Coping after first IVF cycle failed

[Acoulson91]

Hey everyone

My husband and I just finished our first ICSI cycle, which resulted in a negative pregnancy test on Friday. It has been such a rocky road, I have a low ovarian reserve and my husband has a low count, low motility and DNA fragmented sperm so we both have fertility issues. At our egg retrieval they collected 8 eggs, of which 2 fertilised and reached blastocyst stage but their quality was only average so both were put back in to increase our chances of a pregnancy. When we got the negative result it felt awful like our world shattered. We were advised to speak to the fertility counseller that our clinic use but have just been told she cannot book us in for over a month as she is fully booked. This has been the most lonely process to go through and I just don't know how we emotionally move forward from this. We plan to try again but in the mean time, does anyone have any advice with coping and moving forward from your first failed cycle?

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So sorry to hear your first round failed, its so difficult when you have waited so long and feel like this should be the 'fix'.

It is actually quite unusual for the first round to work, and whilst we all hope we will be the 'lucky' one, its often a case of learning for next time. There are so many things they can change/tweak, whether its protocol, drugs, additional tests etc.. so just because the first round didnt work it doesn't mean like the next one won't.

In terms of advice I think everyone is different but the normal cliches apply. Take some time to grieve for what might have been and the lost hope, and give yourselves a few weeks off the TTC road and eat and drink whatever you want and console each other. Over time you will find that you feel less upset but want to get in control and feel like you are doing something to make things better - i.e. getting ready for another round. It is a cliche but it is time really that heals. But I wanted to say please don't despair as they will have learnt so much and next round could be so different xx

[Loraine7]

Hi honey. I dropped in to say I'm sorry you're facing such fertility issues..Must be tough as any other reason preventing us from successful pregnancy. I do not have any specific piece of advice for you as dh and I passed surrogacy. It's a completely different path. The point is that I've known for quite a time span we'd have to use this option as the only one possible. Dr dx me on heart disease (severe) years ago. I remember he added pregnancy for me would be life-threatening. Since then things turned upside down. Anyways, we're thankful the med stuff of one of Ukrainian repro centers for the sencere/caring/professional help. I know our stories differ. And I'm dreadfully sorry failures do happen at all. And this pains to realize that sometimes it takes more than one shot to conceive. For this very reason I'm asking, have you ever considered applying for multiple shot package? I mean so called ''guaranteed''? It allows you to get refund in case the treatment plan doesn't work.

Wishing you both more peace in heart. Hugs x