I would love to hear anyones experience

[Hugnor18]

I’m currently 23 coming 24 in September me and my partner have been trying to get pregnant now for the best part of a year (when I say trying we aren’t using protection) after getting our hopes up every month we decided to go to a fertility clinic. I had an internal scan done of my ovaries which were fine the doctor said he couldn’t see one but that it was most likely due to just finishing my period he also took my bloods and everything was good. My partner had semen analysis done and his sperm count was low and abnormally shaped so he said our best option would be to have ICSI. My partner hates the thought the he can’t conceive naturally and has decided to try change his diet etc and go for a re test. Despite all this I can’t shake the feeling that there is still something wrong with me I bought ovulation tests and have never had a positive one however I’m going to track again next month.

I would love to hear about anyone else’s story who is in the same boat with there partners feelings their own and and who has possibly received ICSI so I know what to expect.

[Same0508]

Honestly I wish I had time just as yours... Was married at 21 but postponed babies for career reasons now I'm 27...trying a lot. Sometimes semen analysis might be wrong at first checkup that's y it is advice to take once again as first time men feel uncomfortable and also sometimes following some precautions like semen samples should be 2 or 3 days old might be not possible. When my husband gave his samples we had sex one day before that which is not recommended but happened and hence results were wrong like mobility issues smtg... Wen he gave next time his results are good... You both have time since you are very young and no irregular cycles, you should support your husband and change his diet according to doctors advice..... Check again after 1or 2 months if he has again same issues then it's better to go with ICSI which is nothing but choosing the best quality sperm and placing it in you for fertilization. Don't worry patience is the key.

[Itsalongjourney26]

We had ICSI due to slightly low sperm count from my husband. We had other issues on my side too - low AMH which was tested when I was 26 and was never told until our first cycle wasn’t working at our first scan.

Ask what your AMH is specifically as I didn’t think I needed to (I assumed they would make me aware of any issues on my side which they didn’t and it hit me like a bus because it wasn’t taken into consideration when choosing medication and our cycle was almost cancelled).

As someone else has said, the only difference with IVF and ICSI is that they inject a single sperm into the egg in the hope of fertilising rather than letting a group of sperm do it. It’s in the hope of higher fertilisation rates.

I know my husband found it difficult to accept that we needed ICSI due to him (one test was normal and the other showed low sperm count) but ICSI is becoming more common of a method in other clinics abroad instead of traditional IVF. With this in mind I reassured him that maybe it is a blessing that a slightly low sperm count means we qualify for ICSI.

Anyway, the same cycle that was in threat of being cancelled numerous times went ahead for egg collection, we were warned there was a firm chance of no eggs on collection. They managed to get four and one fertilised and was transferred as a measly day 2 transfer. With that one I’m 20 weeks pregnant and had my anomoly scan on Tuesday. I’m 28 next week and if we didn’t try to start our family “early”, then things would be extremely difficult in my 30s. I’m very lucky we decided to try to have children while I’m in my 20s because it was a real struggle.

Being told repeatedly that “you’re young” when in reality my biological clock was ticking faster than most in their 30s was very frustrating to listen to. But our story has (hopefully) a happy ending.

Private mail if you need anything and all the best. Xx

[Hugnor18 in reply to Itsalongjourney26]

Thank you so much for sharing that with me! I definitely will ask them when we go again about amh levels. All though I’m 24 my partner is 29 and I’m also worried that after the 30 mark his low sperm count and deformities may become worse.

Congratulations on your little one it’s so nice to hear you got your happy ending x

[Itsalongjourney26 in reply to Hugnor18]

It was a concern of mine too as my husband is 36. I hope all works out for you xx

[Karinyaa]

Hi there. I'm sorry you're going through this. My story differs but I thought I could share for you to know you aren't alone. When we started treatments abroad dh had a low count and motility. Me - severe stage endo. 2 yrs ttc. Our 1st dr insisted we had to try IUI. We did but got no luck. Then a new dr told us ICSI was going to help, unfortunately it didn't. Then we switched the clinics, being short of money, we searched for ''affordable'' packages. This led us to BTC, Kiev. There the dr studied the whole med situation, she found serious problems with my own eggs and strongly recommended us moving onto donor eggs..We're parenting a DE IVF boy now. I know my story is a completely different one. But a big thing is to trust to a dr. And if you do have any of doubts, then please ask for the second opinion. Sometimes you have to dig deeper to evaluate the situation the best and not to loose precious time and money of course.