All I want is to let him die in peace, why do they make it so hard?

[nash2]

posted anonymously by admin

notes from caregiver

I am going to be taking him to hospital in a little bit to try to get his paracentesis done. If anyone has any pull at that hospital, PLEASE try to help us get him drained today. He needs to be comfortable. He is in so much pain.

The on-call doctor at this hospital won't call in his team after hours or on the weekend for paracentesis. Even though I called the department this afternoon, and was told otherwise. We are about to head home. They said he can try another hospital or come back Monday.

The hospitalist called the on-call radiologist and he said that he couldn't call in his team at night or over the weekend. My husband seems to hit some kind of road block everywhere he turns. I told them that he didn't have many days left but they still wouldn't help. It's the same hospital that suggested Hospice. I feel so bad for him. I would do the procedure if I had the needle. We still have the liter bottles used for home drainage but they took out his tube when he went to hospice. If he feels like he's up to another ER trip tomorrow, I'll take him to another hospital.

The Hospice nurse got him an appointment at the hospital to be drained but the earliest appointment they had was the 14th at 2:00 but he can't wait that long so they told me to just go to the ER and Hospice will pay for this one last draining. We just got here and are waiting.

The on-call doctor at this hospital won't call in his team after hours or on the weekend for paracentesis. Even though hospice called the department this afternoon, and was told otherwise. We are about to head home. They said he can try another hospital or come back Monday.

Well, his pain doctor gave him his meds. I asked for the same dose he was on at the hospital because he was doing good once they got on top of his pain. But his doctor told him that those Fentanyl patches are very bad for his liver and he won't prescribe those. He doesn't like the patches either. His pain doctor said that unfortunately, nothing is going to be safe as far as long lasting pain relief with end stage liver disease. So, he still has nothing for long lasting pain relief, only immediate. But, I had to put another patch on him this morning because he was in so much pain and his appointment was the last one of the day. His swelling is progressing and about to the point where he will begin oozing out of his feet. The patch, plus his lack of sleep & restlessness has his hepatic encephalopathy flared up. But he is still fighting. Thank y'all for all your thoughts and prayers.

[Millie09]

How sad to read of how badly there was lack of any help. Poor man , no empathy just passing from.one to another. What does it have to take these days?i was admitted 4 times with ascites. My first time i was tachycardic .very swollen tummy .legs and feet..so much pain yet i was given just paracetamol for the first 4 days as they did not have the equipment to do the parenthesis. Eventually i was drained and had 24 pints removed

The relief was soooo beautiful. Hard to understand if no one has had this done but so welll.needed