So close to new arrival

[BecsRLofty]

Hey. I’m 41. Had 3 years of trying to have my little boy and eventually succeeded after lots of tests through Clomid. 3 years later more tests, lots of failed Clomid and 2 rounds of ivf later, we are 3 weeks away from our 2nd baby. It’s been a healthy pregnancy but I’ve worried every stage. Understandably because it’s been such a slog and hard journey to get here. Almost expected something to go wrong the whole time. It’s nice to be able to share the good news as I felt guilty on the other group saying too much, as I’d had a baby before and so many poor women going through so much still. Hopefully these 3 weeks go quickly and we get the home birth in a birthing pool that we hope for! Due to ivf and my age they want the baby out ASAP after 39 weeks so keeping everything crossed they (don’t know the sex) comes early x

[Positivechangeplease]

Good luck Becs! I’m 41 too. But at 21 weeks. Good luck with your home birth - it’s something I’d like to consider but my partner is not so keen. I’ve also been told that they will want to induce because of my age but she said I can refuse it. I really don’t want that so I’ll do what I can to hold on I think but not too long. I know it’s not worth the risk in the end

[Emma672]

Sending you lots of luck for the last 3 weeks 🍀 I’m currently pregnant with our first after 3 rounds of IVF, had our 12 week scan yesterday and it was the most amazing thing 😊 I’ve also been told I’ll be induced around 39 weeks if I haven’t gone into labour by then as I’m 42. I hope your labour goes smoothly, you’ll soon have that precious little parcel in your arms xx

[Luna_79 in reply to Emma672]

Hey Becs, exciting times - I’m 42 and just under 3 weeks away from DD, though like you they are looking to induce at 39 weeks, so lovely to find this group as like you haven’t wanted to post in the fertility group as know how upsetting it can be, but so nice to have a support group who have had similar journeys and can understand the very lows and the amazing highs and the worries until those little bundles are safely in our arms - keep us posted with when little one arrives 💙💕

[BecsRLofty in reply to Luna_79]

Thank you! Interestingly my mid wife team are much less focussed on a pre 40week induction and seem happy to wait till due date. Pregnancy has been very healthy and straightforward (apart from the paranoia and worry) so I’m thinking of holding out. I really want a Homebirth which I can’t if induced. Keeping everything crossed for an early arrival 🤞

[DianeArnold Partner]

Hi BecsRLofty. Well you have certainly earned your Brownie points to have your second little miracle. Let's the last few weeks is uneventful, and baby pops out all nice and clean with his/her nappy on! If only! Good luck! Diane

[BecsRLofty in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you haha! Really kind

[kelsbels88]

Hi Completely agree about posting in the other group. It was always my last resort option as I knew how hard it was for me when I was finding it difficult.

Hope all goes well with the last few weeks 💕💕

[BecsRLofty in reply to kelsbels88]

Thank you!!

[Fruitandflowers]

Congratulations! It's lovely to hear when treatment has worked, especially more than once. The anxiety has been pretty overwhelming and I'm so pleased there is this group as there are so many factors and worries post treatment that probably aren't right for NCT but also can be upsetting for those still undergoing treatment, so you don't know where to go.

I was advised fairly early not to go to term and to be induced early - not because of IVF or age, but some bleeding and other non-IVF related complications. I think that's standard if there are any risk factors at all - e.g., big baby, gestational diabetes. They also said they could do 'sweeps' to see if the baby was ready. Now it looks like it will be a section at around 38 weeks. All I'm focused on is a safe delivery however that happens - and tbh I didn't make any plans as that way I figured they can't be derailed! - but I really hope you get to have the sort of birth you want. Best of luck! ☘️

[BecsRLofty in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Thanks for the reply! So true about not making too many plans. I hope for the Homebirth but I’m also accepting it could be in the hospital, birth centre or via induction. Trying to stay chilled is important but also so hard. I’m just focusing on holding the baby “soon” which I know is the only thing that matters. The irony of it all is my midwife asked if I thought I’d have anymore babies yesterday. I laughed and said if only you knew what it had taken to get to today. Honestly . Funny how such small statements mean so much to people like us.

[Fruitandflowers in reply to BecsRLofty]

Ha, yes, well as you know IVF is just a quick fix and if anything you need to be careful of having quadruplets... I've heard some very funny comments and misunderstandings about fertility treatment - no-one but the medical team knows we've been though it so I just smile, but yes definitely the 'will you be having any more and how soon' type comments are good - I have been suggesting I may want five close together just to put an end to the conversation