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Hi ladies I hope you are all doing well šŸ˜˜

Just wondering if anyone else is in the same position, Iā€™m 19 weeks since finding out Iā€™m pregnant me and my partner havenā€™t had sexual intercourse and he doesnā€™t want to until the baby is born. Heā€™s worried it will hurt the baby which is sweet but I just miss that closeness. We do cuddles kiss etc xx

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Hi, Iā€™m 22 weeks at the moment and we havenā€™t had much sex at all, mostly because I just donā€™t feel like it! I donā€™t think itā€™s uncommon for couples to have less sex during pregnancy, thereā€™s so many changes happening. Have you explained to him that it wonā€™t hurt the baby at all and itā€™s perfectly safe? If heā€™s still worried you could maybe ask the midwife to explain that itā€™s safe so he has that reassurance? If heā€™s still reluctant to actually have inter course im sure you can find a compromise to get that closeness still :) it is very sweet that heā€™s worried about hurting the baby though bless him x

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Aurora20 in reply to ZiggyandBC

Hey, yeah I explained it all but he still wonā€™t do it šŸ˜‚ tbh Iā€™m not really in the mood (not feeling sexy etc) but I just feel like not having sex is now affecting our physical connection and then I start overthinking what if heā€™s getting it from somewhere else!! x

hey. My husbandā€™s been a bit weird about this too. Weirdly he was less nervous really early on but has been more awkward since approx 16 weeks and I think weā€™ve had sex once since then (and weā€™re now 37 weeks) we have tried another couple of times at my insistence šŸ˜‰ but we get started and then I get a bit tired/turned off. Im not sure if this is normalā€¦but I just wanted to let you know that youā€™re not alone.

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Aurora20 in reply to Rollercoastersmiles

Hey, it must just be their fatherly instincts kicking in šŸ¤”šŸ˜‚ Iā€™m sure thatā€™s normal I know lots of women during pregnancy donā€™t want to have sex and I donā€™t really either but I donā€™t want to lose that physical connection x

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