it is not just me.

I am having the same thing as my size is going to give me away very soon.

I am a good bit behind you just 12 weeks and scan this week....

Well hope when you do decide to tell people it goes well!

X

[Star241 in reply to Hidden]

yes and you and I’d say just go with what you are comfortable with, all being well I am sure I will feel a lot more relaxed after my next scan and I hope you do too xx

[Hidden in reply to Star241]

thanks - your response has made me feel less mad!! 😍

[BecsRLofty]

I didn’t tell most people until 20weeks. Felt exactly the same. Started to tell friends about week 16. Got the 12w scan out of the way and had a few private scans, then felt more at ease. Until the 20 w anomaly scan was done, I felt it was tempting fate by telling the masses.

ultimately it couldn’t and wouldn’t have made a difference to the outcome but it’s 100% down to you when you feel ready. (I told work at 26 weeks 1 week before the 27 weeks deadline) I’m 42 btw too.

[Hidden in reply to BecsRLofty]

I will be the same as far as I can - some close friends it is getting awkward now as I am avoiding some social situations as I am afraid they will suspect with my bump and zero alcohol.

I have a few massive jumpers to hide from work too. I will wait until the last minute.

I am glad others are the same - I can't really relax or be happy pre 20 weeks.

Thanks for your reply x

[StarsAllAround]

hi Eb20, I felt exactly the same was terrified to tell anyone and had told my husband I wanted to wait till after the 20 week scan to tell anyone. He has wanted to tell people since we had our 6 week scan. Then we had our 12 week scan yesterday morning and it was amazing. I had cry and just wanted to tell people so went straight to see some family. Maybe it'll be the same for you once you see your little one at 12 week scan. If not don't be hard be hard on yourself just tell people when your ready x

[Hidden in reply to StarsAllAround]

awww thanks. And much congratulations on your 12 week scan x

[Georgya]

Hi! congratulations first of all! I was the same! I've told our families after the 12 weeks scan and I had to tell work. Everyone else after I couldn't hide my bump anymore, after 20 weeks scan. Some people understood the reasons behind others didn't but I didn't care. Do what you feel comfortable with! Take care xxx